Benicio del Toney Posted January 14, 2008 Report Share Posted January 14, 2008 I really don't understand why people enter relationships, especially heads who are under 24 y/o^^^ Just my opinion.Rarely do relationships among young people result in marriage anyway, so whats really the point in giving your all mentally & emotionally in something that may not last for a year let alone 3 years???These lover boys give me jokes still.Concetrating on my career/My Life >> ____________ >> Worring whether my girl still loves me or not (vice-versa)Heres the thing with statistics.Yea only 15 out of 100 young relationships might last.But if you and your girl is one of them 15 do you care about the other 85???Worry about yourself fam, if you meet a nice girl you never know, it could last. With all the temptation out there for both sides (man and gurl). Any who knows???But there will always be the opposite sex in the world bruv, this aint "I am Legend"People cheat at 35 and 45 let alone @ 20. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Treacle Posted January 14, 2008 Author Report Share Posted January 14, 2008 i feel bad for both of you reason being he is now a victim of a split personality one minute he wants to hold ya hand and kiss you and when ya gone he is reminded how you hurt him (which you wont say to us so its safe to assume you wont have a convo with him about it as its a sore subject) its called "enemies in love" you now, ya want him to be the sweat guy 24 seven but wont wipe the slate clean cos ya scared of his reaction but babes if you did something to upset him you HAVE TO HEAR HIS REACTION in order to move on and expect the reaction to be extreme cos he is holding it in and letting it out periodically.this isnt my ploy to find out what it is i dont actually think i want to know but you need to both sit down and say EVERYTHING if you dont ya just brushing it under the carpet.hell even if you end it with this unresolved you will both just turn into friends with benefits and hate each other more.either way heartache is innevitable. It's true, when we're apart is when we have the majrity of our arguments, when we're together we're cool.I'm always the one who wants to forget everyhting and move on, but he's the one who always brings things up. I do listen to what he has to say, but when it turns to put downs, it turns ino an argument obviously. I understand that he is gonna be really angry,and the reaction will be extreme, but how bloody long does 'periodically' have to last??I have tried to talk through things, but it always ends up in an argument and nothing ever gets resolved and we go round and tround in circles. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Benicio del Toney Posted January 14, 2008 Report Share Posted January 14, 2008 Deep down you know the answer to any question you may have Treacle.Learn to listen to your conscience.From im making topics like this about my relationship I know its time to make some decisions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Treacle Posted January 14, 2008 Author Report Share Posted January 14, 2008 Deep down you know the answer to any question you may have Treacle.Learn to listen to your conscience.From im making topics like this about my relationship I know its time to make some decisions.I have 2 different answers and scenarios to every single question I ask myself. My conscience doesn't work anymore, I think it ran away to sea! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Benicio del Toney Posted January 14, 2008 Report Share Posted January 14, 2008 Deep down you know the answer to any question you may have Treacle.Learn to listen to your conscience.From im making topics like this about my relationship I know its time to make some decisions.I have 2 different answers and scenarios to every single question I ask myself. My conscience doesn't work anymore, I think it ran away to sea!2 answers fine.1 will be your head (conscience)The other will be your heart.Moretime your head will give you the ruthless answer but the right one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FACE OFF Posted January 15, 2008 Report Share Posted January 15, 2008 she is addicted to being with him there is a connection her man is now called blue magicand the man is frank lucas Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Treacle Posted January 15, 2008 Author Report Share Posted January 15, 2008 she is addicted to being with him there is a connection her man is now called blue magicand the man is frank lucasLool. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flojo Posted January 15, 2008 Report Share Posted January 15, 2008 Deep down you know the answer to any question you may have Treacle.Learn to listen to your conscience.From im making topics like this about my relationship I know its time to make some decisions.I have 2 different answers and scenarios to every single question I ask myself. My conscience doesn't work anymore, I think it ran away to sea!2 answers fine.1 will be your head (conscience)The other will be your heart.Moretime your head will give you the ruthless answer but the right one.Thats the weird thing about what she said earlier.She gave no emotional justification for wanting to be with him, most of it was related to what she can achieve by being with him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Treacle Posted January 15, 2008 Author Report Share Posted January 15, 2008 Deep down you know the answer to any question you may have Treacle.Learn to listen to your conscience.From im making topics like this about my relationship I know its time to make some decisions.I have 2 different answers and scenarios to every single question I ask myself. My conscience doesn't work anymore, I think it ran away to sea!2 answers fine.1 will be your head (conscience)The other will be your heart.Moretime your head will give you the ruthless answer but the right one.Thats the weird thing about what she said earlier.She gave no emotional justification for wanting to be with him, most of it was related to what she can achieve by being with him.Hmm.