friends in controllin relationships

[LIQUID]

she wont be round tomorrow, her man wont let her, or she'll not want to in fear she'd upset him. anytime she wants to make plans just nod a say yeh, an take it in your stride, 9/10 she wont follow through with the plans. if u wanna chil with her u'll have to go to her, so her man can "see the company shes keepin" lol.best ting stay in her life at arms length an just re-assure her ur there for her if she ever needs u.

[Percy]

I have a friend just like this.But its in reverse- he gets bullied by his chickWhen the mandem are over she comes into the living room and threatens him and everyone looks around awkwardly and just leaves.Ya dun know shes probably giving him licks and im not talking about head Its quite deep still

[Galactus]

Kno a girl exactly like this except youngerShes 17 Hes 19Im now the only Person! she tlks 2 cah her man dont like her pplEven so she keeps it on d lowHer man even turfed both her simcards n made her sign a contract sayin she cant see boys in the fleshThats heartbreakin cah I dun kno weneva she sees me shes orn it ard n I get sumin

[qks]

lol@ making her sign a contractman is taking the piss

[FACE OFF]

this girl i kno, her man is significantly older than her, and overly controllin and shes too dumb to see ithe has a key to her flat and shows up anytime anyhow, wid da man dem or whoever and she dont have a key to hisshe gave him the key when they hadnt been goin out that long, its bin a year nowbare stupidness happpened and i ended up askin her why he has a key and she dontshes all larfin "i dont kno yakna, i ain really got an answer for you"i left it there cos i didnt wanna ask in the first place, but the situation was so f*ckries i wanned her to question herselfthen like shes always sayin how we should go out and stuff, and fully sets a time date and place, this is her instigating yhthen when it comes down to it, we're there and she ain, call her, tex her no answerfew days later shes like o me and *boy with a ridiculous name* had an argument or he came round and we jus stayed iny cant she tex or answer her fone, whats so hard?thats another thing he has a silly yet VERY unique name, and she prounounces it in a different way to what it iswhy? because theres another yout in the ends with the same name but hes a d*ckhead, so her man dont want her to get confusedits like his name is potayto, but she pronounces it potarto cos the other potayto is a prickcant she see its the same guy?finally but not, they went on holiday together, he never lets her take photos of him, so on holiday he friggin takes bare video footage and tells her hes gna make stills from it but never doesso she cant show pictures to no one she knowso and i went to her house to get something with her, and he was there but she never knew, i wernt gna stay anyway so i got the thing and left, then she tex me sayin "he wanned you to stay so he can make sure shes keepin the correct company"anywayhas anyone got a friend like this?or are any of you man on this controllin flex, or any of your bredrinsnothing u can do but stay out of it inniti jus think its terribly terribly sad

why do you concern yourself with peoples relationships so much its like your obsessed with pointing out the short comings of other girls relationships sort out ya own love life. Is this girl your mother or sister or tight friend? She is happy to let it go down like that and she has a man thats her business, DO YOU HAVE A MAN? YES? then go and shag him if NO then go find one or shag a link either way stop moaning like ya love life is so much better than this girls cos if it is WHY THE f*ck DO YOU CARE? Just understand that your making yourself look like a d*ckhead making noise bout this i mean see it from the mans point of view.he is f*cking a chick and gettin away with it and this noisy ugly scrorney stick insect blick like the vip background is making noise if i was him i would want to punch you up for being nosey and punch you up more for being nosey and butters i mean if it was some one like dipset or soca on loc you can forgive them for their looks are good but YOU? kmt he would be like i wanna punch up that grace chick you know she too nosey" now like i said if it was dipset or soca he could say in brackets ("SHE IS f*ckIN CRISS THOUGH" and smile) but with you its like having someone f*ck up your sex life AND be too ugly to salvage it so he has truly been screwed.kmtthen see it from her point of view she is in a relationship as sh*t as it she is in one YOU ARE NOT so if you keep medalling you will soon hear that from her TRUSS ME ON THAT.now if you have a man see it from HIS point of view "WHY THE f*ck IS MY GIRL WATCHING THIS GIRLS BUSINESS FOR LIKE YOU ARE TIGHT WITH HER ARE YOU JEALOUS COS HE WOKKED YOU"this is what people will think of you in this scenario smads.disclaimer - im only saying this cos from memory it seems like this is like the 25th novel of "what i see wrong with relationships volume 1 to 99my advice to you is to tell your story with more comedy rather than some old granny at her window bitching bout the dustbin men not putting the wheely bins back in the garden and closing the gate.

