The Supposed Negatives of Inter-Racial Dating

[Angelo]

lol Fair enough.But you have to understand those are YOUR views...he will (like you did from your father) grow up in a different world..You can give ideas and try and nudge in the directions you would want your kids to go in, but at the end of the day I think that only accounts for and can influence them so much.If he came home and said he was "in love" with a woman and she was the best thing since sliced bread for him, but she was white, what could you say?I'm probably seeing things from a different perspective - its not as controversial for a brown person to date a black or white, than it is a pure white-black relationship, but the ideas I think are still there...I think the main fear within black-white, indian-white relationships are the fears of the parents that their prospective partners would not be able to relate on a level - ie. What would a white individual know about the subtle nuances of racism in society...I think a lot of it is to do with the fears of the parents - and imo thats only going to be broken down by it happening so close to home that intolerance isnt an option...

[Mooni]

Tbh i think its a whole lot of bullshit

[FACE OFF]

lol Fair enough.But you have to understand those are YOUR views...he will (like you did from your father) grow up in a different world..You can give ideas and try and nudge in the directions you would want your kids to go in, but at the end of the day I think that only accounts for and can influence them so much.If he came home and said he was "in love" with a woman and she was the best thing since sliced bread for him, but she was white, what could you say?I'm probably seeing things from a different perspective - its not as controversial for a brown person to date a black or white, than it is a pure white-black relationship, but the ideas I think are still there...I think the main fear within black-white, indian-white relationships are the fears of the parents that their prospective partners would not be able to relate on a level - ie. What would a white individual know about the subtle nuances of racism in society...I think a lot of it is to do with the fears of the parents - and imo thats only going to be broken down by it happening so close to home that intolerance isnt an option...

your not listening fami said i would say GOOD LUCK TO HIMbut dont all of a sudden think IM changing my stance to it dont all of a sudden think im gonna start adapting for HIS relationship and lifestyle and basically ACCOMODATING his different take on life due to his partner it just dont work like that.and before you ask yes if it was a black woman i would probably be more compelled to adapt unless she was a sket.i mean imagine if my brother went out with dipset girl i hate the west midlands accent but ill let that pass cos its dipset and she is BLACKbut if it was lulu and she was white id be like nah fam im kinda busy this weekend you know next time ennitsorry its just how it is everyone has a comfort zone and thats mine read what i said a few times to understand my stance on this im NOT saying im stoppin him from doing it or even expressing i dont like it just like a white property developer WONT say "I DONT WANT MY OFFICE JUNIOR TO BE BLACK" he will just loose your application formsimple tings.

[FACE OFF]

oh and to add to that my son will be as stubborn as me and by the time he is doing this kinda ting he WOULD be pushing his own door key cos he KNOWS that cant run while he lives under my roof if he does it in his own yard ill respect him more cos he wanted badly enough to get his OWN LIFE rather than impose on MINE with things i dont like3 things my son wont do while he lives under my rooff*ck BATTYDATE WHITE CHICKSSUPPORT ARSENALwhen you move out thats YOUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU

[Lucarelli]

stupidness there tryna say that everyone just dates a next race for there own personal gain rather than them actually liking/loving each otherbullshitthe guy has also sterotyped race groups hard

[JLovely]

LOLAnd LOL at the InterracialCupid.com thing down there.

[FACE OFF]

LOLAnd LOL at the InterracialCupid.com thing down there.

AND THERE YOU HAVE IT EVEN SOMEONE IN MARKETING IS TAKING ADVANTAGE OF THE TRENDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDKEY WORDTREND

[DJSPARK]

stupidness there tryna say that everyone just dates a next race for there own personal gain rather than them actually liking/loving each otherbullshitthe guy has also sterotyped race groups hard

c/s

[violet]

i don't think that it has become a 'trend' to date someone of another race...a least not among mature people entering serious relationshipsi just think that the influx of immigrants and migrants into this country has led to a more racially mixed society and therefore an increase in the number of inter-racial relationships.

