this really is a PAR

[MARLO STANSFIELD]

One woman i know has a next woman that lives in her block and basically she has been with the father of her two kids for 7 years and she has been claiming benefits etc while he works full time.long story short the relationship hit a dead end from the womans perspective and she says she dont love him no more etc so he has moved out and gone back to his parents (on a couch) til he gets back on his feets. He has agreed to pay money weekly to her to go towards the kids (60 quid dont start saying this is nothing cos dont forget she claims benefit and wouldnt be entitled if she declared he lives with her so dont go there please) howeverTHE VERY NEXT DAY after the man moves out a next man moves in and is beating it and all around the kids etc the man gets wind of it and makes bare noise on the woman and even tries to take the kids away.this is a true story i was told today now i know many of you are clenching your fists right now but lets discuss like adults what mistake BOTH the woman and man madediscussill add my thoughts shortly.

[Guest Big Daddy Dave]

first mistake he made was breedin with wastewas all downhill from there tbh

[MARLO STANSFIELD]

first mistake he made was breedin with wastewas all downhill from there tbh

NO

[Fresh]

first mistake he made was breedin with waste

:!: This is why I have to be a provider, many females dont agree. But women have the law behind them for security.Could have have a woman kick me out my crib. As for taking away my children, thats my worst nigthmare tbh.

[MARLO STANSFIELD]

EVERYONE SUBMIT YOUR ANSWER SO I CAN MARK YOUR PAPERSlol

[Guest Tibbius]

bruv, how can i be paying the chick p and shes claiming benefits while get whacked out1. i would set up a bank account for the youts and put the money in myself, n let the kids know, u need anything, holla dad2. i would then make an anonymus call to HMRC/council to hot up her arse (cos im rags like that, cant take the piss outta man)if her benefits stop or she kick out, thats her prob.... true say fraud is a crime... i'll use that as leverage for custody if she tries a ting..all while trying not to punch her up

[neeko]

shoulda worked on the previous relationshipcan jus imagine the type of nicca shes got now smh..pissed

[Doug]

why u lot always move out the housei would never my own housei cant understand

[Guest Big Daddy Dave]

alsollow movin in with a chicka chick moves in with meim bare egotistical like thati dnt even like girls pickin me up n drivin me around

[MARLO STANSFIELD]

okay im about to go out so im just gonna say thisin order to land on your feet in these scenarios you must ALWAYS have a back up plan and this dont mean a next girl this meansHAVING YOUR OWN PLACENOT MOVING IN WITH YOUR GIRLNOT LETTING YOUR GIRL MOVE IN WITH YOUif you wanna live together get a place TOGETHER dont combined sh*t i know its hard but think how much more capital you will have as a couple if you stay together you will both have your own place plus a place you get together.this means more money as you can rent these places and then you can spend less time working and more time with the kids you have.if it dont work you go back to your place and she goes back to hers and you sell the place and split it.or if your generous just say "f*ck it keep the house i got my own crib" (this is what i would do)this is the best contingency plan i can think ofanyone agree or disagree if so why?

[FANTA]

he failed by moving in with her.- this sends a psycological message to the woman thats she's doing her bit by housing them. big mistake.the rest is just usual relationship mishaps, nothing can be perfect.and the benefits thing i dont think is a big deal.

[King Poetic]

he failed by moving in with her.- this sends a psycological message to the woman thats she's doing her bit by housing them. big mistake.the rest is just usual relationship mishaps, nothing can be perfect.and the benefits thing i dont think is a big deal.

Bingo!Women are not natural leaders in relationships so If you follow your woman on many cases she will not truly respect you which will eventually lead to contempt.

