The power struggle between parent and child

[Accra]

I only live with my mum so raising a hand to a parent isn't even an option. The power struggle is real though. being back from Uni for holidays is HARD! I'm used to living with friends and fending for myself and she's ordering me around all the time.If she starts shouting about something minor like housework I've now taken to laughing and asking her why she's shouting over nothing. She just feels silly in the end but obviously I still end up doing it. It's funny though coz as I'm growing up I'm seeing the unfair sh*t she had me doing that she could/should be doing and when she asks me now I say no. Sometimes I win that one, sometimes I lose.Arguments are not the one though. Can't even tell her if she's acting wrong. Called my mum a hypocrite once and she went on like I slapped her in the face! Wouldn't talk to me for 3 days after the argument had long been resolved until I came and apologised. Had a big fight yesterday about uni coz she's saying I should change my study pattern. I don't like when she butts into my life like I'm stil 16. At this point in my life all I need from her is support. The guidance part is over and now I need to figure things out for myself.

lol good luck with that still

Lol I know it's an unlikely dream but f*ck it, I can dream.

[Gunner]

Only live with my mum 2 younger sisters and her BF.Have arguements with my mum all the time.Parents have a different logic.Mum was born here but i have Jamaican grandparents.Housework is the usual subject of the arguements.Im sorry but i cant be cleaning the skirting boards all aorund the whole house ( i have downstairs, middle and upsatairs) like she and her brothers and sisters used to do. Not gonna lie i did have it easy being an only child till i was 12. then my sisters came along. When she is wrong she will always raise some stupid point, im the mother so what i say goes reh reh reh. However i actuall think argueing is a good skill to have , if you can out argue or parents then your a match for anyone believe.Ive grown to realise thoug not to argue every point, not everything that can be counted counts, and not every thing that counts can be counted. certain times i make my mum MAD just for never giving up.Nevr hit her, i have made like ive gone 2 hit her, where i flinch at her and she flinches. she gave me ONE LOOK.

[o-guy]

The funny thing is most boys are kindah liberal to the whole fighting back thing when it comes to your dad, but wouldn't dream of it (myself included) when it involves the mumzie (granted this doesn't aply to all boys). I dn't know it seems like some serious violation, is it like that with girls aswell?

[Accra]

Nevr hit her, i have made like ive gone 2 hit her, where i flinch at her and she flinches. she gave me ONE LOOK.

Rah. I'd catch beatings for that alone. Uncles and cousins coming from all over to lecture me while they beat me down! Might as well have hit her!

[Gunner]

Nevr hit her, i have made like ive gone 2 hit her, where i flinch at her and she flinches. she gave me ONE LOOK.

Rah. I'd catch beatings for that alone. Uncles and cousins coming from all over to lecture me while they beat me down! Might as well have hit her!

It was a reaction. Mum kept hitting me inbetween setences, getting harder, and when i turned 2 walk out the room she hit me, and i pushed out my chest to her like what is it mum, you dont want none, i dont want none anymore.

[Guest Scorpzz]

A lil while ago me and my Mum were having a discussion about house work seeing as i'm lumped with everything and my lil borthers (one is 15 the other 13) dont do sh*t.The conclusion was that we'd write up a rota and take turns but until that time we'd have to agree between ourselves as to who would do what.So couple days later my Mum asked me to do the hoover then i say "ah its Chris's turn" to which she agree's and my brother does the hoover with no problems.Later on that night my Dad walks in from work in "im going to find something thats wrong" mode, he notices that the hoover was done and ask's my Mum who done it she's says Chris to which my Dad blows up accusing me of not doing anything in the house.He shouts at me from downstairs to come out of my room, when i do im greeted with a tirade about "if you dont want to do anything you can pack your bags and go" at this point my Mum is standing next to him just nodding.I couldn't help but laugh.When i mentioned it to my Mum the other day she said "i only agreed to the rota to make you happy you was giving me stress".Pissed is not the word.

My dad does all the time, he'll just walk into the room for no reason and then after about 10 seconds (probably thinking time) he'll make some indirect at me which will blow up into an arguement. He also makes the indirects at me when he's talking to my mum.Bare sending. Those lil comments always get to me.

[Guest I.B.Blackman]

my relation ship wiv my parents used 2 be bare f*ckedmans had a fist fyt wiv ma dad b4but nw its kool

[i_Break_Ankles]

Is a nigerian ting! My mum always used to come with that attitude that she was always right as if we lived in nigeria and i would just have to shut up and take it. Until one time we had an argument in the airport for my life i thought i was gonna get disowned and my ticket taken away but from that day forward she losened up her grip and started listening to me and my brother.Makes the relationship 23454332 x easier. My "father" on the other hand, still stuck in his nigerian ways. wasteman! cant tell him nothing. if he told me the sky was green i would smile and nod just so he dont lecture me.

