The power struggle between parent and child

[FACE OFF BEYOND]

i agree that im right too but then ill just proove it and be right when i live under my own roof that i pay for no matter how right you are parents dont respect your view as much as they will if ya talkin from an adult perspective and unless ya pay a major part of the mortgage and ya live with ya parents IT AINT CUTTING IT

[Dear Diary]

Mum try pushing me off the computer when I was browing this ting, slapped her in her boat and learned her good.

[Supernova]

Mum try pushing me off the computer when I was browing this ting, slapped her in her boat and learned her good.

LMAOOOOALMAOOIf I am arguing with my dad and i know hes wrongI just used Sharingan on him...and smile

[MEIRELES.]

I can never slew my parents.. Like call them names when Im argueing with them.. Its just out of respectBut if Im argueing with them I argue reasonaby because at the end of the day they bought me up and im living under their roof.At times I have let my mum or my dad feel it in an arguement when they use that "even if im wrong, im right" card

[Dear Diary]

Mum try pushing me off the computer when I was browing this ting, slapped her in her boat and learned her good.

LMAOOOOALMAOOIf I am arguing with my dad and i know hes wrongI just used Sharingan on him...and smile

bang on dis naruto ting i see

[John Galt]

check thisI'm about to leave the house fully dressed and everything, door on the handle and my dad asked are you going out. I laugh and say isn't it obvious. My auntie is there so he goes mad, sayin i'm being disrespectful, clocks me 3 times in the jaw his going for the 4th and i punch him in the face to get him off.Till this day my auntie is still telling her kids how im dat cousine you shouldn't grow up to be like.Fair?

Depending on your tone of voice, you were in the wrong.How can you laugh when your parent asks you a question? Dumb question or not just answer it.It's obvious to you and most other people, but you should be old enough to know Nigerian parents are not always the most logical people.It's not about hitting your parents. You have no respect for him? Just push him off or something.If you want to win with Nigerian parents, remain calm, maintain your composure and argue with reason and logic.They might claim a victory to save face, but they will know for next time and won't want to appear foolish.

[spiderman]

ye allow raising your hand to your parents, straight disrespect ting, no matter wat they do.

[Dear Diary]

ye allow raising your hand to your parents, straight disrespect ting, no matter wat they do.

so you're telling me if your mum, right now, told you to get off the computer and push you off the chair you wouldn't even grips her up?

[John Galt]

ye allow raising your hand to your parents, straight disrespect ting, no matter wat they do.

so you're telling me if your mum, right now, told you to get off the computer and push you off the chair you wouldn't even grips her up?

And people wonder why the country is in the state it's in.

[Supernova]

Hmmm....Reading what u saidhe hyped abitpunched u 3 times in te jawsorry thats when my dad stops being my dad and becomes my fatherpunish me anyway u want yehbut i am miniture him...as soon as he wants to hit me like i am a random guy on the street...then thats the relationship between usI would leave

[Dear Diary]

ye allow raising your hand to your parents, straight disrespect ting, no matter wat they do.

so you're telling me if your mum, right now, told you to get off the computer and push you off the chair you wouldn't even grips her up?

And people wonder why the country is in the state it's in.

[spiderman]

ye allow raising your hand to your parents, straight disrespect ting, no matter wat they do.

so you're telling me if your mum, right now, told you to get off the computer and push you off the chair you wouldn't even grips her up?

LMAO, how old are you.i aint gonna lie ive pushed my marj certain times wen i switch, but wudnt gripse her up cos she is smaller than me now. but ye ive gripsed my dad up a few times. i wudnt say its right but wen im switching i cant control wat i do sumtimes.but LLOW PUNCHING DEM or proper tryna fight back. if you dont understand that then you obviously dont respect your parents enough.and as for my marj pushing me off the chair, she wudnt cos shud aint strong enuff to move me about if i refuse to lol. if my dad come den its a different story, but id worm out of it some way lol.