[Lieutenant]

first mistake he made was breedin with wastewas all downhill from there tbh

snm

[missBee]

First mistake he made was not investing!!!What was he thinking having a job & not owning his own place?!!! About going to live on the couch... You are telling me he was relying on a woman with no job herself??Next mistake he made was not planning on looking after his children if anything happens. Because if he is living on the couch imagine what they are going through.I don't think he made a mistake for being with her. You don't always choose who you love. But you make other plans if that 'main' one doesn't work.First mistake SHE made is being waste herself: - No job - Cheating - Not thinking of her children and now exposing them to her clearly not so serious relationship. She is clearly thinking of her own needs and not those of her children because once you breed it's not all about you anymore

[Vtec]

okay im about to go out so im just gonna say thisin order to land on your feet in these scenarios you must ALWAYS have a back up plan and this dont mean a next girl this meansHAVING YOUR OWN PLACENOT MOVING IN WITH YOUR GIRLNOT LETTING YOUR GIRL MOVE IN WITH YOUif you wanna live together get a place TOGETHER dont combined sh*t i know its hard but think how much more capital you will have as a couple if you stay together you will both have your own place plus a place you get together.this means more money as you can rent these places and then you can spend less time working and more time with the kids you have.if it dont work you go back to your place and she goes back to hers and you sell the place and split it.or if your generous just say "f*ck it keep the house i got my own crib" (this is what i would do)this is the best contingency plan i can think ofanyone agree or disagree if so why?

To a point. But when buying a place together as much as you may feel ur in love or whatever... Make an agreement and discuss as adults that in the worst case scenario. You both sell up and get monies for the sale split 50/50. And get the agreement checked out by a solictor so it holds weight.Otherwise yes, always have a contingency plan. Only you are responsilbe for you. Save up ur money in a back up savings accounts for a rainy day. You never know. (no matter how happy and in love u may think u are now).But thats not to say, dont try put up a tough front when u fall for someone enjoy it, live life innit. But keep ur brain switched on... and in gear.

[missBee]

If you decide to get a house together you have to make sure you read the terms of the lease CAREFULLY & think about it properly.Because the last thing you want to do is to move in with your girl then you break up you leave & she moves her lover in and you are out there sleeping on someone's couch.Get a lease and sign it so you are tenants in common and that way she can't chuck you out the same way you can't chuck her out because it legally belongs to both of you. So if you have a tiff you can sell it instead of robbing someone of their half

[OldSnake]

If you decide to get a house together you have to make sure you read the terms of the lease CAREFULLY & think about it properly.Because the last thing you want to do is to move in with your girl then you break up you leave & she moves her lover in and you are out there sleeping on someone's couch.Get a lease and sign it so you are tenants in common and that way she can't chuck you out the same way you can't chuck her out because it legally belongs to both of you. So if you have a tiff you can sell it instead of robbing someone of their half

LMAOWhat happens, if she still brings man's over Some Joke ting.

[Angelo]

If you decide to get a house together you have to make sure you read the terms of the lease CAREFULLY & think about it properly.Because the last thing you want to do is to move in with your girl then you break up you leave & she moves her lover in and you are out there sleeping on someone's couch.Get a lease and sign it so you are tenants in common and that way she can't chuck you out the same way you can't chuck her out because it legally belongs to both of you. So if you have a tiff you can sell it instead of robbing someone of their half

JTA's are one of the best ways to get f*cked.If they f*ck off and get out of contact, you are equally liable for their half of the rent. If the landlord cannot go after them, they will come after you, then you will be truly bumrushed.Basically, just don't move in with someone if you're not financially stable on your own. Simple.Edit: Thought you were talking about JTA's OVIUSLEEE.

[missBee]

If you decide to get a house together you have to make sure you read the terms of the lease CAREFULLY & think about it properly.Because the last thing you want to do is to move in with your girl then you break up you leave & she moves her lover in and you are out there sleeping on someone's couch.Get a lease and sign it so you are tenants in common and that way she can't chuck you out the same way you can't chuck her out because it legally belongs to both of you. So if you have a tiff you can sell it instead of robbing someone of their half

JTA's are one of the best ways to get f*cked.If they f*ck off and get out of contact, you are equally liable for their half of the rent. If the landlord cannot go after them, they will come after you, then you will be truly bumrushed.Basically, just don't move in with someone if you're not financially stable on your own. Simple.Edit: Thought you were talking about JTA's OVIUSLEEE.

