The power struggle between parent and child

[o-guy]

I just had an argument wit my dad and in my angered state said sum things that a couple of years back i wouldn't of dared to. The argument was so bad we almost came to blows. Point being... it got me thinking. Even though there is sum stuff i know i shouldn't say and do to my parents, i still feel that if my dad is acting like a child i should be able to say so (but according to african tradition even this is highly disrespectful) especially when considering i'm not a child anymore.Is it really such a bad thing to shout to get your point across when your mum/dad is being unreasonable?Now that we're grown can we speak anyhow to our parents, if we feel they deserve it?Is it still unthinkable to raise your hand against a parent?What are your thoughts.

[DINKY]

Yeah I fend myself now like wont have it cuss backwhen I was younger I was scared done it when I was 15 and the bitch kicked me out she tries still run that sh*t now I think we can because I am not having my mum calling me a c*ntor my dad try chat to me in his yardie accent like I am suppose to be shook like I was 12yeah I will never raise my hand or nothing but I would defend myself

[Em Dott]

I just had an argument wit my dad and in my angered state said sum things that a couple of years back i wouldn't of dared to. The argument was so bad we almost came to blows. Point being... it got me thinking. Even though there is sum stuff i know i shouldn't say and do to my parents, i still feel that if my dad is acting like a child i should be able to say so (but according to african tradition even this is highly disrespectful) especially when considering i'm not a child anymore.Is it really such a bad thing to shout to get your point across when your mum/dad is being unreasonable?Now that we're grown can we speak anyhow to our parents, if we feel they deserve it?Is it still unthinkable to raise your hand against a parent?What are your thoughts.

As long as you are under their roof and still wish to have a relationship with them you need to hold it down and try and argue as reasonably as possible, but that's near impossible if your parents are fresh from the motherland.I have the same problem with my dad. I've had to bite my tongue on so many occasions, and actually relatively recently where he and my aunt have fallen out completely. If I was stable enough to live on my own and keep sh*t moving without any financial help from him I would have let him feel it. I don't want it to come to that, but if the opportunity rears it's ugly head at that time, I will not hold back. And everything I will say will be true and just.But right now, even if he's wrong he's right.

[kurious]

i wasnt aware here was allowed 2 b a power struggle even if the child is right and the parent wrong it was always parent 1 child nil in my house

[Supernova]

Power struggle...whatStruggle....Huh...once a discussion becomes aggresive i ent allowed to talk

[Rsonist]

I called my Dad a c*nt all the time.Useless old pillock, really got him going though.Had fights all the time with him, some Dads just deserve that treatment.

[Em Dott]

I'm so glad I'm not a teenager anymore and not living under my Dad's roof anymore. Though I live with my aunt, I never get into arguments with her becuase she respects me as an adult, but I still know we're not on the same level.

[Apache]

I would never call either of my parents any kind of names, it's a respect thing.Simple as.

[Guest Scorpzz]

When I was young I was SHOOK to even back answer my parents, but now I argue with my dad all the time there has been points where it almost became physical. But now usually when I argue with him we just don't talk for a very long time.But you should try and keep it civil unless they are just behaving madly, but if you live in a family that 100% based on respect no matter what you do they will feel like your underminding their authority and you will lose arguements all the time as soon as they drop the lines 'my house my rules'

[DINKY]

get me glad I live on my own aswell but still when I come round my mum tries tell me to pack the dishwasher and mop the kitchen floor

[o-guy]

I just had an argument wit my dad and in my angered state said sum things that a couple of years back i wouldn't of dared to. The argument was so bad we almost came to blows. Point being... it got me thinking. Even though there is sum stuff i know i shouldn't say and do to my parents, i still feel that if my dad is acting like a child i should be able to say so (but according to african tradition even this is highly disrespectful) especially when considering i'm not a child anymore.Is it really such a bad thing to shout to get your point across when your mum/dad is being unreasonable?Now that we're grown can we speak anyhow to our parents, if we feel they deserve it?Is it still unthinkable to raise your hand against a parent?What are your thoughts.

