Stamina Man Posted June 17, 2008 Report Share Posted June 17, 2008 Say there's people who are feeling upset or something like that, feeling down, or something bother them, but they won't talk about it, or tell anyone what's the matter.How would someone go about talking to them, and finding out what's the matter, if you get what I mean.I know there's people who find it hard to talk about their problems, and like to keep it bottled up, how would I find out what's the matter, or persuade them to talk about it, without pressuring them or sounding like a c*nt?When something like this comes up, me being me, always assumes the worst, and it's always in my head, what the problem could be.If anyone can give me some tips, it would be appreciated.I am good with this kind of thing, but I have tried everything I can think of.It upsets me knowing something's wrong, and not being able to help. (I care about this person, I wouldn't normally be bothered, but it effect me when they are down also)Serious replies only, thanks.(By the way, they cannot talk about their problems to anyone, it's not just me) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
local Posted June 17, 2008 Report Share Posted June 17, 2008 don't keep hasslin or they'll block u Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stamina Man Posted June 17, 2008 Author Report Share Posted June 17, 2008 don't keep hasslin or they'll block uIt's not even that tbh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lofa Posted June 17, 2008 Report Share Posted June 17, 2008 They don't trust you or fear your reaction Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stamina Man Posted June 17, 2008 Author Report Share Posted June 17, 2008 They don't trust you or fear your reactionBut they are like this to everyone, not just me.As far as I know, i'm just the only one who goes out of my way to help them with their problems. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Em Dott Posted June 17, 2008 Report Share Posted June 17, 2008 Respect their decision to not talk to you and just let them know if they want to, you are there.Trust me, I'm one of those people that hates when people constantly bug me. If I want to talk to you about it, I will in my own good time. Sometimes people need time to themselves to just think. Nothing worse than someone pestering you when you need to be in your own zone.All you can do is support them in other ways, but I cannot stress enough how important it is not to pester them into telling you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest David Braund Posted June 17, 2008 Report Share Posted June 17, 2008 dont bug them about itdont constantly asktalk about sutin differentnot everyone likes or even feels the need to discuss every aspect of their life Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LuLu Posted June 17, 2008 Report Share Posted June 17, 2008 they probably just don't know how to talk to you about it and may think you will look at them in a different way or maybe they don't want to put a downer on you as well considering they are already on a downer, they don't want to infect with their misery.some people in general are just well reserved, keep themselves to themselves no matter what the situation is. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lieutenant Posted June 17, 2008 Report Share Posted June 17, 2008 I am THAT person tbh, DO NOT bug them and keep asking them.If they wanna tell you they will, if they feel comfortable with telling you they will.Just let them know your there for them and talk to them bout other stuff, try make them smile.remember you can't force or trick them into telling you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stamina Man Posted June 17, 2008 Author Report Share Posted June 17, 2008 Safe for the replies, it helped.I think i will try and leave it, they have said they want to tell me though, and said they have tried to tell me what it is, but can't. That's what's making me think it's something bad.They said to me, they are like it a lot, just don't let it show, which made it worse for me lol.Always in my head what it could be, has been for time, I get bare different ideas and then start to believe that's the problem. (I'm f*cked like that)But yeah safe, I will try and allow asking for a bit, hopefully they can talk to me soon.Get the feeling they can't trust me now as well, after I will tell them anything and trust them not to say a word. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Axiom Posted June 17, 2008 Report Share Posted June 17, 2008 dont bug them about itdont constantly asktalk about sutin differentnot everyone likes or even feels the need to discuss every aspect of their lifehuge c/s in yr jawside Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fresh Posted June 17, 2008 Report Share Posted June 17, 2008 Are you sure it doesn't bother you more not knowing the problem, than it does them? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Angelo Posted June 17, 2008 Report Share Posted June 17, 2008 Stop being such a nosey c*nt.If they wanted to tell you they would.About "I want to"Thats just cue for people to say "oohh I want to"Make other people hover like flies and give them attention.Then when they stop.Drop some more "ooh its really bad" crumbsAnd get more attention.Dont be a sucker for that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrbillion Posted June 17, 2008 Report Share Posted June 17, 2008 Respect There Decision .. Dont Beg It .. There Attention Seekers ... They Will Carry On If U Give In Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stamina Man Posted June 18, 2008 Author Report Share Posted June 18, 2008 Are you sure it doesn't bother you more not knowing the problem, than it does them?They do know what the problem is, just won't tell me what it is, bothers me seeing them upset, and knowing I cannot help, because I don't know the reason their feeling down.Stop being such a nosey c*nt.If they wanted to tell you they would.About "I want to"Thats just cue for people to say "oohh I want to"Make other people hover like flies and give them attention.Then when they stop.Drop some more "ooh its really bad" crumbsAnd get more attention.Dont be a sucker for that.It's not even about being nosey, it's my girlfriend, anyone else and I wouldn't give a sh*t to be honest, don't think it's attention seeking though. I have been informed on the problem, I should have thought about it before going on trying to make her feel better.Have learned to say it once, and leave it, however much it f*cks with my head.Respect There Decision .. Dont Beg It .. There Attention Seekers ... They Will Carry On If U Give InShe wasn't really seeking attention, she bought it up once, and I couldn't let it drop, I just wanted to know what the problem was.Safe for all the replies though, I learned that I should ask once, and drop it, let her talk to me in her own time.When you care about someone, you don't want to see them upset, and you want to be able to help them./thread Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shawn_Carter Posted June 18, 2008 Report Share Posted June 18, 2008 Never been in a positon where I've cared about finding out why someone is upset. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stamina Man Posted June 18, 2008 Author Report Share Posted June 18, 2008 Never been in a positon where I've cared about finding out why someone is upset.Neither have I until now tbh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Angelo Posted June 18, 2008 Report Share Posted June 18, 2008 Its your girlfriend?And she brought it up but wont tell you?Im not even gonna go into this, but...You're pissed, deeply.I cannot emphasize how pissed you are from now enough. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stamina Man Posted June 18, 2008 Author Report Share Posted June 18, 2008 Its your girlfriend?And she brought it up but wont tell you?Im not even gonna go into this, but...You're pissed, deeply.I cannot emphasize how pissed you are from now enough.Alie :DWas more upset/disappointed than pissed.It's bless now though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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