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Bringing up children a diffrent race from you?

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Ok my partner is white and she has 3 kids, 2 white and 1 mix. We have now got to the stage where her children call me dad.

None of them see their fathers apart from their grandad and uncle I am the only male in their life. I don't mind them calling me dad as I really love Sally and hope to get married one day. But do you think it's a head f*ck for the kids?

When I was working as a mentor for children in a school. I worked with one white kid and he kept telling me his dad was from jamacia. Met the dad nice guy. I thought wow why a weird situation, now I am in it myself how would you deal with this?

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As long as you make a loving environment for em dinky then it dont matter

at least you'll be there for 'em fella.. ur a top bloke matey

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Would never involve myself in such situations

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That is how I use to think, but I never thought I would get strong feelings. When I first met her she told me she had kids showed me a picture of her baby on her phone who was mix I presumed they all were.

So when I went back to her yard and I meet her kids the next morning. A white boy and a white girl. In my head I was thinking abort not on this Alan Jackson ting. But they are adorable.

Good thing is she lives out in the sticks so hardly any black people so people don’t look at me when we are out and think Wasteman, bounty etc.

I am Ok with them calling me dad but we went to my bredrins girl’s little sister birthday party. The children was calling me dad then. There was an awkard silence and my bredrin said Marcus turnt daddy now. I am gonna follow my heart and push love away because of my personal hang ups.

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As long as you make a loving environment for em dinky then it dont matter

at least you'll be there for 'em fella.. ur a top bloke matey

True stories.

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My dad is mixed but quite dark and I constantly used to get the 'thats not your dad - he's black' even though he IS my dad!

Kids don't care, I just used to say 'Yes he is.'

You're doing a lovely thing Dinks x

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No lunch time, but I am not joking this is 100% genuine. I have found the one.

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u brave than i am to raise 3 seeds that aint yours

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I hear that I would laugh at people like this 6 months ago. But actually going through this experience it's not a bad thing. If you love the women you have to love her kids. I know she is going to ask me to move in soon and I am still in two minds as I love my own space etc.

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wait so u have know this girl for 6 months, and u considering to move in with her ?

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Known her since march this is gonna sound like I am taking the piss. But you know when you have a keeper she is definitely that. some people get married after a few weeks.

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my step dad was white....

*takes a seat and awaits the genric bounty jokes*

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Boy you have got deep with this girl FAST

If you really wanna stay with this woman, and you care about her and her kids, you should try and be the best role model (and father?) to them you can.

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f*ck it, who says you have to wait years before you develop feelings for someone?

so what if it messes up in the end, will that somehow take away from the good times youll have?

what if it doesnt?

if you wait it could still end bad

so f*ck it, do what you feel like

but just know, these are young lives, dont just duck in and out of their lives, if it doesnt work out or whatever its important to remain a good role model, so show them you care or whatever and not just duck out of the blue and hopefully theyll understand

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i would say u moving too fast, whats the rush, take u time,

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Not involved !!!!

Kinda feel sorry for the children ina this mess though .

Having a mixed race brother AND a somalian dad when you are white :lol:

Can imagine one of them at the dinner table saying "mummy is daddy a pirate"

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you should be like a male lion when he takes over the pride

straight murdrer the yutes from the previous males and start again

(not advocating this though)

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Ok my partner is white and she has 3 kids, 2 white and 1 mix. We have now got to the stage where her children call me dad.

None of them see their fathers apart from their grandad and uncle I am the only male in their life. I don't mind them calling me dad as I really love Sally and hope to get married one day. But do you think it's a head f*ck for the kids?

When I was working as a mentor for children in a school. I worked with one white kid and he kept telling me his dad was from jamacia. Met the dad nice guy. I thought wow why a weird situation, now I am in it myself how would you deal with this?

sh*t jus gat reel

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my step dad was white....

*takes a seat and awaits the genric bounty jokes*

WELL...

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