Girls and close male friends... and guys with close female friends

[Vtec]

Whether you are in a relationship or not please post your views/experiences... You are in a relationship just starting out or has been going a while etc... your Man or Girl, who has notably close friends of the opposite sex...Have you ever felt sidelined in a relationship as a result of this? or do you not mind and feel totally at ease (for arguments sake... your girl spending time her close male friend... in situations what you may consider should be an exclusive ting between you two alone...) ...

[Angelo]

Like a rape victim with no legs...

[King Jammy]

Like a rape victim with no legs...

[Vtec]

Like a rape victim with no legs...

Yes precisely

[Grafter]

one time a long time ago i was goin out with this youtafter a while he started talkin about his best friend who was comin back to england, after she had been away for bout 4 yrsshe got sent back to nigeria for being bad over herehe was gettin over excited about her arrival, tellin me shitty stories of how much fun they used to have together an it was startin to f*ck me off, on a serious level, im pretty sure i let him kno thisthe day she got back i happen to be meetin him, he comes along with her, that pissed me off. he little brother seen me comin an called out my name an she was like 'whos that' an goin on funnyi had no intention of being a c*nt to her, but she had some nex attitude toward me an he was goin on like he didnt see it, like i had a problemcos they lived opposite eachother, it was a ting where whenever i was at his house, this bitch always jus poppin round, nuff unneccessary incidencesthat an a few other reasons caused me lock it offi totally forgot this stuff, now its all comin back to me, makin me slightly vexbut yh like people have said, that sh*t cannot run

[Guest WAVE MACHINE]

lol at any male lettin this run with a chick. never

[Vtec]

i totally forgot this stuff, now its all comin back to me, makin me slightly vexbut yh like people have said, that sh*t cannot run

Seen,I've been in situations where starting out in a relationship and have felt like i've had to compete or lay down ultimatums where i'm walking out the door... Done my best to resist the green eyed monster of jealously and acting dumb (fighting) about it... as tempting as was. But at the same time I im not the kinda man having to lay down laws to my woman, but there is there unspoken rule (I feel) where you should know you can't be giving more attention to nex man and vice versa if your supposed to be in a relationship!Has anyone ever got into fights over something like this and ever felt it was justified or do you regret it...

[Vtec]

lol at any male lettin this run with a chick. never

Neither do I. Just debating.

[Guest WAVE MACHINE]

lol at any male lettin this run with a chick. never

Neither do I. Just debating.

no need to be so defencive (sp). i wasnt aiming it at u

[Grafter]

i totally forgot this stuff, now its all comin back to me, makin me slightly vexbut yh like people have said, that sh*t cannot run

Seen,I've been in situations where starting out in a relationship and have felt like i've had to compete or lay down ultimatums where i'm walking out the door... Done my best to resist the green eyed monster of jealously and acting dumb (fighting) about it... as tempting as was. But at the same time I im not the kinda man having to lay down laws to my woman, but there is there unspoken rule (I feel) where you should know you can't be giving more attention to nex man and vice versa if your supposed to be in a relationship!

its all about levels of respectall this unspoken rules, its all boils down to respectANDu respect urself u wont get into a fight about itjus keep it movin

[Vtec]

lol at any male lettin this run with a chick. never

Neither do I. Just debating.

no need to be so defencive (sp). i wasnt aiming it at u

Was agreeing with ya.

[Guest Van Der Wavy]

Boy, communicate innit. But learn HOW to communicate well too...

[Angelo]

BoyWhen you're dropping your girl off home at 1.30 in the morning after a nice meal out, and her phone rings. She answers it, sounds like she's talking to a friend, I'm sitting there giving her "the look" (you don't chat on your phone when with me, short, sweet polite, cut them off), and she gets the message and says "talk to you later, bye". I go, completely instinctively "who's that belling you now?"."Just a friend". (acting bare shady, like you can tell when someone's lying)"Somethin happened?""Nah""Oh seen, your male friends bell you at 1.30 just to chat then yeah?""No, why are being like this/why don't you believe me/you dont want me to talk to anyone" being OVER defensive and coming straight on the attack."Nah really, jam the melodrama. I'm just curious as to why man would call you, and you would chat to him like I ain't sitting here wasting petrol ready to go home. That's all. Coming on the defensive ain't a good look is it. Goodnight"Cut a long story short, she apologized.It happened again 3 days later.How I didn't nip that right there and lock it off amazes me.The more I think about it now, the more this chick took me for such a ride its unbelievable, smh. Im certain she cheated 2bh. shm.Moral of the story is don't get taken for Ian Beale.