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Benicio del Toney Posted January 15, 2008 Report Share Posted January 15, 2008 Deep down you know the answer to any question you may have Treacle.Learn to listen to your conscience.From im making topics like this about my relationship I know its time to make some decisions.I have 2 different answers and scenarios to every single question I ask myself. My conscience doesn't work anymore, I think it ran away to sea!2 answers fine.1 will be your head (conscience)The other will be your heart.Moretime your head will give you the ruthless answer but the right one.Thats the weird thing about what she said earlier.She gave no emotional justification for wanting to be with him, most of it was related to what she can achieve by being with him.lol true.The thing she needs to realise is she can achieve just as much with another supportive partner without all the derogatory comments. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flojo Posted January 15, 2008 Report Share Posted January 15, 2008 Deep down you know the answer to any question you may have Treacle.Learn to listen to your conscience.From im making topics like this about my relationship I know its time to make some decisions.I have 2 different answers and scenarios to every single question I ask myself. My conscience doesn't work anymore, I think it ran away to sea!2 answers fine.1 will be your head (conscience)The other will be your heart.Moretime your head will give you the ruthless answer but the right one.Thats the weird thing about what she said earlier.She gave no emotional justification for wanting to be with him, most of it was related to what she can achieve by being with him.lol true.The thing she needs to realise is she can achieve just as much with another supportive partner without all the derogatory comments.Thats what I found most fukry about the whole situation.Treacle surely that is ample motivation to prove to him and yourself that you can achieve whatever you want with or without him?It seems to me that your acting in a way that most people associate with men - A lot of thinking and very little feeling.If he helps you to better yourself thats fair enough but whatever you achieve if you stay with him it will never bring the emotional attachment. On the other hand you can achieve whatever you want without him if you put your mind to it AND find someone who may not push you as much but who you share an emotional bond with.the balance between emotions and rational thinking is important where relationships are concerned in my opinion. Too much of one is bad for you and thats what I think the case is with you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FACE OFF Posted January 15, 2008 Report Share Posted January 15, 2008 its like social was right that girls see relationships like careers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kurtis Posted January 15, 2008 Report Share Posted January 15, 2008 I really don't understand why people enter relationships, especially heads who are under 24 y/o^^^ Just my opinion.Rarely do relationships among young people result in marriage anyway, so whats really the point in giving your all mentally & emotionally in something that may not last for a year let alone 3 years???These lover boys give me jokes still.Concetrating on my career/My Life >> ____________ >> Worring whether my girl still loves me or not (vice-versa)The amount you learn about yourself in a relationship is priceless,up until your in a serious one you'll never fully know yourself.its liek training for the big mathcu cnt jus jam for a year then playgotta ease in Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FACE OFF Posted January 15, 2008 Report Share Posted January 15, 2008 lol @ treacle reading this and trying to make a decision and 2.22 in the morning.i feel ya pain just call him NOW randomly say you love him and you want to talk and make it all up to him RIGHT NOWspontaneous love is a good thing*transmission over and gets ready for bed and watches the wire in the background* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Treacle Posted January 15, 2008 Author Report Share Posted January 15, 2008 lol @ treacle reading this and trying to make a decision and 2.22 in the morning.i feel ya pain just call him NOW randomly say you love him and you want to talk and make it all up to him RIGHT NOWspontaneous love is a good thing*transmission over and gets ready for bed and watches the wire in the background*I'm on the phone now, am reading replies for inspiration! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fresh To Death Posted January 15, 2008 Report Share Posted January 15, 2008 I know bare people r subconciously with their partners but open to a better alternativeholdtite everyone with the sly upgrade mentality in relationshipsme personally i will not even entertain havin a female as my girlfriend if i dont see a real futurelong wastin my time n their timeReal talk.That's why my next relationship will be with a female I can see a future in. I'm talking marriage.And I don't get why people would get into a relationship and feel no way to cheatWhy not just keep her/him as a link? Why you gonna put status on it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lenny Jr. Posted January 15, 2008 Report Share Posted January 15, 2008 I really don't understand why people enter relationships, especially heads who are under 24 y/o^^^ Just my opinion.Rarely do relationships among young people result in marriage anyway, so whats really the point in giving your all mentally & emotionally in something that may not last for a year let alone 3 years???These lover boys give me jokes still.Concetrating on my career/My Life >> ____________ >> Worring whether my girl still loves me or not (vice-versa)The amount you learn about yourself in a relationship is priceless,up until your in a serious one you'll never fully know yourself.Co Sign. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JLovely Posted January 15, 2008 Report Share Posted January 15, 2008 I really don't understand why people enter relationships, especially heads who are under 24 y/o^^^ Just my opinion.Rarely do relationships among young people result in marriage anyway, so whats really the point in giving your all mentally & emotionally in something that may not last for a year let alone 3 years???These lover boys give me jokes still.Concetrating on my career/My Life >> ____________ >> Worring whether my girl still loves me or not (vice-versa)The amount you learn about yourself in a relationship is priceless,up until your in a serious one you'll never fully know yourself.Co Sign.Definitely!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mz Boyage Posted January 15, 2008 Report Share Posted January 15, 2008 i was thinking about a situation like this, this morning.i have a friend who has been in a relationship for like 4/5 years... tbh i think its more of a routine then a love for each other...they so used of being together.i cant see him wanting to marry her and have children with her... i think she wants to (most prob...85% likely) and he is sorta always drifting around, sniffing at other girls, looking to see if the grass is greener!i kno for a fact he HAS cheated in the past, dont kno about recently...but still.i was thinking if you been with some one since you was say 15/16 and your now 20 and still together, its just more of a were still together yay! its now 5 years.... and they so wraped up in what their routine is with that person and what there used to. no plans for marrage really because they still with the same person and kind of still have the young mind frame (im 16...im not ready to get married, thats someting old people do) and they quite often keep that mind frame.i know that if im still with my man in 5 more years, that (if we havent already) have plans for children and marrage....but people who have already dun been together for 5/6 years from young, arnt really on that. (thats just from what ive observed through people i know, im trying not to bais this on everyone)but my point remains the same your caught in a cycle, and after 5 years its very hard to get out. you keep saying what if, what if...but you cant change that, people are saying your hearts still with him, but i dont think it is... your not holding on because of love, but because its too scary to leave and face life "alone".this is unfair to him, despite the hurt he causes you. atm it seems as tho your not ready to be in the relationship with him right about now... you need too cool things off and get your head right. and spend some time alone and achieve some things and realise you dont NEED him. its a want for him to still be around whats keeping you there.ohh yeah and theres no such thing as a perfect relationship....no one can have 100% good times all the time! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JLovely Posted January 15, 2008 Report Share Posted January 15, 2008 I agree with you Mz.Boyage I have a friend who's been with her boyfriend from practically being 14 til now and shes 21. He's cheated on her so many times and always begs her back and her like a fool takes him back. I think both of them are just stuck in the routine of being together. She hasnt got to experience boys per se and so he's all she knos. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mz Boyage Posted January 15, 2008 Report Share Posted January 15, 2008 yeh i also have a friend like that...one of my closest friends in the and it pains me so much because thats how it is with her and her man... some times i just wana slap her out of his trance! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Savant Posted January 15, 2008 Report Share Posted January 15, 2008 I agree with you Mz.Boyage I have a friend who's been with her boyfriend from practically being 14 til now and shes 21. He's cheated on her so many times and always begs her back and her like a fool takes him back. I think both of them are just stuck in the routine of being together. She hasnt got to experience boys per se and so he's all she knos.Who's that?I'll soothe the pain. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JLovely Posted January 15, 2008 Report Share Posted January 15, 2008 I agree with you Mz.Boyage I have a friend who's been with her boyfriend from practically being 14 til now and shes 21. He's cheated on her so many times and always begs her back and her like a fool takes him back. I think both of them are just stuck in the routine of being together. She hasnt got to experience boys per se and so he's all she knos.Who's that?I'll soothe the pain. You may know her face but she's not really around us. Too caught up with her man imo. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FACE OFF Posted January 15, 2008 Report Share Posted January 15, 2008 hmmmwhile i agree with most of whats said im convinced it dont match up to ones actions of whoever is saying it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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