Traditional households.

[Train]

Now, id like to address this as I feel its a matter which is superseded by many other matters in society today. Whats wrong with having a traditional view of how you think a family should be run?Personally, I feel that a womans main role or purpose IN A FAMILY is to rear children. Thats not their main goal in life, and its not something that they should be judged by alone, but once a woman has chosen, or been forced as so many are these days, into living in a family, I feel her primary concern should be the welfare of the child. They should be the person who looks after the baby most of the time. (I mean, OBVIOUSLY a man also has a responsibility to spend time with and look after the child, but this is usually worked around the time spent on HIS primary concern, which will be explained below). Its also the womans responsibility to ensue the quarters are kept clean. Now this, I recognise, is something which I feel every family should be flexible about. If they can afford to get someone to clean the house, then by all means, but if they cant, which most household cant, then im afraid its MAINLY the womans job (although men should also do minimal helpo aswell, such as cleaning up after themselves)Now men, I think its their responsibility to ensue the economic side of things are dealt with as efficiantly and best he can. He is to ensue the female has all the materials needed to carry out her role in the family to the best of her ability, and also that the fundermentals of human existance, such as food, clothes and shelter, are provided or everyone in the household to the best of his ability. He also has a role and responsibility to do what he can, after the main object above is being addressed, to ensue he comes home and spends the remainder of the day helping out the female in her roles around the house. This means cleaning up after ones self and spending time with THEIR child and giving the female a much needed rest. NOW, IM AWARE THIS SOMEWHAT OF AN IDEALISTIC VIEW ON THINGS, but I really dont see why this shouldnt be the benchmark in every household in this country. BENCHMARK, meaning its something that can and should be flexible, but something with every household, or family, strives for, and recognises as 'the best way'. Presuming a child is brought into a family with both parents, should this be the way things are run? Is this REALLY 'the best way'?Opinions please.

[marlon]

I dont think anyone can really answer that coz everyones had it different.It was my grandparents that looked after me for a long time when I was growing up, then my mum, and my dad wasnt really around too much.Wouldnt change it though, its done me no harm.

[Train]

I dont think anyone can really answer that coz everyones had it different.

What do you mean by that?I mean, obviosuly like I said, its not always going to work like that, but say you had two full grown, mature humans who are a couple, and they wish to bring up a child. SHOULD THIS BE THE WAY THEY SHOULD GO ABOUT DOING IT?

[SCRAPS]

f*ck reading all that.

[Kurtis]

ur conservativethats the problem

[marlon]

I dont think anyone can really answer that coz everyones had it different.

What do you mean by that?I mean, obviosuly like I said, its not always going to work like that, but say you had two full grown, mature humans who are a couple, and they wish to bring up a child. SHOULD THIS BE THE WAY THEY SHOULD GO ABOUT DOING IT?

Thats what I mean.No one can say "You SHOULD do it this way"Because you get good and bad results from every way of raising a kid. Its not that black and white.You're kinda merging two different things - running a family, and raising a kid..To run a family, Im inclined to agree with traditional roles - the man is, and will be the head of the family - not to say he runs it like your boy Saddam, but he runs tings.Raising a kid though - I couldnt say - the way my parents raised me worked for me - it wasnt ideal but it worked - which makes me think - if it worked just as well, what doesnt make it ideal.*Goes to bed confused*

[Train]

ur conservativethats the problem

No im not. In any case, whys that a problem

[Kurtis]

ur conservativethats the problem

No im not. In any case, whys that a problem

it goes against naturechange is inevitable

[Black Casper]

I dont think anyone can really answer that coz everyones had it different.

What do you mean by that?I mean, obviosuly like I said, its not always going to work like that, but say you had two full grown, mature humans who are a couple, and they wish to bring up a child. SHOULD THIS BE THE WAY THEY SHOULD GO ABOUT DOING IT?

the traditional household has changed so much over the years that it wont be the stay at home mum and the working dad for much longer. Right now, there are more options open for women to do something career wise.Today, most women want to do something career wise after they have had children...most women now do not like the idea of staying in day after day looking after kids, cleaning the house and doing the shopping. I would like it if my woman wanted to find a career of some sort, bearing in mind that if she wants to do that...extensive planning will have to be made in terms of the children

[Train]

I dont think anyone can really answer that coz everyones had it different.

What do you mean by that?I mean, obviosuly like I said, its not always going to work like that, but say you had two full grown, mature humans who are a couple, and they wish to bring up a child. SHOULD THIS BE THE WAY THEY SHOULD GO ABOUT DOING IT?