You know what's worse?When Nigerian adults WHO YOU DONT EVEN KNOW IN ANY WAY chat sh*t to you like they're you're parents.One time in Walworth Road man was gonna get some bread and there was some loud-talking Nigerian bredda (looked around 40 or older). He was next in line but he signalled for me to go ahead.So I bought my item and opened the door to leave...all of a sudden I hear shouting, so outta curiosity I turn around, and it so happens he was talking to me. He was shouting, asking why I moved in front and I was all baffed like ''You told me to go, remember?''.THEN he starts saying things like ''OH, is that how you talk to your parents? you look like one of them Jama-I-cans (how he said Jamaicans), no wonder, you're parents must be some drug dealers''. Man was switching, my boy had to drag me to the car. He got so lucky.

[John Galt]

... you look like one of them Jama-I-cans (how he said Jamaicans), no wonder, you're parents must be some drug dealers'' ...

HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HAThe prejudiced views I hear from Nigerian parents never ceases to amaze me.

[Gunner]

Is a nigerian ting! My mum always used to come with that attitude that she was always right as if we lived in nigeria and i would just have to shut up and take it. Until one time we had an argument in the airport for my life i thought i was gonna get disowned and my ticket taken away but from that day forward she losened up her grip and started listening to me and my brother.Makes the relationship 23454332 x easier. My "father" on the other hand, still stuck in his nigerian ways. wasteman! cant tell him nothing. if he told me the sky was green i would smile and nod just so he dont lecture me.

You know what's worse?When Nigerian adults WHO YOU DONT EVEN KNOW IN ANY WAY chat sh*t to you like they're you're parents.One time in Walworth Road man was gonna get some bread and there was some loud-talking Nigerian bredda (looked around 40 or older). He was next in line but he signalled for me to go ahead.So I bought my item and opened the door to leave...all of a sudden I hear shouting, so outta curiosity I turn around, and it so happens he was talking to me. He was shouting, asking why I moved in front and I was all baffed like ''You told me to go, remember?''.THEN he starts saying things like ''OH, is that how you talk to your parents? you look like one of them Jama-I-cans (how he said Jamaicans), no wonder, you're parents must be some drug dealers''. Man was switching, my boy had to drag me to the car. He got so lucky.

Would have just told him 2 suck himself. and told him, you dont have 2 shout down the phone they can hear you, the phone makes your voice travel so you dont have 2.

[Mr Q]

Is a nigerian ting! My mum always used to come with that attitude that she was always right as if we lived in nigeria and i would just have to shut up and take it. Until one time we had an argument in the airport for my life i thought i was gonna get disowned and my ticket taken away but from that day forward she losened up her grip and started listening to me and my brother.Makes the relationship 23454332 x easier. My "father" on the other hand, still stuck in his nigerian ways. wasteman! cant tell him nothing. if he told me the sky was green i would smile and nod just so he dont lecture me.

You know what's worse?When Nigerian adults WHO YOU DONT EVEN KNOW IN ANY WAY chat sh*t to you like they're you're parents.One time in Walworth Road man was gonna get some bread and there was some loud-talking Nigerian bredda (looked around 40 or older). He was next in line but he signalled for me to go ahead.So I bought my item and opened the door to leave...all of a sudden I hear shouting, so outta curiosity I turn around, and it so happens he was talking to me. He was shouting, asking why I moved in front and I was all baffed like ''You told me to go, remember?''.THEN he starts saying things like ''OH, is that how you talk to your parents? you look like one of them Jama-I-cans (how he said Jamaicans), no wonder, you're parents must be some drug dealers''. Man was switching, my boy had to drag me to the car. He got so lucky.

Im all for giving respect to elders, but some of these f*ckers still think they are in africa. Its london 2007!LMFAO at the shouting down the phone Gunner, i swear EVERY AFRICAN ADULT!! does this, like its going to make the people on the other side hear them better soooooo funnny. Reminds me of a list i got in a email might post it.

[i_Break_Ankles]

Is a nigerian ting! My mum always used to come with that attitude that she was always right as if we lived in nigeria and i would just have to shut up and take it. Until one time we had an argument in the airport for my life i thought i was gonna get disowned and my ticket taken away but from that day forward she losened up her grip and started listening to me and my brother.Makes the relationship 23454332 x easier. My "father" on the other hand, still stuck in his nigerian ways. wasteman! cant tell him nothing. if he told me the sky was green i would smile and nod just so he dont lecture me.

You know what's worse?When Nigerian adults WHO YOU DONT EVEN KNOW IN ANY WAY chat sh*t to you like they're you're parents.One time in Walworth Road man was gonna get some bread and there was some loud-talking Nigerian bredda (looked around 40 or older). He was next in line but he signalled for me to go ahead.So I bought my item and opened the door to leave...all of a sudden I hear shouting, so outta curiosity I turn around, and it so happens he was talking to me. He was shouting, asking why I moved in front and I was all baffed like ''You told me to go, remember?''.THEN he starts saying things like ''OH, is that how you talk to your parents? you look like one of them Jama-I-cans (how he said Jamaicans), no wonder, you're parents must be some drug dealers''. Man was switching, my boy had to drag me to the car. He got so lucky.

Would have just told him 2 suck himself. and told him, you dont have 2 shout down the phone they can hear you, the phone makes your voice travel so you dont have 2.

I was just cussing him off, left right and centre, if my bredrin werent there he'd prolly be in A&E or dead.All tryna own man and get all personal when he was clearly in the wrong.