Male/female roles in relationships

[Treacle]

Those of you in relationships, do you assume the typical male female roles in your relationships ie the man takes the woman out, the man always pays when you're out, makes the decisions etc and the woman does the cooking/clothes ironing and keeps quiet etc? In the barbershop topic in the whatever room, a couple of guys mentioned that their girl will have to stay in the car when they get a trim because of hungry men. To me, this is a strong example of male dominance in the relationship, and the classic male role with a man being in charge, but do you all agree and think this is right?Males (those of you with your own place), if your friends come over, does your girl just chill in another room, or will she be in the room with you and your mates? Do you get her to do housework and generally look after you assuming that this is what she is supposed to do?Females, are you happy to accept these stereotypical roles, or are you more of a modern woman and like to have equal control in your relationships?What rules/boundaries are there in terms of your relationship?

[X-T]

Someone will always have more 'dominance' or 'control'. 50:50 is a myth IMO.. unless its finance.

[Treacle]

Someone will always have more 'dominance' or 'control'. 50:50 is a myth IMO.. unless its finance.

X-T, do you mind if you're the one not in control in the relationship?

[Kurtis]

only thing the chick has to do is produce the poontang as requestedwith cooking and cleaning in between

[Cipher]

only thing the chick has to do is produce the poontang as requestedwith cooking and cleaning in between

Yea, I does all that sh*t.

[LIQUID]

ai no roles in relationships no more stil that era is dead.these days most couples just do what needs to be done. no one likes stoppin at home lookin for handouts everyone likes to earn their own bread. independance is another major issue as far as roles are concerned, no one wants to give up any freedoms thats why they either come together an do wha needs to be done (very small sacrifices, no permanent roles) or the relationship dies.that guy that made his girl stop in the car wen he got a trim... boy everybody handles bizness different but only dogs are to obey, an she's gettin owned. her self esteem must be sh*t to let a man treat her like that.

[Scorpzz]

Males (those of you with your own place), if your friends come over, does your girl just chill in another room, or will she be in the room with you and your mates? She can chill in the room with me and my boys that's nothing. But I usually wouldn't have my boys over at the same time as my girl.Do you get her to do housework and generally look after you assuming that this is what she is supposed to do?Yup. I reckon it should be just instinct for partners to look after each other.What rules/boundaries are there in terms of your relationship? Bun having rules in your relationship, there's just lines that she should know not to cross out of respect.Disclaimer: I'm not in a relationship, just speaking from past experience.

[marlon]

One is always dominant.In every lasting relationship I know of, whether its parents of mates, or good mates of mine, one partner will be more dominant and the other submissive.You cannot have two strong partners because they willl clash. Nine times out of ten in a relationship its about compatibility. Likewise you cant have two shy, indecisive people.I will not pay for everything, nor will I expect my girl to shutup and do the ironing as you put it. You phrased that in such a loaded way.I will ocassionaly foot the bill, but so will she. What I cover in certain areas, I will expect her to make up for in others - if I am the main financial provider, she would have to cook/housekeep etc.I wouldnt have a group of friends over when my girl was there - unless it was an ocassion which we were all part of. I think this is a younger thing. If people are coming to my yard, Im not gonna expect her to make herself scarce. She can jam with us within reason, coz your girl getting to know the mandem is not the lick.The two roles crossover but by no means are they shared.The way you put across the question just makes me think you resent the fact that some things are just the way they are...have you ever had a weak man (biased I know) that doesnt make decisions, is sensitive to your every need, and pays for everything. Because I can guarantee you would eat him alive and dump him quicktime.Roles exist for a reason.

[Messy]

my relationship is 50/50 apart from cooking or cleaning as id rather do those things.He'll have his boys over and il chill in the same room ,i never used to at first as i was embarassed but now i dont think twice about it. As for paying we never take it in turns as such all i know is when it comes to paying its never an issue sometimes il pay and then somtimes he'll pay.Aside from actual household bills he likes to pay those so i guess thats his area of dominance in a way

[Cipher]

Messy had your yute let?*lateness, im sure*

[Guest haze-e]

Rah boy.Messys back.

[Messy]

good evening no i have ages yetim killing time dont mind me

[Cipher]

lol aight, lost track of time..

[JLovely]

I can't really comment on anything as Im only young, but id like to think that when I co-habit that we'll share certain responsibilities.I can say Im neither the dominant or submissive person in my relationship. Certain fings im at the forefront and vice versa.

[violet]

i would say my boyfriend is probably more dominant in the relationship...but i think our personalities suit that arrangement.As for the gendered roles...I know if we lived together i would be doing the cooking but then he would tend to do a lot of cleaning so it'd be quite balanced. I also often pay for stuff as he lives out for uni whilst i live at home (so i have more money) but before we went to uni he would usually pay or we would go halves.there aren't really any rules, you should just know not to do stupidness really.

[Mz Boyage]

Those of you in relationships, do you assume the typical male female roles in your relationships ie the man takes the woman out, the man always pays when you're out, makes the decisions etc and the woman does the cooking/clothes ironing and keeps quiet etc? In the barbershop topic in the whatever room, a couple of guys mentioned that their girl will have to stay in the car when they get a trim because of hungry men. To me, this is a strong example of male dominance in the relationship, and the classic male role with a man being in charge, but do you all agree and think this is right?Males (those of you with your own place), if your friends come over, does your girl just chill in another room, or will she be in the room with you and your mates? Do you get her to do housework and generally look after you assuming that this is what she is supposed to do?Females, are you happy to accept these stereotypical roles, or are you more of a modern woman and like to have equal control in your relationships?What rules/boundaries are there in terms of your relationship?

id say in my relationship were both equal.when it comes to paying for stuff, it has never been an issue, who ever has the money just pays. if ive been at work all day and my mans been at mine all day, he will do the cleaning for me, so i dont have to do it when i get home- its just out of respect and making my life easier.more time we at my house, so if theres cooking going on, more time i cook...prob coz i like to cook stuff my own way or have no part of it at all, then just eat it lol! but if im cooking us dinner or breakfast, he'll do the washing up some times we cook together. we both clean my bedroom too.i dont think we have a spacific male and female roles, its more we just do thinks out of concideration for the other person, and does what evers nessacery 2 make each others life a lil bit easier, and most importanly happy.