Thats what I mean.No one can say "You SHOULD do it this way"Because you get good and bad results from every way of raising a kid. Its not that black and white.You're kinda merging two different things - running a family, and raising a kid..To run a family, Im inclined to agree with traditional roles - the man is, and will be the head of the family - not to say he runs it like your boy Saddam, but he runs tings.Raising a kid though - I couldnt say - the way my parents raised me worked for me - it wasnt ideal but it worked - which makes me think - if it worked just as well, what doesnt make it ideal.*Goes to bed confused*

Im aware that differnet things work for different families and some work more than others, but I also think that this produces better results than any alternative, such as both parents working full time or whatever. I mean, although im addressing both running a amily and raising a child, at a grass routes level, I think they both require the same things. Also, when i say raising, im not refering to raising in terms of disipline or whever else is needed to raise a child above the age of 5, im talking about the early years of a humans life. The basic roles both parents should undertake.

[marlon]

I dont know, is the answer.I dont have the experience which I think you need to be able to answer it.

[The Infamous]

Traditional households are those with mothers taking care of the children and the dads ducking out.This generalisation has a 90% success rate

[Train]

Dont get me wrong, I have NOTHING against women working to earn as much money they like, who am I to legislate against that. But, so long as her primary responsibilities have been take care of as best she can. In the rest of the time she can shoot up crack for all I care. And I also dont feel that these responsibilities CAN be fully achieveable if the female is worrying about getting into work. (Again, only addressing the first few years of a humans life, after that I feel a woman have as much right to work as a man)

[revs]

f*ck reading all that.

[marlon]

Traditional households are those with mothers taking care of the children and the dads ducking out.This generalisation has a 90% success rate

To be honest I would find it quite weird if I were to imagine my mother earning and my dad at home in his apron in the kitchen, cooking and cleaning.

[Black Casper]

Dont get me wrong, I have NOTHING against women working to earn as much money they like, who am I to legislate against that. But, so long as her primary responsibilities have been take care of as best she can.

this is the same view I haveif me and her are working hard to get money in the household and looking after the kids wellthen this is perfect

[Train]

Dont get me wrong, I have NOTHING against women working to earn as much money they like, who am I to legislate against that. But, so long as her primary responsibilities have been take care of as best she can.

this is the same view I haveif me and her are working hard to get money in the household and looking after the kids wellthen this is perfect

But if one of you had to give up working for a period of say 6 months, to look after the child and home full time, it should be.......................

[Black Casper]

Dont get me wrong, I have NOTHING against women working to earn as much money they like, who am I to legislate against that. But, so long as her primary responsibilities have been take care of as best she can.

this is the same view I haveif me and her are working hard to get money in the household and looking after the kids wellthen this is perfect

But if one of you had to give up working for a period of say 6 months, to look after the child and home full time, it should be.......................

I could rather my wife because I feel that its important for a child/children to bond with their mother more...I would work all hours my employer throws at me to take care of my family...as long as my kids are with their mother

[Train]

Dont get me wrong, I have NOTHING against women working to earn as much money they like, who am I to legislate against that. But, so long as her primary responsibilities have been take care of as best she can.

this is the same view I haveif me and her are working hard to get money in the household and looking after the kids wellthen this is perfect

But if one of you had to give up working for a period of say 6 months, to look after the child and home full time, it should be.......................

I could rather my wife because I feel that its important for a child/children to bond with their mother more...I would work all hours my employer throws at me to take care of my family...as long as my kids are with their mother

Couldnt agree with you more man.

[Jubez Fresco]

Change isn't always for the better. I feel what your saying but society with the collapse of religion and the rise of cynicism, society is pretty much immoral these days.Hold tight the single mothers. I feel that a single mother who raise their children correctly do more to instill a sense of family morals in their kids if you get what I'm sayin.

[Kurtis]

the bond between mother n child is important in the early stagesso yea, only people who jump up n cry that women should work blah blah men should do this are usually butch lesbians or wanna be independent women chasin that destinys child song

[Soca Junkie]

Dont get me wrong, I have NOTHING against women working to earn as much money they like, who am I to legislate against that. But, so long as her primary responsibilities have been take care of as best she can.

this is the same view I haveif me and her are working hard to get money in the household and looking after the kids wellthen this is perfect

But if one of you had to give up working for a period of say 6 months, to look after the child and home full time, it should be.......................

I agree that it should be the mother... although i havnt grown up in a traditional household i do however agree with this theory.True say i want to have a career when im older as well as a family... so after i've worked for some time and im ready to settle and have a family... i would happily take time out of work to cater for my children and husband. Care not if i have been socialised to think women are nuturers.

[Social]

ur conservativethats the problem

No im not. In any case, whys that a problem

it goes against naturechange is inevitable

positive change is more desirable,for instance childs arent now being born with wings and xray vision as a result of the breakdown of traditional family,they are generally seem to be more wastethere is an endless struggle between right or left wing dominance in society it wud be wrong to discredit either hand or you will be flopsided,power changes hands wen societys go too far in one direction and it has to be brought back in line,one hand washes the other.its a constant balancing act,when all our lives hang in the balance we must act.ask lol gore.or lolary clinton,or even chairman lmao the cycle has repeated many times over the course of history,im sure you know this unless of course you disregard such things as the past to the extreme ololol over