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It's about raising a child in an environment where they would have the best chance at life.Being raised by a chick who looks for attention, threatens using that child as blackmail, lies for that long about something that drastic, is not a chick I would want raising my child.In your situation, that bitch could be locked up for the rest of her life for all I care. As long as I can raise the child, she isn't important.

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As someone said before ive been this type of situation but with a link but she had an abortion but she lied to me aswell but boy just do best for your child and stick by with what your baby mums throwing at you sounds mad but try imo you got the right mentality i know a bag of guys would of just up and left

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dont contact her and see how she reacts she will either be more mature about things or f*ck offthen get the dna test simple tingsuntil the yout is born do NOT contact her againsimple really if you do anything other than what i told you what ever happens is on your head and i then cant help you.my babymother tried and tried and tried to use my yute against me and it was like punching a brick wall i didnt even go to his christening and all her family was VEXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXi told every one straight"i dont give a f*ck im there for the YUTE not for a fashion show and a pawn to show all her friends what a good baby daddy she got"football matches ME DEYAparents evening ME DEYAgraduation ME DEYAetc etcanything that seems like its about YOU and not just him GO ON YOUR ONES AINT sh*t TO DO WITH ME.

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if i were you i would try to focus on my life an career until the baby is born, when you can get a dna test.as it seems like she is saying she wont put you on the birth certificate, as a way of blackmailing you to get back back with her, DON'T RISE TO ITit doesnt make much difference, you can still apply for a parental responsabilty order from the court(if you are the biological father) and then can apply for a contact order so you can see him/heryour unlikely to get a residence order (ie custody), unless she is so mad that she will harm the child,keep the text and evidence etc, it will probably help your caseit should get resolved. i would just get on with ur life and try not to antagonize her in the meantime(even if she is provoking you)if i was you id be polite but detached if u get meshe will always be able to get miney from you for the child, so equally you have a right to see him/her