[Supernova]

Like a rape victim with no legs...

Yes precisely

Shuda copy righted that barandtbhSimply cant run

[Guest Van Der Wavy]

How old are you Marlon or better yet, how old were you when this happened?

[King Jammy]

The more I think about it now, the more this chick took me for such a ride its unbelievable, smh.Moral of the story is don't get taken for Ian Beale.

Co-operative Significance

[Angelo]

19When that happened, 17Was about 2 weeks before my 18thYou know what.No front.That girl parred me beyond belief.Don't even feel a way to say it now.She f*ck*ng chewed me up and spat me out.Llow dating a 20 year old when you're 17 and thinking you can match the games they play/have learnt at that age.

[Guest Van Der Wavy]

17?Minor, be glad it happened then. Trust me, those sort of things are a BLESSING more than anything.Too many people wanna gwarn like they're invincible but it really is a case of no pain, no gain.

[Vtec]

"Oh seen, your male friends bell you at 1.30 just to chat then yeah?"

1.30am peak time booty call...

[General Mac]

I'm a bit iffy on this one still, My ex had male friends, a bag of them, most of them Holly Street man, she was a good chick with a clean record but you know when shes saying hi to nuff man is suspect, anyway I can not trust a female with a close male friend, that nigga I QUOTE Chris Rock "Is a d*ck in a glass jar".My current wife cut out all her male friends but 1 Iraqi dude, he seems a little gay to me but she mentions him a little too often now its beginning to bring out the Goblin in me, she invites me to outings with him and i straight up refuse on some "3 is a crowd sh*t, and go focus on your friend you aint seen him in a minute", I chilled with him twice and hes a smooth fella but something in my gut just does not want to see him ever again, i guess by nature ANY MALE around your woman is a possible threat. The most recent piss take was yesterday and today, wife invites me to some Graphics Design open day in Islington, so I'm like yeah baby i will roll with you on a support ting, then some hours later this lil Iraqi is coming along, i'm like WTF for, shes like hes really good at graphic design and he can help me whatever, i'm like well i will meet you after then, the sh*t dont shut till 6pm, she throws a tantrum so i end up agreeing to roll, but this dude is going to her cribo to help her with graphic design sh*t, im thinking that cant run at all, both of them alone at crib on one pc, bare closeness, you see this sh*t happen in movies, eyes lock, lips meet, hands touch and some minutes later man is tearing her walls down. I could be just overreacting out of love but still. I cant have close female friends but this f*cker is an exception.**gets old sim card, rings Yoyo, Kayleigh and Tasha** my 3 bestest friends

[Wavant]

I dont like it.

[HugoSanchez]

BoyWhen you're dropping your girl off home at 1.30 in the morning after a nice meal out, and her phone rings. She answers it, sounds like she's talking to a friend, I'm sitting there giving her "the look" (you don't chat on your phone when with me, short, sweet polite, cut them off), and she gets the message and says "talk to you later, bye". I go, completely instinctively "who's that belling you now?"."Just a friend". (acting bare shady, like you can tell when someone's lying)"Somethin happened?""Nah""Oh seen, your male friends bell you at 1.30 just to chat then yeah?""No, why are being like this/why don't you believe me/you dont want me to talk to anyone" being OVER defensive and coming straight on the attack."Nah really, jam the melodrama. I'm just curious as to why man would call you, and you would chat to him like I ain't sitting here wasting petrol ready to go home. That's all. Coming on the defensive ain't a good look is it. Goodnight"Cut a long story short, she apologized.It happened again 3 days later.How I didn't nip that right there and lock it off amazes me.The more I think about it now, the more this chick took me for such a ride its unbelievable, smh. Im certain she cheated 2bh. shm.Moral of the story is don't get taken for Ian Beale.

That sh*t happened to me too but it was my first ever proper relationship with a chick.Now Im older and wiser I would see the signs and it wouldnt run.

[Lieutenant]

my chick has 2 close male friends, one gay and the other has a girlfriend of 2 years who my girl is also close friends with.met both of them many times and there cool guys, don't feel threatened by them or anything.regardless tho its never a meeting up on their own ting.

[LuLu]

I have two close male friends, one is part of the YMCA crew and one is a guy ive known a long time, he is like a big brother from another mother, we get on so well and he would be the first to f*ck sumone up if they did anything to hurt me in any way.

[Guest Tronics]

Got loadssssssss of female friends.Most of whom have never meet my chick.The reason being, i'm avoiding any uneccesary hassle.Plus i know best.But in other situations its always best to let your other half know wagwan etc.