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Dont like being involved in a circleseen how people stayrather keep myself to myself and just have individual friends from diff places
yeah?surely you've got more than 1 friend from the same place / that are friends with each otheri kinda see what your saying but having friends being friends can be sick
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i aint saying you have to be friends, but know how to use ppl to your advantage...the bigger the circle, the more connections you have
truefriends close enemies closer is another one i follow. theres certain people that i have connections with that i really dont like but they dont deserve to know, so when i see them, its all 'how you doin mate?' etc coz they mite come in handy at some point
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i could go on a very long babble about how i switched up my circle, but im gonna keep it briefhung with the same guys from when i was about 9 till about 18 our group grew from 4 of us at primary school, to about 12 in secondary and up again to 16 regulars in college. the whole group dynamic changed, there was real competition for approval from everyone else, and a hierarchy started to from. i had a very slight disagreement with 2 others from our original group who were at top of this hierarchy, then over the next week all of the rest of the group seemed to be giving me sh*t, (not banter)wasnt really feeling the whole brown noseing and hierarchy and started to break away, then went to france for 3 months and when i came back and made contact with all my mates, i just saw how little we had in common and i had little motivation to get back into favor. did leave me with out a circle for a little bit, but i always had other mates to go out with, but never really broke fully into their groupes etiher.i went back out to france to work for 6 months and really found myself, and since coming back ive got a new circle, there is no status with this group, just some wicked peoplebut if you ever think u need to switch up who you are around, you have to do it. its not good for you to hang about people u cant be your self around, especially when they are your 'friends'. my old group suppressed the better parts of me while i tried to fit in.

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Dont like being involved in a circleseen how people stayrather keep myself to myself and just have individual friends from diff places
yeah?surely you've got more than 1 friend from the same place / that are friends with each otheri kinda see what your saying but having friends being friends can be sick
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Mines shrunk at a rate of like one person every year but now its at a health 6 I think its the right balanceHave a fluid pass and move system whereby everyone has a partner all can associate together, it looks mad awkward when people are in groups and some of them don't even talk and everyone It grew from high school, drafted in couple specialists from college and dropped couple man to the bench but keep on speed dial for one someone drops out, lost one to prison and one to religion (life is funny at times)Sure every circle has a similar make upGot the one gassed one who will get into random altercations off ends and have you driving home expecting to get your back screen smashed through or see blue rights. He's calmed down a bit recently but he's still the Ballotelli of the groupThen you got the long term relationship guy who works part time and is subbed when it comes to road trips out of respect for his relationship. The one club man Ryan Giggs off the groupThen you got the one who is there but people just dont seem to notice him is at the back of pictures blocked by the rest of us but is happy to play the water carrier Darren Fletcher role, has his man of the match performance every few months and contributes to the banter but people outside the group are not over familiar with him (I put it down to being in a long term relationship during late high school and early uni meaning he missed out on being socialable) Then the guy who will make everyone laugh at anything, the messi of the group can make something out of nothingAnd finally the slag, blacklisted by girls and has a full time job finding new links and groups for everyone to merge with and get bbq and gatherings offOne of my boys kept a notebook over the years and kept it secret until couple weeks ago when I got back to the country had a little gathering and read over it was in tearsAlso have a no tolerance over snaking, you don't get a second chance and differences are sorted by talking it out, >>>>>>> People who stand their and watch their friends fightBeing a kid/teen >>>>>>Its just not the same anymore for the children growing up so much danger and restrictions out there for them, schools sound like prisons nowadaysDrop some stories....You ever had your contract terminated from your circle or seeked a transfer from another one?I know Ice, colin, goli etc got some storiesDrop erm :D

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What bonds you ethnicity? area?
Yea algerian and moroccan so i guess ethnicity and religion.The only non north african friends i got are either from school, college or team mates but theyre more acquaintances these days, older i get the less sociable i get.
Ah okInterestingAlways wondered in multicultural circles how the people with a non ethnic or cultural bond are integrated in other familes when it comes to family parties and eating food etc
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Just my secondary school dons (1 i known from primary)I would say.... I was the one that made nikkas laugh I guess, would say this was due to my laid back attitude to mostly everything.... i dunno weird rating myself like that lol I don't really know; Cipher holla braah.But I am also defiantly the one you can confide in and it would go no further, I won't judge or anything.Erm, we almost all got long terms girls now... there is an understanding if you don't see/hear from man or can't make certain things so it's all good like that.