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To elaborate further.. I never cheated, paid half the bills, furnished the yard etc etc. She has no reason to be pissed at me for ANYTHING.I have got email/MSN/text evidence of her nonsense. Chick even had goons out to do me suttin, she's an absolute donut. But then I don't really wanna drag a child from its mum. I'm trying SO hard to be safe to her but as with all of us my borderline can only remain in tact for so long.Even her mum has given up trying to reason with her.
may sound like a silly q, but why would u wife a chick like that?
Valid question. If she appeared to have these traits from the beginning I would not have even linked her.I'm no niave one either... She played a GOOD game from the outset. Either that or she genuinely has turned into a loon as time has gone on.
me and my brother developed this theorymad woman syndromehappens when a woman, is dissappointed with her lifedeep still, she may well have been a perfectly sane 'normal' individual previously
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It's all very long.I was with my chick for a year and a half, all bless living together etc. I thought I was giving her all she wanted... Nice holidays, weekends away, part financing my other car for her etc.Around September time I find out she's not been taking her pill. I went MAD.A month later she announces she pregnant - Dun know the superspermspace.I said NOTHING to persuade her either way, she just came straight out with "I'm gonna get a termination"... I said "Cool, I'll come with you to support" ... "Nah it's safe, I'll go with mum".So she gets the abortion, comes home acting all injured and emotional. Cool, I do the concerned boyfirend thing and make sure she's ok.Fast forward to November... I've lost all trust for her after the above 'incident' and have actually not hit it since then purely cos I didn't even trust her to not stick pins through doms etc. I end it and move out early December.Now this girl owes me money, I'm talking grands but the asset relating to the debt is still in my name, I also left all my stuff at the flat we shared as I literally had to duss on a quick one before we had arms and I caught a case... So am forced into still conversing with her on a bless level.Halfway thru Jan she drops the [COD4] Enemy airstrike inbound [COD4] and tells me she still pregnant...I don't believe her at first.. Then scan pics start appearing on facebook and myspace. As you can see the girl is really classy.So I've seen her twice now since Christmas, she def showing so I have conceded a youngster is on the way.I'm 23 and earn more than good money.. I've said from the outset I will handle my biz and be there for the little man.However.. One minute she is safe, next minute she using him as a weapon - "You're not goin on the birth cert" "You're not gonna have anything to do with him" "I'm moving to some next NW postcode" etc etc etc. Now I'm cool.. I understand that hormones play a small part in how a pregnant female can act... But this chick is taking it to next levels and I'm close to actually losing it with random people over small nonsense. This whole escapade is having a dire effect on my life. I lost a couple of big deals at work due to the distraction at the beggining of the year.Whilst I try to focus on the positives and actually want to enjoy the excitement of becoming a father.. This bitch wants to make it impossible and is actually going out of her way to make my life a nightmare, yet she still insists she loves me.What the RASK am I to do?PS A DNA test will be done REGARDLESS just cos it's 2008 out here.
oh hai good luck with your new daughter you can name her clamidia
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dont contact her and see how she reacts she will either be more mature about things or f*ck offthen get the dna test simple tingsuntil the yout is born do NOT contact her againsimple really if you do anything other than what i told you what ever happens is on your head and i then cant help you.my babymother tried and tried and tried to use my yute against me and it was like punching a brick wall i didnt even go to his christening and all her family was VEXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXi told every one straight"i dont give a f*ck im there for the YUTE not for a fashion show and a pawn to show all her friends what a good baby daddy she got"football matches ME DEYAparents evening ME DEYAgraduation ME DEYAetc etcanything that seems like its about YOU and not just him GO ON YOUR ONES AINT sh*t TO DO WITH ME.
Real talk... I've already experimented with the ignoring her thing and it does keep her in line.However in my eyes (ignorant seeing as this is my first child) I feel that stuff needs to be discussed - Her welfare during the pregnancy, plans for splitting the looking after when he's born, money etcI'm a forward thinker, I can't sit till June without planning. I just bought a yard, I haven't got as much spare cash around as before, it's not a joke out here.On that point does anyone know how CSA is calculated? Is it based solely on earnings or do they take into account your existing financial commitments?Safe though FACE OFF, that's exactly what I plan to do... be there for HIM, not for her.
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dont contact her and see how she reacts she will either be more mature about things or f*ck offthen get the dna test simple tingsuntil the yout is born do NOT contact her againsimple really if you do anything other than what i told you what ever happens is on your head and i then cant help you.my babymother tried and tried and tried to use my yute against me and it was like punching a brick wall i didnt even go to his christening and all her family was VEXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXi told every one straight"i dont give a f*ck im there for the YUTE not for a fashion show and a pawn to show all her friends what a good baby daddy she got"football matches ME DEYAparents evening ME DEYAgraduation ME DEYAetc etcanything that seems like its about YOU and not just him GO ON YOUR ONES AINT sh*t TO DO WITH ME.
Real talk... I've already experimented with the ignoring her thing and it does keep her in line.However in my eyes (ignorant seeing as this is my first child) I feel that stuff needs to be discussed - Her welfare during the pregnancy, plans for splitting the looking after when he's born, money etcI'm a forward thinker, I can't sit till June without planning. I just bought a yard, I haven't got as much spare cash around as before, it's not a joke out here.On that point does anyone know how CSA is calculated? Is it based solely on earnings or do they take into account your existing financial commitments?Safe though FACE OFF, that's exactly what I plan to do... be there for HIM, not for her.
bro you really seem quite intelligant and you got your head screwed on its hard to think from the way you are talking that you got caught slipping and got yourself into this situation?im not trying to critisize its just an observation
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Fair comment family...Like I said before, she played a good game and/or was actually level headed when we started out. But she had insecurity issues from morning, thinking I was checkin a next girl etc - which I never was.Serious I treat her good, took her abroad for every birthday, them ones there. Only thing she could diss me about was my contribution to the housework.From when I been with her for over a year, I should be able to trust her word that she is takin her pill I lie? I still got caught slipping but I'm a karma abiding guy... It'll come back to bite her some day.Makes you not want to put trust in ANYONE on this planet swear down.She just makes me MAD with the threat talk... Got a text earlier "I hate you so much"FOR WHAT YOU f*ckIN CLOWNI need to get a boxing bag to take out my frustration cos I can feel my usual cool head sliding and me whiling out on someone for the minorest of infringements.

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a year is still too early to be trusting matethem insecure ones there are deadly as ive learned also.I really do feel for you though coz it makes me think that it could happen to me if im not careful even though I beleive im smarter than that from day its happened to you and im not gonna sit here and say im smarter than youalso she sounds young which I hope is not the case so that she can hopefully apply some maturity into the situation when it really counts coz really and truely your playing cat and mouse with a childs life here and care + respect needs to be excercised in situations like thisall the best

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