[Davicious X]

I will cook, clean, do laundry, pay bills and all that. I just bloody hate washing dishes so thats all I would ask a chick to do in my or our house.As it is though Im single so mans gotta do that all himself. Only really need a chick for Da poon right now anyway.IBM gettin it done!

[TF/S4DK]

Those of you in relationships, do you assume the typical male female roles in your relationships ie the man takes the woman out, the man always pays when you're out, makes the decisions etc and the woman does the cooking/clothes ironing and keeps quiet etc? In the barbershop topic in the whatever room, a couple of guys mentioned that their girl will have to stay in the car when they get a trim because of hungry men. To me, this is a strong example of male dominance in the relationship, and the classic male role with a man being in charge, but do you all agree and think this is right?Males (those of you with your own place), if your friends come over, does your girl just chill in another room, or will she be in the room with you and your mates? Do you get her to do housework and generally look after you assuming that this is what she is supposed to do?Females, are you happy to accept these stereotypical roles, or are you more of a modern woman and like to have equal control in your relationships?What rules/boundaries are there in terms of your relationship?

I wish...My girl wouldnt wait in the car she just wouldnt come, same way I wouldnt go beauty saloon or hairdressers. Drop her off, she ring me up, me pick her up...A woman has no place in a barbershop IMO.You dont set rules in relationships, your personalities & morals do that once your happy with each other.

[smaddy]

Males (those of you with your own place), if your friends come over, does your girl just chill in another room, or will she be in the room with you and your mates? She can chill in the room with me and my boys that's nothing. But I usually wouldn't have my boys over at the same time as my girl.Do you get her to do housework and generally look after you assuming that this is what she is supposed to do?Yup. I reckon it should be just instinct for partners to look after each other.What rules/boundaries are there in terms of your relationship? Bun having rules in your relationship, there's just lines that she should know not to cross out of respect.Disclaimer: I'm not in a relationship, just speaking from past experience.

yep super totally agree

[FACE OFF]

its not about roles but its not about puttin ya girl in a positions where she will do something stupidi mean most man here OBVIOUSLY dont have a girl that will GUN a man when she is gettin moved to in the barbershop.some of us do some of us dont and thats why men think that way treacle i mean if you knew ya man was flirtacious would you bring him with you when ya get ya nails done?I THINK NOTmale dominance is dying anyway my topic entitled "HAVE WOMEN GONE TOO FAR?" prooves this.let me put it this wayim not making my girl play my xbox if i know she will put a ps3 disk in it by mistakeim not making my girl do an oil change if i know she will use anti freeze by mistakeim not making my girl use my profile on xbox live if i know she will get duppied on call of duty 4 and make my stats go DOWNim not making my girl do ANYTHING if i dont think she is capable of doing what is needed and that isnt even about gendor its about the individual.dont think my SISTER didnt jam at my house for couple hours and i come home at NIGHT wtih my curtains WIDE f*ckIN OPEN WITH THE LIGHTS ON WITH EVERYTHING ON SHOW.THERE YOU HAVE IT WOMEN CAN BE STUPIDbut im sure men are too to all of you i mean would you send ya man to buy ya weave for you?NO cos he wouldnt have a f*cking clue we would sooner by you the hair WE think is better and cost effective while you would think what goes with ya hairMEN>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> WOMENWOMEN >>>>>>>>>>>>> MENits that real

[FACE OFF]

Males (those of you with your own place), if your friends come over, does your girl just chill in another room, or will she be in the room with you and your mates? my girl now will jam Do you get her to do housework and generally look after you assuming that this is what she is supposed to do?she does whatever is needed before i get a chance to say noYup. I reckon it should be just instinct for partners to look after each other.What rules/boundaries are there in terms of your relationship? dont be trifling with my pride any girl that knows me knows what this means.Bun having rules in your relationship, there's just lines that she should know not to cross out of respect.Disclaimer: I'm not in a relationship, just speaking from past experience.

[Dipset]

Females, are you happy to accept these stereotypical roles, or are you more of a modern woman and like to have equal control in your relationships?Equal control all the wayand if its stereotypical roles like cleaning or whaever, that would be an equal thingAs for the being taken out for dinner bit, i would standardly pay for a guy if i really liked him.

[marlon]

i come home at NIGHT wtih my curtains WIDE f*ckIN OPEN WITH THE LIGHTS ON WITH EVERYTHING ON SHOW.

I f*cking HATE this.My cousin did it once.Almost slapped her when I got back.

[FACE OFF]

its not about females roles its about PERSONNAL ROLES YA GOOD ATsome people are just DUMB simple and plain i dont put that down to gendor i put that down to the individual. Therefore which ever or whoever is good at what i do it my dad used to tell me that a woman that cooks is a good thing i gave up on finding that woman years ago cos even if they do their working lives takes that opportunity of doing that away and no girl aint giving up a career to do that. Therefore i cook myself if i want a female to cook ill check one of my sisters or my aunts.

[Lofa]

Moretime, females and males take roles given to them by society. Subconciously, conciously, whatever.Girls will always be seen as the vulnerable one. The male as the protector/provider.Sorry to all the independent women out there.