[Angelo]

i don't think that it has become a 'trend' to date someone of another race...a least not among mature people entering serious relationships

tbh.But it has if you look around. How many chicks do you see pushing prams with brown babies?How many d*ckhead girls on facepic and from the ends do you see only dating black boys, speaking in slang they wouldnt know the meaning off, typing KMT on msn when they're chinese, getting excited about going to Jamaica with their boyfriend of 1 month. etc.It has become a trend - but for those rare individuals who arent part of that trend, its the unfortunate position they're (me and you basically if you're mixed) of being tarred with the same brush.Waste by association as it were.

[violet]

i don't think that it has become a 'trend' to date someone of another race...a least not among mature people entering serious relationships

tbh.But it has if you look around. How many chicks do you see pushing prams with brown babies?How many d*ckhead girls on facepic and from the ends do you see only dating black boys, speaking in slang they wouldnt know the meaning off, typing KMT on msn when they're chinese, getting excited about going to Jamaica with their boyfriend . of 1 month. etcIt has become a trend - but for those rare individuals who arent part of that trend, its the unfortunate position they're (me and you basically if you're mixed) of being tarred with the same brush.Waste by association as it were.

if they are from the ends they why would they not know the slang. so someone who grows up with and is constantly surrounded by people who talk a certain way....but you expect them for some reason to be talking differently....why would they???and i might be going to nigeria next year with my boyfriend and his family...and i'm excited....i've never been there before...does that make me waste???tbh i think people are reading too much into thingsi don't think its a trend....i think thats just what people choose to label it when they can't accept any other explanatio for it.

[Totty]

I don't think race really matters. people should marry whoever the hell they want, regardless of colour, race or creed.me personally i can't see myself marrying a white chick to be honest. f*ck it i can't see myself marrying a non-african.

[Essay]

Tbh i think its a whole lot of bullshit

[JLovely]

i don't think that it has become a 'trend' to date someone of another race...a least not among mature people entering serious relationships

tbh.But it has if you look around. How many chicks do you see pushing prams with brown babies?How many d*ckhead girls on facepic and from the ends do you see only dating black boys, speaking in slang they wouldnt know the meaning off, typing KMT on msn when they're chinese, getting excited about going to Jamaica with their boyfriend of 1 month. etc.It has become a trend - but for those rare individuals who arent part of that trend, its the unfortunate position they're (me and you basically if you're mixed) of being tarred with the same brush.Waste by association as it were.

Basically!

[Angelo]

i don't think that it has become a 'trend' to date someone of another race...a least not among mature people entering serious relationships

tbh.But it has if you look around. How many chicks do you see pushing prams with brown babies?How many d*ckhead girls on facepic and from the ends do you see only dating black boys, speaking in slang they wouldnt know the meaning off, typing KMT on msn when they're chinese, getting excited about going to Jamaica with their boyfriend . of 1 month. etcIt has become a trend - but for those rare individuals who arent part of that trend, its the unfortunate position they're (me and you basically if you're mixed) of being tarred with the same brush.Waste by association as it were.

if they are from the ends they why would they not know the slang. so someone who grows up with and is constantly surrounded by people who talk a certain way....but you expect them for some reason to be talking differently....why would they???and i might be going to nigeria next year with my boyfriend and his family...and i'm excited....i've never been there before...does that make me waste???tbh i think people are reading too much into thingsi don't think its a trend....i think thats just what people choose to label it when they can't accept any other explanatio for it.

Maybe I phrased it wrong - The only reason they are excited is because they think it makes them look although they are closer to the stereotype they have dated into. The closest thing they have to being associated other than that, is to have a mixed baby.I'm referring to girls who when they greet, go on like "Whagwan fam", "Safe" "Whablow", and use terms which they really shouldn't be ie. "KMT", "Ting and ting". Being from the ends, and the whole nurture vs. nature argument is flawed. I grew up, and live in Brixton, but you will not ever catch me using certain words. It is not who I am, and I dont feel the need to project an image of something I am not.Again, they were only examples - you took the more mild end of the extreme, and I took the more extreme...