[FANTA]

A lil while ago me and my Mum were having a discussion about house work seeing as i'm lumped with everything and my lil borthers (one is 15 the other 13) dont do sh*t.The conclusion was that we'd write up a rota and take turns but until that time we'd have to agree between ourselves as to who would do what.So couple days later my Mum asked me to do the hoover then i say "ah its Chris's turn" to which she agree's and my brother does the hoover with no problems.Later on that night my Dad walks in from work in "im going to find something thats wrong" mode, he notices that the hoover was done and ask's my Mum who done it she's says Chris to which my Dad blows up accusing me of not doing anything in the house.He shouts at me from downstairs to come out of my room, when i do im greeted with a tirade about "if you dont want to do anything you can pack your bags and go" at this point my Mum is standing next to him just nodding.I couldn't help but laugh.When i mentioned it to my Mum the other day she said "i only agreed to the rota to make you happy you was giving me stress".Pissed is not the word.

[Dear Diary]

ye allow raising your hand to your parents, straight disrespect ting, no matter wat they do.

so you're telling me if your mum, right now, told you to get off the computer and push you off the chair you wouldn't even grips her up?

LMAO, how old are you.

26

[Black Casper]

yea i argue if i have a point to make, but i never let it get aggressive thoif i know that they are in the wrong sumhow, then instead of arguing, i will try and turn it into a discussion armshouse with my dad is definitely not the one

[o-guy]

i hear wat your saying.... hitting the parentals is never the one. But that thing about i should of pushed him off lol, wat do u think i was trying to do during the first 3 punches.But still i did wrong and i apologised to the old man for it.But you can't say theres no situation where fighting back is justified.So a grown man whos 35 that still gets smaked around by his dad shouldn't fight back?come on man

[John Galt]

i hear wat your saying.... hitting the parentals is never the one. But that thing about i should of pushed him off lol, wat do u think i was trying to do during the first 3 punches.But still i did wrong and i apologised to the old man for it.But you can't say theres no situation where fighting back is justified.So a grown man whos 35 that still gets smaked around by his dad shouldn't fight back?come on man

A 35 year old man getting smacked about by his dad is a failure.Are you 35?

[o-guy]

i hear wat your saying.... hitting the parentals is never the one. But that thing about i should of pushed him off lol, wat do u think i was trying to do during the first 3 punches.But still i did wrong and i apologised to the old man for it.But you can't say theres no situation where fighting back is justified.So a grown man whos 35 that still gets smaked around by his dad shouldn't fight back?come on man

A 35 year old man getting smacked about by his dad is a failure.Are you 35?

lol im 18. But wat u said about a 35 yr old man being a failure proves my point. U aint much if regularly get slapped around by your dad, it underminds you as a man.

[John Galt]

i hear wat your saying.... hitting the parentals is never the one. But that thing about i should of pushed him off lol, wat do u think i was trying to do during the first 3 punches.But still i did wrong and i apologised to the old man for it.But you can't say theres no situation where fighting back is justified.So a grown man whos 35 that still gets smaked around by his dad shouldn't fight back?come on man

A 35 year old man getting smacked about by his dad is a failure.Are you 35?

lol im 18. But wat u said about a 35 yr old man being a failure proves my point. U aint much if regularly get slapped around by your dad, it underminds you as a man.

There is a world of difference between an 18 year old being slapped by his dad and a 35 year old man receiving the same treatment.Despite what you may think, even at 18 you still have alot to learn.

[Bacardi_Up]

check thisI'm about to leave the house fully dressed and everything, door on the handle and my dad asked are you going out. I laugh and say isn't it obvious. My auntie is there so he goes mad, sayin i'm being disrespectful, clocks me 3 times in the jaw his going for the 4th and i punch him in the face to get him off.Till this day my auntie is still telling her kids how im dat cousine you shouldn't grow up to be like.Fair?

