from a female perspective - im not with my daughters dad and he hasnt even seen her for years, and when i met my ex it was a while before i introduced them to eachother even though she was only small, and i never forced the 'daddy' role on him it just came naturally,and even though we arent together anymore he still sees her occasionally. my child knows who her dad is, well in the way that she has a photo of him as she is too young for any kind of questions yet, and if any man doesnt feel he can be in a relationship with me because of my child then its no bother to me, just means he isnt the right one for me, not everyone has it in them to take on another mans child and its not easy, ive been in the position where ive been looking after another womans kid, and it takes alot to be able to cope with everything that goes with that. at the end of the day the traditional family isnt what it used to be, plenty of kids have stepmothers and stepfathers, its just about being careful who you let into your kids life and not letting the kid get attatched to different people who might not be in your life for a very long time, and if i didnt think i was able to maintain a relationship whilst raising my daughter then so be it, i would have to wait. you make a choice when you have kids and that choice is putting the child first no matter what else happens in your life, and if that means relationships have to go on hold for a while then thats what happens! not saying i have no kind of life at all because im quite lucky in the sense that i have a fairly busy social life and i manage to have a night out about once a fortnight, and when i do meet someone i feel i could be in a relationship with if all they are looking for is a flex then they can go elsewhere for it, im happy to wait for a good man rather than take whatever i can get from a dog!! (see not all single mothers take what they can get thinking no1 else will want them, and to be honest thats just an excuse for being slack and throwing your p*ssy at any man who wants it, if you have no self respect its not coz u have a kid its coz ur a ho!!!)