[Kurtis]

Kno a girl exactly like this except youngerShes 17 Hes 19Im now the only Person! she tlks 2 cah her man dont like her pplEven so she keeps it on d lowHer man even turfed both her simcards n made her sign a contract sayin she cant see boys in the fleshThats heartbreakin cah I dun kno weneva she sees me shes orn it ard n I get sumin

i cant see how certain man can do this kinda thingdepresses me

[FACE OFF]

i just laugh and i laugh at girls that are victims of domestic violence.there are too many beyonce songs in every girls ipod for her to accept this and not do anything bout it unless she likes it so leave them to it.all about doing what that girl in the film "this christmas" didrun him a showerwhen he washing his skin put baby oil on the floormake him come outwatch him slip and start whipping him with the belt and then LEAVE.

[smaddy]

i jus read the first part of ur doodoo essayshes a friend innitmy love life is cooland i dont concern myself with other peoples relationships, when else have i posted anything to do with any other girl but myself and now this one?u prick

[Natalie]

it really baffles me as to why some girls put up with this behaviouri have a friend in a similar situation, she just doesn't talk to me about her relationship anymore because i "never have anything positive to say"

My friends exactly the sameTold her already...but she ain't even seeing the light.He over protective doesn't like her having anything to do with boys, doesn't like her going going out, moniters her where abouts. some flippin psychoI'm just waiting till she realises.Thats the day I will laugh.

[LadyOG]

lef em init they will find out the HARD WAY

Pretty much sums it up. From someone who's been there no matter how much it hurts you to watch her Smaddy she has to decide for herself.

[lol]

face off u utter prick

[revs]

had a friend in the same situation. She called the shots etc and ended up cheating on him.oh well. They need to figure it out for themselves.

[lol]

bad enough for women but a man getting controlled by his woman ?that man can never be a friend of mine.

[smaddy]

jus to clarify, i wasnt askin if i should intervenethe only thing i ever said to her is how come he has a key to yours and you dont have one to hisi wouldnt bother sayin nothing to her, cos i dont want no blame for why they broke upif u look u will that i said"nothing u can do but stay out of it innit"my questions were to do with other peoples experiences of this type of situationalso, LIQUID u was right she didnt come

[LadyOG]

Oh skeen.Well we all know I've been there. Never thought it would happen to me, but you never do. I think what hurt the most was realising that he didn't really care about me, that he was just using me.He was also a big time emotional abuser like all controllers. I think about him now and think 'why the f*ck did I stay with you for so long?' Because really I can't see anything.

[qks]

*offers shoulder*

[LIQUID]

jus to clarify, i wasnt askin if i should intervenethe only thing i ever said to her is how come he has a key to yours and you dont have one to hisi wouldnt bother sayin nothing to her, cos i dont want no blame for why they broke upif u look u will that i said"nothing u can do but stay out of it innit"my questions were to do with other peoples experiences of this type of situationalso, LIQUID u was right she didnt come

i knew she wouldnt tho i woulda bet money on it. just keep her at arms length smaddz til she asks for help, otherwise she'll see it as u interfearing enit. nhuh fret ur heart is in the right place

[smaddy]

Oh skeen.Well we all know I've been there. Never thought it would happen to me, but you never do. I think what hurt the most was realising that he didn't really care about me, that he was just using me.He was also a big time emotional abuser like all controllers. I think about him now and think 'why the f*ck did I stay with you for so long?' Because really I can't see anything.

you jus wanna thank your lucky stars you got out of it now while ur young, and you ain old and haggeredas i said, i seen a few too many older women in this kinda situationand its heart breakin whether they are close to me or not

[Soca Junkie]

lef em init they will find out the HARD WAY

Co-sign.I know people that have allowed this sh*t to happen to them and have only been free from it by learning the hard way bar one person. No amount of talk can make them think clearly. Following your heart and not your brain can be damaging.