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My tightest boy moved to South and just had his first son, the distance has left me more reliant on others in the circle. When me and my boy do link up, we always anticipate making it a big deal, this sometimes leads to an anti-climax. However we have known each other since dot thus formed a mutual understanding that whatever distance & circumstances come between us... I hold the second in command in almost as high regard as my tightest, however my third in command is his brother and my fourth in command is his third... Which leaves me at least fourth in his list. (confusing I know). They all live within yards & I live 15 min walk from them all. Given this, they have their own understanding of convenience. As a result I'm distant from everyone!____Some of the people I regard associates, some of my circle might regard as friends & vice versa.Personalities include a Money&music industry guy / A whipped guy / A weed head / Smart dude, obsessed with collecting exclusive clothes, shops 3 times a week etc. Swagger don. / Regular guy.Group includes: Mixed race / Mixed race / Ghanaian / Ghanaian / GuyaneseAll have of which have a 9-5 & a woman...Associates to me but friends to friends are; Semi-pro baller,serial raver,womanist,bait guy who will chat your business / A "rapper" / A "Promoter".Group incluses: Mixed race / Mixed (Jamaican&Nigerian) / BarbadianAll of which are single, all of which attend Uni...

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My cousins are My friends.Their friends are not my friends I refuse them to be so apart from my cousins there is ex-team mates/potential new team mates(which are classed as work colleagues)

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6 of us3 affs3 carribsAll from school bar one who has lived one floor above another in the circle for all there life.2 of them are my tight tight boys that come to my yard etc, the rest is just a raving/football/free yard sorta ting.1 of them is expecting twins next year so could be the first to properly come out the scene(raving/holidays etc) so we'll see what happends from there.

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My gang has shrunk ridiculously...Used to be 6/7 of us, rolled as a pretty tight unit, one guy I went to college with, his brother and then a few people that got picked up along the way. We've all drifted apart now quite a bit after university with us all working/being in relationships etc but we see each other occasionally and it's all good- never awkward. The group's not very diverse (in terms of race), they're all Ghanaian but that's never been an issue, they're mum (guy from college and his brother) is like my second mum, to the extent that she used to buy me football boots when she got some for them etc so that's all good.Nowadays it's really just my missus and my family, I see a couple man from uni a few times a year for a drink and a catch up but I work so much that any free time I do have is generally spent with the other half (or playing cricket - my cricket team are becoming a good set of pals too).And obviously I count all you lot as my BFF's.That's life I guess.

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I have quite a few real circles. My cousins are a ride or die one. To the end, for people from our background we've done and seen some things that a lot of people would die to experience. Two of my boys I grew up with in manny that I'm still close with I also count as ride or die. Don't see them that much but always get the occasional call/text and we linkup when we're all about. Then there's my uni circle of boys who are all working now. We are still tight, go for drinks after work, raving etc. There's 7 of them who I regularly see and would go out of my way to help. I suppose I should count my gf as one as well. Everyone else is an associate/colleague etc.It's f*cked how many people disappear from your life as you get older. Also a biy mad when you bump into people you've had no contact with.

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I was gonna say 'my circle is tight' but to be honest I am just not happy with how a lot of people are moving so I only check them from time to time. They are still good friends but...people just arent on the same wavelength any more. I guess we have less in common than we used to...- some guys have girlfriends so dont wanna go out much- some guys take a lot of drugs and just wanna get out of their face all the time- some guys smoke loads of weed so they dont wanna go anywhere - some guys are broke so they CANT do as much as they want to - some guys are too busy with their careers so they dont have TIMEThen theres also people who have moved away to study / workAs a result my circle is quite small - 1 guy im closest to - 4 or 5 in the main circle that i chill with regularly (which inclues my music heads) - then the old circles of uni/school etc

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