blackmagic
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whos a fuck boy and whos chaps?are you gonna be a f*ck boy all your life chaps?
Its not his kid.
Hes taking it too far with that adoption talk.
Too many man wanna be superman.
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Just had a look at the website and it does him no favours at all .
the way he only uses information that suits his agenda makes me wonder if he did do it
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Never sh*t on your own door step.
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under normal circumstances rapist do not deserve a second chance.
especially not as a footballer.
im currently 70"30 in favour of him not doing it though.
It seems like this was a case of a bad value of judgment on his part.i,e treated a drunk slag like a slag which pretty much all of us has done in the past which he shouldnt be doing at his age none the less..
If he did do it though hope he rots
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Yeah so im in this situation
Back story -
Met my missus, she has a 2 yr old daughter + father not on the scene. I am in a dilemma. What do?
Most guys would walk away and I totally understand why...me on the other hand, I made a decision....
Further back story -
Was going through strange time in my life...Broke up with my then ex and lived a crazy wild life for about a year after that smashing chicks left right and centre (not literally) but then decided that wasn't really doing anything for me. So I stopped and became celibate, which was a semi conscious decision but I was adamant that I would rather get into a relationship and have sex rather than f*ck about so the fact that I went without it for so long was probably because I couldn't find the right female as apposed to not getting any because I forced myself not to
Anyway when my missus came onto the scene I was in a dilema. I finally found someone who I got on with and could see a future with.... but at a price. The question I had to ask myself was do I walk away or do I go ahead....
Thing about me is though I am one of them calculative kinda guys, I am a control freak by nature and I never enter a situation without considering 'x' implications or without thinking about what could possibly happen in the future. So I knew full well, if I was going to go ahead with this lady then im in it for the long run.... All baggage included! Finally with careful consideration I did.
To cut a long story short. 7 years later I am a happily married man and I was very fortunate that a few years back I was able to legally adopt my daughter without any complications and I have another son (with her) and another on the way.
My relationship with my daughter is solid and is on the same par as my son. I consider them equals and the funny thing is, before I saw this thread (bless you imhim) I had completely forgot that we are not related by blood.
I will probably adopt again in the future once I get a bigger house, I definitely am a guy that lives for his children, for me its the greatest pleasure of my life.
However in saying that, if anybody were in a similar situation and were to ask for my advice then I would firmly advise against it. It can get very complicated and I have been truly blessed that there haven't been any complications (related to the father side) which is very rare I suppose.
Also it is very difficult to adjust to in the beginning, and unless you and the female are willing to compromise then forget it.
You also have to be objective and consider why she became a single parent in the first place, unfortunately the reality of the situation is that there are a lot of males out there that are not stepping up to the plate and a lot of naive females and this is a bad combination which is contributing to the ever growing trend of single parents and broken families in general (but that is a separate debate)
In any case, to answer OP's question. Am I the ultimate sideman? lol...I dunno, but what I do know is that I am happy with my situation and I wouldn't change it for anything. I will go as far to say that it does take a type of person to be able to handle this kind of situation and im exactly that type of guy. Like I said before I am a calculative person so that means I am patient, tolerant and persistent. On the flip side though I am very stern and would never settle for less
Would also like to put it out there that I had a lot of good people around me at the time to give me a lot of solid advice and for every negative reaction I got, there was someone to help me see things clearly and not base my decisions on meaningless pride or other negative things. On the same note hold tight Smaddy who was one of those I could confide in at the time who helped me with some positive advice
Funny thing is, people seem to have a set formula in life of how things should pan or how life works, but are the same people still living on level 1 living a life of excuses and procrastination. Sometimes in life you need to be able to make bold decisions for it to pay dividends and that's how I live mine. So far this has worked well for me and my life has far exceeded any expectations that I had, and I feel like I have only just started!
Please excuse the wall of text for those that bothered to read it all, I am not really one to delve into my personal life too much on here but I felt compelled to tell my story
thats not your daughter though.
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putting on rap always wins for me.
That 90s gangsta shit though.
Mobb deep,biggie,dmx etc.
Aint got no time for slowjams whatsoever.
Should Ched Evans, previously convicted of rape, be allowed to play professional football again?
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I think his biggest mistake was focusing on finding a team before he cleared his name.
The first thing he should have done before he even thought about playing football was go through the appeal process imo.
Hopefully he realises this because there will be no more kicking ball until the conviction is overturned