Actually it's if you are on leasehold you can be joint tenants & freehold you can be tenants in common. But if the other person runs off & it obviously puts you in a tough spot equity steps in & you might not be fully liable.

If you decide to get a house together you have to make sure you read the terms of the lease CAREFULLY & think about it properly.Because the last thing you want to do is to move in with your girl then you break up you leave & she moves her lover in and you are out there sleeping on someone's couch.Get a lease and sign it so you are tenants in common and that way she can't chuck you out the same way you can't chuck her out because it legally belongs to both of you. So if you have a tiff you can sell it instead of robbing someone of their half

LMAOWhat happens, if she still brings man's over Some Joke ting.

Well if you bought the place you can sell it off together or go to court & sort it out. If you have a contract to live in a place with your other half they can't legally move someone in permanently because it's a breach to the contract.So the least you could do is refuse them permanent entry until your lease in up & you can legally terminate it.That's why i was saying read your rights throughly before you sign the lease

[Angelo]

MissbeeLets get one thing straightDont ever test me on property law or tenancy agreements.Safe bbzxxOh and read the edit ffs.

[missBee]

MissbeeLets get one thing straightDont ever test me on property law or tenancy agreements.Safe bbzxxOh and read the edit ffs.

Ok cool

[Uncle Man]

they never made it right in the eyes of the old school lordscenario one-casual heads meet up have sex have kids move about sleeping on couches drifting btwn jobs sh*t happens,guy goes nuts kills the bitch and kidsscenario two-man and wife start a home raise a family,are not allowed to divorce cos she wants some next c*ck type excuses and evrything is blesseventually heads will go back to the lord,but for now will sleep in the filth satan has built for them

[kurious]

they never made it right in the eyes of the old school lordscenario one-casual heads meet up have sex have kids move about sleeping on couches drifting btwn jobs sh*t happens,guy goes nuts kills the bitch and kidsscenario two-man and wife start a home raise a family,are not allowed to divorce cos she wants some next c*ck type excuses and evrything is blesseventually heads will go back to the lord,but for now will sleep in the filth satan has built for them

wordwhat is soo bad u cant stand 2 look at the mother of ur kids, the woman that basically gave u a rebirth, an belittle that status to ANY pound a week, as she whores...how can u rather the father of ur children sleep on his mums settee like a wasteman and pay u some measly fee that ur likley 2 burn out on travel//looking 4 childcare, when he should be in the home u built together, stacking how does it get THAT bad? until i know that, 1st mistake was conception

[MARLO STANSFIELD]

Because the last thing you want to do is to move in with your girl then you break up you leave & she moves her lover in and you are out there sleeping on someone's couch.

to be honest next man in the house dont bother me cos REAL NIGGAS aint moving IN with a chick (check comments by other mandem to see this for yourself)from i got my OWN place to go back to i really dont care if she keeps that house.

[Davicious X]

SeenAllow making this manouver though, why would you move into chicks yard? As soon as you do that you look waste in everyones eyes including the chick who's probably thinking something along the lones of... "I hope this guy gets his act together quick cos I cant be carrying him".The more you find yourself leaning on someone the more pressure you put on them, but if all you got to offer is a decent slam then at some point they gonna get fed up with your contribution anyway. When that happens your in limbo with no place to go.f*cked up thing though is that bare of you are saying this about men but the sh*t happens to chicks too. You find them back living with their parents or crashing with friends same way as guys that put themselves in that position.If you are gonna move into your partners residence then no matter what way you slice it your a lodger. So if thats the route your taking you need to be putting yourself in a position where thats only gonna be a temporary thing while your either looking for your own accomodation or both you and your partner are looking for a next place together.With you at your partners place your not equals, you have less talk, they can move you on on a whim. Why would anyone man or woman put themselves in that position?