Why Chinese mothers are superior

[MARVELL]

Thats the thing, I was told about the 4 year old being bought a TV for his room by an excited mother, and when i didnt share in this excitment a disscussion then arguement developed

it wasn't some random woman i saw in Curry's and i just thought lemme put my two pence worth in,

and in light of the telling parents how to raise their children, i'm a firm believer that when you see a friend making a massive mistake you should alert them to it. i aint one of thee sit down and watch others drown kinda guy,

Does anyone in here think its a good idea to but a child who turnt 4 in December a Tv for their room?

i mean honestly, come on, certain people make some really dumb decisions,

and their excuse is, "I love my son and my parents did the same for me" now this wouldnt be so bad, however when the person in question come outa school with no qualifications, hada a yout with some wasteman who dont help her at all and the only good thing to come from said persons life is her yout,

buying a 4 year old a TV for their bedroom by definition is basically saying ok, lil man you jam in here while im other in the other room, 5

fo a child who just turnt 4 thats a serious d*ckhead ting, surely in anyones book.

Depends completely on the parent or person looking after the child. Cant really sit and claim that buying a child of that age a tv for their room is stupid when u dont know the rules in place set by the parent regarding the tv. Maybe the woman in question that you spoke to on the subject yes, but the same doesnt go for everyone tbh. If the parents gonna use the tv as a f*ck*ng babysitter then yeah its stupidity but some parents want to allow their kids to watch their own films and programmes in their own room sometimes. My nephew is four and has a tv in his room, but he doesnt even watch it that much. There are rules in place that mean he isnt able to just sit in his room and watch tv from the time he gets home from school to the time he has to go to bed, more important things always come first and he doesnt take it as i have a tv i can watch it when i want. Cant really throw everyone in that situation into one big group and act asif buying a tv for a child that ages room = the child in the room watching their tv so parents/guardians dont have to do anything. some parents will be this stupid and lazy, its not the same for everyone atall.

If your gonna be f*ck*ng lazy about it and use the tv as a way to avoid doing anything yourself of course theyre gonna end up failing in school, not everyones that stupid to buy a tv for their child with this way of thinking. Cant really look at it so one sided, same goes with buying your child anything that can easily distract them, if your not gonna put smart rules in place then your own stupidity is whats gonna mess up your childs future.

all that text defending a 4 yr old having a TV in the bedroom? that is stupid in itself. there no long ting about this

no 4 yr old should have a TV in the bedroom. at that age the child should learn about family time

i.e. the living room. and the activities should be monitored.

theres no bloody reason anyone can give as far as im concerned, i dont care if you're bill gates son.

its just plain careless parenting, and we know the amt of watless parents out there. defend all you like

certain things are just f*ck*ng basic. these are the kind of idiot mums that give their 2 yr olds coke.

[Kompressor]

LOL

wouldn't go as far as the coke thing but yeah,

To be quite frank after reading your post i cme to the conclusion that even tho at times throughout it i was nodding my heads and saying "ok fair enough"

i will NEVER agree with buying a 4 YEAR OLD CHILD a tv for their room,

ITS UTTER LUNACY,

peaople unwittingly make mistakes day by day, that i can say ohh fair enough to,

However obvious mistakes like this smacks of someone with a utter disregard of where certain things can lead,

Less than a month ago this child was 3 you know, he aint even going into Reception till September,

[Steven]

I'm under the impression that a lot of the pressure they put on their children isnt strictly for their benefit. A lot of it is to do with how others (outside their family) perceive them and their parenting abilities...Which is wrong.

[Trim]

LOL

wouldn't go as far as the coke thing but yeah,

To be quite frank after reading your post i cme to the conclusion that even tho at times throughout it i was nodding my heads and saying "ok fair enough"

i will NEVER agree with buying a 4 YEAR OLD CHILD a tv for their room,

ITS UTTER LUNACY,

peaople unwittingly make mistakes day by day, that i can say ohh fair enough to,

However obvious mistakes like this smacks of someone with a utter disregard of where certain things can lead,

Less than a month ago this child was 3 you know, he aint even going into Reception till September,

well my nephews wasnt bought for him so i cant really speak on the whole buying aspect so much, it was just an old tv we had that still works.

As for the tv in the room thing as i said imo it depends completely on the parents/guardians and what rules they have in place. my nephews barely gets watched and whenever he does watch it someones with him watching the tv, things like his homework are always done first and all he's watching on the tv is kids shows and kids films that he would be watching on the main tv in the house anyway. I see no problem with a seperate tv for a young child to watch kids stuff on when the other tv's in the house are in use and the rules of when he can and catch watch it are being abided by.

Cant really see my nephew going downhill academically because he has a tv in his bedroom tbh. Im not sure whether most peoples problem is the fact it was bought for the child (if this is the case i can understand more) or simply the fact the kid has their own tv in their room.

[Guest Waka Flocka Dave]

lol @ first i wasnt allowed a TV in my room till i was about 8

then at about 11i think i got my own computer, before i wasnt allowed one in my room

friday night channel 5 softcore porn and downloading photoshopped images through ask jeeves made me the man i am today

the rules just eroded over time

[Kompressor]

^^^^

Nuff said

Night all.

[Skola]

yeah its not exactly the location of the tv

but more that one in the bedroom implies he has unregulated / unrestricted access to it

like them "gaming addicts" that stay up all night playing MMORPGS then fall asleep in school coz they are exhausted

like you've said - if the rules are there, its ok

[Michel Kane]

Had a TV & Telewest cable in my room at 10 yrs old.

I turned out fine. TBH, I loved reading, drawing, playing football & generally being outside anyway so it all balanced out.

[Skenghis Khan]

i wasnt allowed tv in room, only allowed to watch a little bit a day, when dad came in the room it was a hand the remote over thing, was never allowed games consoles or sweets. was encouraged to play out.

they were stricter with my sisters, they werent allowed out, had curfews etc

[BLACK VICTIM]

i remember as a kid having curfew i'd adjust my phone time 1 hour n come in dead on an hour late, how f*ck*ng bait

didnt have a tv in my room as a yute due to poverty

n i wasnt allowed computer in my room coz i would never come out

[MARVELL]

Had a TV & Telewest cable in my room at 10 yrs old.

I turned out fine. TBH, I loved reading, drawing, playing football & generally being outside anyway so it all balanced out.

so you dont think that had anything to do with your moisture later in life?

[Michel Kane]

I hoped that sounded funny in your head...

Good effort.

[MARVELL]

was a serious question still

and 4 years if 6 years away from 10.

not sure why you chose to mention you had a tv in your room @10

when the argument was over having the same @ 4yrs

[carpedeum]

i would never allow a TV in my daughters room at 4. i wasnt granted much tv time by my parents and im happy for that as im still very selective about the TV i watch. 90% trash

i respect the mother's ethic, but agree there should be a degree of balance. what worked for one sibling wont always work for the other.

however i really like what the older daughter said in her response which sums up her mother's approach and i definitely agree with:

The desire to live a meaningful life is universal. To some people, it’s working toward a goal. To others, it’s enjoying every minute of every day. So what does it really mean to live life to the fullest? Maybe striving to win a Nobel Prize and going skydiving are just two sides of the same coin. To me, it’s not about achievement or self-gratification. It’s about knowing that you've pushed yourself, body and mind, to the limits of your own potential.

how a parent goes about that is unique to them, but should be essential imo.