Splitting the bill

[O Fenomeno]

A lot of fairytale talk in here IMO

How so?

[darkman]

Darkman

I am thinking long term. I rather work hard and be the sole provider

I own a place in Canning Town which I am about to sell by the end of this year so yes I am a homeowner already

I am planning to live on mainland Europe

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What man is stupid enough to have share ownership of the family home

 

Shared ownership is very common bro, surprised you don't know this

 

So you don't want your wife to work or contribute to any bills at all?

 

If you have a car that you both use. Will you pay all of that too?

[Benicio del Toney]

See how that women is already behaving towards Toney's uncle

 

That story wasn't about my uncle, unless you meant my uncle I was talking about months back that was having problems with the chick cos her name wasn't on the house.

[Benicio del Toney]

Darkman

I am thinking long term. I rather work hard and be the sole provider

I own a place in Canning Town which I am about to sell by the end of this year so yes I am a homeowner already

I am planning to live on mainland Europe

/

What man is stupid enough to have share ownership of the family home

 

Shared ownership is very common bro, surprised you don't know this

 

So you don't want your wife to work or contribute to any bills at all?

 

My dad's best friend had this mindset, he was baiding at one point, business was booming, things took a turn for the worst.

 

When he asked the wife to get a job to help out she laughed in his face.

 

 

Let a women get accustomed to that leisurely lifestyle at your own risk, they lost the house aswell.

[Fresh]

I pay the bills she pays me. Standard.

[O Fenomeno]

Darkman

I am thinking long term. I rather work hard and be the sole provider

I own a place in Canning Town which I am about to sell by the end of this year so yes I am a homeowner already

I am planning to live on mainland Europe

/

What man is stupid enough to have share ownership of the family home

Shared ownership is very common bro, surprised you don't know this

So you don't want your wife to work or contribute to any bills at all?

My dad's best friend had this mindset, he was baiding at one point, business was booming, things took a turn for the worst.

When he asked the wife to get a job to help out she laughed in his face.

Let a women get accustomed to that leisurely lifestyle at your own risk, they lost the house aswell.

I didn't know it was common

I see

I don't want her contributing towards bills but there is other areas a woman could contribute

Yeah Toney I agree there is no way my woman isn't going to be living the life of leisure

She needs to know how to cook/clean/support/have ambition

[TF S4DK]

Lots of people make the mistake tho, a lot with good intentions tho.

Women by nature like you to move out of YOUR home tbh, they aint stupid...

When you get a mortgage, you get a bank account, they will try their hardest to get you to move your money to that bank/account. If you get a mortgage with your girl, that account by default will be joint.

Can you see yourself falling into that trap?

Never.

[TF S4DK]

What woman is stupid enough to move into a marital home without her name on it?

 

I know a few still.

[TF S4DK]

My chick pays no bills in MY home and she's not on my paperwork at all.

 

We don't share a car.

 

We don't share insurance.

 

I pay for everything I'd pay for, with or without her.

 

I pay the council tax, gas & electric, Sky, internet, telephone, everything thats in my name.

 

She might buy food off her own back, and the odd bit for the house but thats it. She pays her own bills.

[Benicio del Toney]

We've been over this already, in reality marriage and kids entitles them to shit regardless tbh.

[O Fenomeno]

My chick pays no bills in MY home and she's not on my paperwork at all.

We don't share a car.

We don't share insurance.

I pay for everything I'd pay for, with or without her.

I pay the council tax, gas & electric, Sky, internet, telephone, everything thats in my name.

She might buy food off her own back, and the odd bit for the house but thats it. She pays her own bills.

+1

[Heero Yuy]

We've been over this already, in reality marriage and kids entitles them to sh*t regardless tbh.

 

Man think just because they've got the house in their name the female still can't swoop in and take half

 

[darkman]

My chick pays no bills in MY home and she's not on my paperwork at all.

 

We don't share a car.

 

We don't share insurance.

 

I pay for everything I'd pay for, with or without her.

 

I pay the council tax, gas & electric, Sky, internet, telephone, everything thats in my name.

 

She might buy food off her own back, and the odd bit for the house but thats it. She pays her own bills.

 

Would that still be the case if you're married with kids?

 

We've been over this already, in reality marriage and kids entitles them to sh*t regardless tbh.

 

Exactly

 

We've been over this already, in reality marriage and kids entitles them to sh*t regardless tbh.

 

Man think just because they've got the house in their name the female still can't swoop in and take half

 

 

Trust me, from time MULTI millionaires get fucked over in this kind of thing what chance do we have?

 

Porchy you say you want your woman to have ambition yet you don't want her to work?

[TF S4DK]

I'm not married, and have no intentions of getting married anytime soon, so no she can't take half of my sh*t.

[darkman]

I guess you missed the whole point of the discussion then. I'm talking about married couples

[O Fenomeno]

Half of my shit?

I mentioned pre nup somewhere

Ambition as in she wants me to do well

If I do well the whole family does well

[Heero Yuy]

Pre nups aren't that black and white in europe bro, if your building your dreams on that then go America.

[darkman]

Half of my sh*t?

I mentioned pre nup somewhere

Ambition as in she wants me to do well

If I do well the whole family does well

 

lol that's not really ambition then bro

 

All I can say to you is good luck but I think you may be in for a reality check later in life

[TF S4DK]

I guess you missed the whole point of the discussion then. I'm talking about married couples

 

I was never discussing with you.

[darkman]

lol sure.

[TF S4DK]

Pre-nups can work in this country, just lawyers find loopholes.

 

If you are going to go that route. My suggestions would be...

 

Get a lawyer to draw it up.

 

Show your wife.

 

Tell her to take it to a lawyer herself, not your lawyer either. Infact probably best that its a firm better than your firm and specialist in pre-nups. Problem is a lawyer with a brain will tell her not to sign it... and its majorly unromantic process.

 

Make sure she's had that meeting, then have your lawyer get her to sign it, and countersign that she has had independent sound advice and understand fully.

 

Should you divorce it will be then be very difficult for her lawyer to argue she didnt know what she was signing... and again don't mix your money ever. Don't let her pay anything for that home.

 

If you later have kids, well sh*t gets tougher as they have entitlements for 18 years and the mother like it or not is there real guardian, so she'll ride that train.

[Heero Yuy]

That is so long , just don't get married

[Yoshie]

I wouldn't want a chick living in my house only paying a few bills.

I can see why you would want to, but if a girl is in my home, I'm thinking long-term.

No long-term partner would move into a house talking about marriage/kids and not have their name on the paper though.

Actually, some girls would love to move in to a guys house where he pays for most, but that ain't the girl I'm trying to wife.

[O Fenomeno]

Pre-nups can work in this country, just lawyers find loopholes.

If you are going to go that route. My suggestions would be...

Get a lawyer to draw it up.

Show your wife.

Tell her to take it to a lawyer herself, not your lawyer either. Infact probably best that its a firm better than your firm and specialist in pre-nups. Problem is a lawyer with a brain will tell her not to sign it... and its majorly unromantic process.

Make sure she's had that meeting, then have your lawyer get her to sign it, and countersign that she has had independent sound advice and understand fully.

Should you divorce it will be then be very difficult for her lawyer to argue she didnt know what she was signing... and again don't mix your money ever. Don't let her pay anything for that home.

If you later have kids, well sh*t gets tougher as they have entitlements for 18 years and the mother like it or not is there real guardian, so she'll ride that train.

I will follow this action to the letter

I need to protect my assets

[TF S4DK]

That is so long , just don't get married

 

Exactly.