[violet]

i don't think that it has become a 'trend' to date someone of another race...a least not among mature people entering serious relationships

tbh.But it has if you look around. How many chicks do you see pushing prams with brown babies?How many d*ckhead girls on facepic and from the ends do you see only dating black boys, speaking in slang they wouldnt know the meaning off, typing KMT on msn when they're chinese, getting excited about going to Jamaica with their boyfriend . of 1 month. etcIt has become a trend - but for those rare individuals who arent part of that trend, its the unfortunate position they're (me and you basically if you're mixed) of being tarred with the same brush.Waste by association as it were.

if they are from the ends they why would they not know the slang. so someone who grows up with and is constantly surrounded by people who talk a certain way....but you expect them for some reason to be talking differently....why would they???and i might be going to nigeria next year with my boyfriend and his family...and i'm excited....i've never been there before...does that make me waste???tbh i think people are reading too much into thingsi don't think its a trend....i think thats just what people choose to label it when they can't accept any other explanatio for it.

Maybe I phrased it wrong - The only reason they are excited is because they think it makes them look although they are closer to the stereotype they have dated into. The closest thing they have to being associated other than that, is to have a mixed baby.I'm referring to girls who when they greet, go on like "Whagwan fam", "Safe" "Whablow", and use terms which they really shouldn't be ie. "KMT", "Ting and ting". Being from the ends, and the whole nurture vs. nature argument is flawed. I grew up, and live in Brixton, but you will not ever catch me using certain words. It is not who I am, and I dont feel the need to project an image of something I am not.Again, they were only examples - you took the more mild end of the extreme, and I took the more extreme...

why shouldn't they be using these terms???i don't think the whole nature vs. nurture argument is flawed in this instance.speaking this type of slang is entirely dependent on growing up in the endsi am aware that people who use this slang are predominantly black...however, it is not a black attribute.if a black boy grew up on a farm somewhere in norwich or somewhere like that....he wouldn't know this slang.we know this slang because of where we grew up...theres no two ways about it. whether we choose to use it or not is a different issue...but we know it, we know what it means and we are surrounded by people who use it all the time...so how can you say that someone who grew up in the same environment as you did, learnt the slang from their peers in the same way you did, and is surrounded constantly by people who use it the same way you are...should not be using these terms???it doesn't make sense to me tbh

[Angelo]

They should be, because half the time it is flawed, and not genuine.They go home, speak to their parents, are raised by them, are in school with teachers who speak like them, see adverts on TV etc.But because their mates use slang like that, they do as well? Please, being a product of your environment is one thing, but thats completely different.Comparing a black boy living on a farm in norwich to a white boy growing up in london really doesnt give.Agree to disagree on this one...

[violet]

They should be, because half the time it is flawed, and not genuine.They go home, speak to their parents, are raised by them, are in school with teachers who speak like them, see adverts on TV etc.But because their mates use slang like that, they do as well? Please, being a product of your environment is one thing, but thats completely different.Comparing a black boy living on a farm in norwich to a white boy growing up in london really doesnt give.Agree to disagree on this one...

i talk slang a lot of the time....even though my mum doesn't talk slang and neither did my teachers.does your mum talk slang??? did your teachers talk slang???you say 'them' as if white people are completely alien to you. when you probably know white people who went to your school and spoke this slang and you thought nothing of it...but yes....i guess we'll have to agree to disagree

[Guest The Member]

i agree with violetalthough i hate it

[violet]

and getting back on topic...i live in stratoford....in the school i went to white people were the minority tbh. it was mostly black, fili and asian people to be honest...and some mixed heads up in there too!it was an all girls school but the boys school round the corner was basically the same and they were our main source of interaction for boys.now for a white girl that goes to this school, whilst there are a number of white boys in that school around the corner....there are far more boys of other races. there is a chance that she may find a white boy that she is attracted to, gets along with and likes....but mathematically and logically speaking...there is a greater chance of her finding a boy of another race that she is attracted to, gets along with and likes....just for the simple fact that there are more of them.so if a white girl from this school does end up entering a relationship with a boy of another race...can she be said to be following a trend?i use this as an example because this is the way i have seen most inter-racial relationships come about.the way i see it, it all depends on your social circles and who you associate with. in the multi-racial society that we live in...it is highly likely that people will be associating with people of other races...increasing the likeliness of inter-racial relationships occuring.this doesnt make it a trend, its more of a coincidence really.