Depending on your tone of voice, you were in the wrong.How can you laugh when your parent asks you a question? Dumb question or not just answer it.It's obvious to you and most other people, but you should be old enough to know Nigerian parents are not always the most logical people.It's not about hitting your parents. You have no respect for him? Just push him off or something.If you want to win with Nigerian parents, remain calm, maintain your composure and argue with reason and logic.They might claim a victory to save face, but they will know for next time and won't want to appear foolish.

If I got punched 3-4 times in the face I would have hit back.My dad never tolerated disrespect but he never would punch me round my face, besides my dad knows I have a short fuse like him and would lamp one back especially since I am bigger than him but even when I was smaller than him he wouldn't take things to them extremes.O-Guy I would have done the same.

[spiderman]

hmm i dunno man, i cant see myself decking my dad, unless its gone so extreme that i jus think f*ck living wid him ima pack up and cut out. which would mean cuttin my parents out my life which i aint willing to let happen over something that really in the end wudnt be worth it.

[Benicio del Toney]

A lil while ago me and my Mum were having a discussion about house work seeing as i'm lumped with everything and my lil borthers (one is 15 the other 13) dont do sh*t.The conclusion was that we'd write up a rota and take turns but until that time we'd have to agree between ourselves as to who would do what.So couple days later my Mum asked me to do the hoover then i say "ah its Chris's turn" to which she agree's and my brother does the hoover with no problems.Later on that night my Dad walks in from work in "im going to find something thats wrong" mode, he notices that the hoover was done and ask's my Mum who done it she's says Chris to which my Dad blows up accusing me of not doing anything in the house.He shouts at me from downstairs to come out of my room, when i do im greeted with a tirade about "if you dont want to do anything you can pack your bags and go" at this point my Mum is standing next to him just nodding.I couldn't help but laugh.When i mentioned it to my Mum the other day she said "i only agreed to the rota to make you happy you was giving me stress".Pissed is not the word.

I hear that.I promise myself I will be the most fair dad on the planet, its not about acting like a f*cking idiot for no reason.In relation to the thread I would never lay a finger on my mum, not even a push.Anyone else will get f*cked up.

[Accra]

I only live with my mum so raising a hand to a parent isn't even an option. The power struggle is real though. being back from Uni for holidays is HARD! I'm used to living with friends and fending for myself and she's ordering me around all the time.If she starts shouting about something minor like housework I've now taken to laughing and asking her why she's shouting over nothing. She just feels silly in the end but obviously I still end up doing it. It's funny though coz as I'm growing up I'm seeing the unfair sh*t she had me doing that she could/should be doing and when she asks me now I say no. Sometimes I win that one, sometimes I lose.Arguments are not the one though. Can't even tell her if she's acting wrong. Called my mum a hypocrite once and she went on like I slapped her in the face! Wouldn't talk to me for 3 days after the argument had long been resolved until I came and apologised. Had a big fight yesterday about uni coz she's saying I should change my study pattern. I don't like when she butts into my life like I'm stil 16. At this point in my life all I need from her is support. The guidance part is over and now I need to figure things out for myself.

[Social]

I only live with my mum so raising a hand to a parent isn't even an option. The power struggle is real though. being back from Uni for holidays is HARD! I'm used to living with friends and fending for myself and she's ordering me around all the time.If she starts shouting about something minor like housework I've now taken to laughing and asking her why she's shouting over nothing. She just feels silly in the end but obviously I still end up doing it. It's funny though coz as I'm growing up I'm seeing the unfair sh*t she had me doing that she could/should be doing and when she asks me now I say no. Sometimes I win that one, sometimes I lose.Arguments are not the one though. Can't even tell her if she's acting wrong. Called my mum a hypocrite once and she went on like I slapped her in the face! Wouldn't talk to me for 3 days after the argument had long been resolved until I came and apologised. Had a big fight yesterday about uni coz she's saying I should change my study pattern. I don't like when she butts into my life like I'm stil 16. At this point in my life all I need from her is support. The guidance part is over and now I need to figure things out for myself.

lol good luck with that still

[caine]

Have you ever considered actually helping your mother ? Do some cleaning up and let her rest , it wont kill you .