As long as you are under their roof and still wish to have a relationship with them you need to hold it down and try and argue as reasonably as possible, but that's near impossible if your parents are fresh from the motherland.I have the same problem with my dad. I've had to bite my tongue on so many occasions, and actually relatively recently where he and my aunt have fallen out completely. If I was stable enough to live on my own and keep sh*t moving without any financial help from him I would have let him feel it. I don't want it to come to that, but if the opportunity rears it's ugly head at that time, I will not hold back. And everything I will say will be true and just.But right now, even if he's wrong he's right.

Thats wat im talkin about though. check thisI'm about to leave the house fully dressed and everything, door on the handle and my dad asked are you going out. I laugh and say isn't it obvious. My auntie is there so he goes mad, sayin i'm being disrespectful, clocks me 3 times in the jaw his going for the 4th and i punch him in the face to get him off.Till this day my auntie is still telling her kids how im dat cousine you shouldn't grow up to be like.Fair?

[DINKY]

lmao that story sounds jokesyour auntie has a point she might think you fight up your dad all the timeand your actual immediate family keeps it on a husho-guy how you find out about the forum I know u read that sket thread and everythingsomeone tell you about it?

[McLovin' Jones]

I just had an argument wit my dad and in my angered state said sum things that a couple of years back i wouldn't of dared to. The argument was so bad we almost came to blows. Point being... it got me thinking. Even though there is sum stuff i know i shouldn't say and do to my parents, i still feel that if my dad is acting like a child i should be able to say so (but according to african tradition even this is highly disrespectful) especially when considering i'm not a child anymore.Is it really such a bad thing to shout to get your point across when your mum/dad is being unreasonable?Now that we're grown can we speak anyhow to our parents, if we feel they deserve it?Is it still unthinkable to raise your hand against a parent?What are your thoughts.

As long as you are under their roof and still wish to have a relationship with them you need to hold it down and try and argue as reasonably as possible, but that's near impossible if your parents are fresh from the motherland.I have the same problem with my dad. I've had to bite my tongue on so many occasions, and actually relatively recently where he and my aunt have fallen out completely. If I was stable enough to live on my own and keep sh*t moving without any financial help from him I would have let him feel it. I don't want it to come to that, but if the opportunity rears it's ugly head at that time, I will not hold back. And everything I will say will be true and just.But right now, even if he's wrong he's right.

Thats wat im talkin about though. check thisI'm about to leave the house fully dressed and everything, door on the handle and my dad asked are you going out. I laugh and say isn't it obvious. My auntie is there so he goes mad, sayin i'm being disrespectful, clocks me 3 times in the jaw his going for the 4th and i punch him in the face to get him off.Till this day my auntie is still telling her kids how im dat cousine you shouldn't grow up to be like.Fair?

That's how it goes sometimes unfortunately...I've had BARE heated discussions with my parents and because they're African, there's that 'even if I'm wrong, I'm right attitude'....I'll tell anybody straight...f*ck THAT MENTALITY...Listen. It's 2007. You live in England now...A parent might tell I'm being disrespectful but I tell 'em this...I'd have MORE respect if you recognized you're in the wrong here. You don't have to apologize as if I was the parent and you were the child but don't bring the hype...

[Em Dott]

O-Guy, what part of Africa your parents from?And that's pissed, but you have to soldier it. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, and when you are old enough to look after yourself and be your own man without anyone else's help, you can show him how he used to gwan wasn't cool. Trust me, just bide your time.I'm suffering now because of my Dad. He was basically punishing me for his falling out wiht my aunt becuase I live with her. I wanted to tell him that, but I thought out the possible outcomes and knew it wouldn't work out in my favour just yet. Trust, just bide your time.

[o-guy]

lmao that story sounds jokesyour auntie has a point she might think you fight up your dad all the timeand your actual immediate family keeps it on a husho-guy how you find out about the forum I know u read that sket thread and everythingsomeone tell you about it?

i was chillen wit scorpz and i saw him typing away on this thing, said it was live so here i am.