[Angelo]

Out of curiosity, what mixture are you Violet?

[JLovely]

and getting back on topic...i live in stratoford....in the school i went to white people were the minority tbh. it was mostly black, fili and asian people to be honest...and some mixed heads up in there too!it was an all girls school but the boys school round the corner was basically the same and they were our main source of interaction for boys.now for a white girl that goes to this school, whilst there are a number of white boys in that school around the corner....there are far more boys of other races. there is a chance that she may find a white boy that she is attracted to, gets along with and likes....but mathematically and logically speaking...there is a greater chance of her finding a boy of another race that she is attracted to, gets along with and likes....just for the simple fact that there are more of them.so if a white girl from this school does end up entering a relationship with a boy of another race...can she be said to be following a trend?i use this as an example because this is the way i have seen most inter-racial relationships come about.the way i see it, it all depends on your social circles and who you associate with. in the multi-racial society that we live in...it is highly likely that people will be associating with people of other races...increasing the likeliness of inter-racial relationships occuring.this doesnt make it a trend, its more of a coincidence really.

This is only applicable to Cities tbh.And even so there is still a divide moretime. I mean Asians roll wid Asians, Blks wid Blks etc etc

[violet]

Out of curiosity, what mixture are you Violet?

my mum is white (1/2 spanish, 1/4 russian, 1/4 welsh)my dad is black (montserratian)

[violet]

and getting back on topic...i live in stratoford....in the school i went to white people were the minority tbh. it was mostly black, fili and asian people to be honest...and some mixed heads up in there too!it was an all girls school but the boys school round the corner was basically the same and they were our main source of interaction for boys.now for a white girl that goes to this school, whilst there are a number of white boys in that school around the corner....there are far more boys of other races. there is a chance that she may find a white boy that she is attracted to, gets along with and likes....but mathematically and logically speaking...there is a greater chance of her finding a boy of another race that she is attracted to, gets along with and likes....just for the simple fact that there are more of them.so if a white girl from this school does end up entering a relationship with a boy of another race...can she be said to be following a trend?i use this as an example because this is the way i have seen most inter-racial relationships come about.the way i see it, it all depends on your social circles and who you associate with. in the multi-racial society that we live in...it is highly likely that people will be associating with people of other races...increasing the likeliness of inter-racial relationships occuring.this doesnt make it a trend, its more of a coincidence really.

This is only applicable to Cities tbh.And even so there is still a divide moretime. I mean Asians roll wid Asians, Blks wid Blks etc etc

which is why there are more inter-racial relationships in cities....from what i've seen anyway.sometimes there is a divide...but sometimes there isn't.

[Gunner]

and getting back on topic...i live in stratoford....in the school i went to white people were the minority tbh. it was mostly black, fili and asian people to be honest...and some mixed heads up in there too!it was an all girls school but the boys school round the corner was basically the same and they were our main source of interaction for boys.now for a white girl that goes to this school, whilst there are a number of white boys in that school around the corner....there are far more boys of other races. there is a chance that she may find a white boy that she is attracted to, gets along with and likes....but mathematically and logically speaking...there is a greater chance of her finding a boy of another race that she is attracted to, gets along with and likes....just for the simple fact that there are more of them.so if a white girl from this school does end up entering a relationship with a boy of another race...can she be said to be following a trend?i use this as an example because this is the way i have seen most inter-racial relationships come about.the way i see it, it all depends on your social circles and who you associate with. in the multi-racial society that we live in...it is highly likely that people will be associating with people of other races...increasing the likeliness of inter-racial relationships occuring.this doesnt make it a trend, its more of a coincidence really.

I get what you are saying but this isn't entirely true although you know that. Yes there is more black and other races around so numbers wise there is more choice, but at the end of the day YOU LIKE WHAT YOU LIKE. If you really liked the white boy, you would find him, it's a bit more 2 do with you being around the other races and minglign with them, adopting their ways and styles, and conforming (not in a bad way, cnt find better word) with them, so you start to see the other races more attractive etc. And a bit of fear or maybe not wanting 2 stand out.Similarites with your example and black footballers and white wives, if you see it how i see it.