[spiderman]

as you get older, and become a parent yourself, you realise moretime they just looking after you and want the best for you in the long run.sum sh*t may seem unreasonable and mad at the time, but most of it wen u look back at it would have been for your own good. long for stating examples but it works in most cases.i cant say i agree with my parents most the time, and its always gonna be a power sturggle, but lookin at what they do from 3rd person and an outside perspective, i couldnt have asked for better parents and i hope to be able to be the same sorta parent to my own kids one day.parenting is f*ckin hard work, i dunno how they do it.DISCLAIMER: sumtimes i totally disagree wid sum decision my parents make, even looking at it from a different persepctive, it aint helpin me much, but i gotta agree wid whoever sed bite your tongue and let em be right, if i wanna live under there roof peacefully.

[o-guy]

O-Guy, what part of Africa your parents from?And that's pissed, but you have to soldier it. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, and when you are old enough to look after yourself and be your own man without anyone else's help, you can show him how he used to gwan wasn't cool. Trust me, just bide your time.I'm suffering now because of my Dad. He was basically punishing me for his falling out wiht my aunt becuase I live with her. I wanted to tell him that, but I thought out the possible outcomes and knew it wouldn't work out in my favour just yet. Trust, just bide your time.

Nigeria cuz, u a fellow nigah man?

[Playa:President]

I would say my folks and I have a pretty solid relationship but no doubt they are on the wrond sometimes.I jus let it slide and keep it moving

[Em Dott]

O-Guy, what part of Africa your parents from?And that's pissed, but you have to soldier it. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, and when you are old enough to look after yourself and be your own man without anyone else's help, you can show him how he used to gwan wasn't cool. Trust me, just bide your time.I'm suffering now because of my Dad. He was basically punishing me for his falling out wiht my aunt becuase I live with her. I wanted to tell him that, but I thought out the possible outcomes and knew it wouldn't work out in my favour just yet. Trust, just bide your time.

Nigeria cuz, u a fellow nigah man?

For some reason I thought it was a Nigerian ting. Me, I'm quarter Nigerian.

[spiderman]

I just had an argument wit my dad and in my angered state said sum things that a couple of years back i wouldn't of dared to. The argument was so bad we almost came to blows. Point being... it got me thinking. Even though there is sum stuff i know i shouldn't say and do to my parents, i still feel that if my dad is acting like a child i should be able to say so (but according to african tradition even this is highly disrespectful) especially when considering i'm not a child anymore.Is it really such a bad thing to shout to get your point across when your mum/dad is being unreasonable?Now that we're grown can we speak anyhow to our parents, if we feel they deserve it?Is it still unthinkable to raise your hand against a parent?What are your thoughts.

As long as you are under their roof and still wish to have a relationship with them you need to hold it down and try and argue as reasonably as possible, but that's near impossible if your parents are fresh from the motherland.I have the same problem with my dad. I've had to bite my tongue on so many occasions, and actually relatively recently where he and my aunt have fallen out completely. If I was stable enough to live on my own and keep sh*t moving without any financial help from him I would have let him feel it. I don't want it to come to that, but if the opportunity rears it's ugly head at that time, I will not hold back. And everything I will say will be true and just.But right now, even if he's wrong he's right.

Thats wat im talkin about though. check thisI'm about to leave the house fully dressed and everything, door on the handle and my dad asked are you going out. I laugh and say isn't it obvious. My auntie is there so he goes mad, sayin i'm being disrespectful, clocks me 3 times in the jaw his going for the 4th and i punch him in the face to get him off.Till this day my auntie is still telling her kids how im dat cousine you shouldn't grow up to be like.Fair?

That's how it goes sometimes unfortunately...I've had BARE heated discussions with my parents and because they're African, there's that 'even if I'm wrong, I'm right attitude'....I'll tell anybody straight...f*ck THAT MENTALITY...Listen. It's 2007. You live in England now...A parent might tell I'm being disrespectful but I tell 'em this...I'd have MORE respect if you recognized you're in the wrong here. You don't have to apologize as if I was the parent and you were the child but don't bring the hype...

LMAO, ye i see what your saying, on dese stupid fings they fink u disrespecting n sh*t (its a parent ting) but for now u jus gotta bite ur tongue. no point wasting your breath tryna get em to admit they are wrong cos it wont happen lol. its true u jus gotta soldier it.

[Ella]

never have and never will raise my hand to the 'rents, and i don't argue-i just bite my tongue. if they're in the wrong and they know it, they'll usually fess up and apologise(in their own parent-like way). but there have been a couple of times when they've been too stubborn that i've had to get my point across, but in a nice way cos mumsy said i will never be too old for a west african clapdown.

[spiderman]

I just had an argument wit my dad and in my angered state said sum things that a couple of years back i wouldn't of dared to. The argument was so bad we almost came to blows. Point being... it got me thinking. Even though there is sum stuff i know i shouldn't say and do to my parents, i still feel that if my dad is acting like a child i should be able to say so (but according to african tradition even this is highly disrespectful) especially when considering i'm not a child anymore.Is it really such a bad thing to shout to get your point across when your mum/dad is being unreasonable?Now that we're grown can we speak anyhow to our parents, if we feel they deserve it?Is it still unthinkable to raise your hand against a parent?What are your thoughts.

As long as you are under their roof and still wish to have a relationship with them you need to hold it down and try and argue as reasonably as possible, but that's near impossible if your parents are fresh from the motherland.I have the same problem with my dad. I've had to bite my tongue on so many occasions, and actually relatively recently where he and my aunt have fallen out completely. If I was stable enough to live on my own and keep sh*t moving without any financial help from him I would have let him feel it. I don't want it to come to that, but if the opportunity rears it's ugly head at that time, I will not hold back. And everything I will say will be true and just.But right now, even if he's wrong he's right.

Thats wat im talkin about though. check thisI'm about to leave the house fully dressed and everything, door on the handle and my dad asked are you going out. I laugh and say isn't it obvious. My auntie is there so he goes mad, sayin i'm being disrespectful, clocks me 3 times in the jaw his going for the 4th and i punch him in the face to get him off.Till this day my auntie is still telling her kids how im dat cousine you shouldn't grow up to be like.Fair?

LMAO, the amount of times ive been in dat situation and got licks for stupid little fings dat IMO they blow out of proportion. ive fought back couple times, never punched tho jus grappled lol.sh*t like dat comes from other things, cos maybe they feel u dnt appreciate wat they do for u, and a tiny bit of attitude might jus be wat pushes them over the edge after lots of lil fings have built up, and they jus go mad.in your view they over acting, but in der view they fink they will expressing pent up rage over lots of things.IMO no matter how hard u try fight the system, it aint gonna work, u always have to admit there right if u want their support and to live under there roof, and jus to keep the relationship wid dem.from experience i know now jus to hold it down, let a few tings slide for now. the best way to get a smooth pass into adulthood lol.

[FACE OFF BEYOND]

boy i put the fear in my son so he feel say him wicked step up

[Mr Q]

O-Guy, what part of Africa your parents from?And that's pissed, but you have to soldier it. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, and when you are old enough to look after yourself and be your own man without anyone else's help, you can show him how he used to gwan wasn't cool. Trust me, just bide your time.I'm suffering now because of my Dad. He was basically punishing me for his falling out wiht my aunt becuase I live with her. I wanted to tell him that, but I thought out the possible outcomes and knew it wouldn't work out in my favour just yet. Trust, just bide your time.

Nigeria cuz, u a fellow nigah man?

For some reason I thought it was a Nigerian ting. Me, I'm quarter Nigerian.

Is a nigerian ting! My mum always used to come with that attitude that she was always right as if we lived in nigeria and i would just have to shut up and take it. Until one time we had an argument in the airport for my life i thought i was gonna get disowned and my ticket taken away but from that day forward she losened up her grip and started listening to me and my brother.Makes the relationship 23454332 x easier. My "father" on the other hand, still stuck in his nigerian ways. wasteman! cant tell him nothing. if he told me the sky was green i would smile and nod just so he dont lecture me.

[Bacardi_Up]

I always argue with my parents.The reason being because I am right, simple!My dad never admits when he has lost an argument but my mum is far more submissive, she knows I am right when I have a disagreement with her and more often than not she will come to my way of thinking.