How cold/heartless are you?

[Michel Kane]

Not necessary.

Should've just told her straight, ''Not interested...''

Executed like a bitch TBH.

[Guest Jetz]

But I listened to her talk of these link up plans, but not at anytime did I confirm yes I will be there. I just said “if you want to do that, that’s fine” (I was hoping she would read between the lines that I weren’t interested)

Reading between the lines I would say you're a straight up c*nt.

[Trim]

just sounds like cuntish behaviour tbh. cant really be labelling others psycho when ur moving like jigsaw getting some next pleasure from their pain which you could easily prevent with a few words

[Heero Yuy]

pmsl man said jigsaw

[Grafter]

pmsl man said jigsaw

deep

[Benicio del Toney]

This is the kinda thing I am talking about.

Dead them situations EARLY.

Man not saying how he feels straight up = longting situations.

That was an absolute fuckry on the girl, you don't know where she has come from or where her head is at.

Certain man are actually congratulating this bredda, them behaviour can never be applauded.

[Guest haze-e]

One of the most peak stories i have ever read in my life :lol:

Vtec you khunt PMSL

[Benicio del Toney]

Knight this nigga.

Knight him!

In the other thread you said answering a girl's indirect's were for pussys.

Now you give this guy kudos for avoiding dealing with a situation.

Your ethos = man should run away from problems not deal wid them.

[Benicio del Toney]

I hear all that but making a chick spend money, effort and time for you to do that to her was uncalled for really as she didn't do you wrong(or at least you haven't said she has).

No ratings at all for that

[Vtec]

Think peeps are missing key bits here, im not trying to gain kudos, I know it was fucked. But Like I said It wasn't a planned situ. And yes My approach method was sweep under the carpet and carry on like nothing happened. But I did explain my logic of thought at the time and could of handled it alot better yeah I know, but I didn't.

Hence topic title heartless/cold etc..

So everyone here has been good as gold to your fellow human being? full of compassion and total understanding and velvet glove for every situation youve been in.

If you have fair enough, if you haven't tell your story...

Maybe this is my lil way of redemption to get the 0.0001% of guilt off my chest, by sharing the story. The reactions so far are what I expected.

But there must be moments in anyone's past where you've acted (probably not as extreme or maybe you've done worse and ashamed to admit)

We are all capable of it.

This was my moment.

(for the record, i don't operate like this... just happened.)

[Guest haze-e]

Dont worry. We know its the Brummie in you Smh.

[SLEAZE BALL]

SMH @ OP

Shits disgusting

[RaiKkoNen]

Lol fully creasing, man didn't even let her wait for a cab inside.

You fucked up by leading her on when she started spending money hoping that both of you would do shit.

It was cold, but I think the most 'heartless' thing I've done is going off to Uni in another town without telling my then girlfriend where or when I was going.

Straight 'Cancel relationship', 'delete from facebook' ting.

In hindsight not the best idea seeing as she knew where I lived .

[FinalBawse]

OP is faaked.

:rofl:

You ruined her life for the next year at least.

CAN YOU IMAGINE FAM, CRYING THROUGH A LETTER BOX

gtrdg

df

g

dfg

d

fgdererteg

df

gd

gdf

WOUNDED.

/

But on a serious note, I can't rate that, should have dealt with it, allow hiding from her (deletion, avoiding, whatever you wanna call it).

[Mic Man]

That must have been a long ride home.

She probably set up candles in the hotel, bought some new lingerie, and practised her Pelvic floor exercises thinking "yeah I'm give him a weekend to remember"

[Captain Planet]

Knight this nigga.

Knight him!

In the other thread you said answering a girl's indirect's were for pussys.

Now you give this guy kudos for avoiding dealing with a situation.

Your ethos = man should run away from problems not deal wid them.

How can you take me seriously though haven't you seen the whole eyelash fiasco?

[RaiKkoNen]

I've come to the conclusion that this bitch's boat must have been damaged severely.

Most men would have hit that even if danger lights were flashing, just because...well they could.

[Vtec]

I've come to the conclusion that this bitch's boat must have been damaged severely.

Most men would have hit that even if danger lights were flashing, just because...well they could.

just because you can hit it, doesn't mean you must proceed through. I'm not that desperate. Quality control... has gotta be excersiced

Though there is some element of truth in what u say regards to boat., just avg. and combined with emotional state and other factors which I could of posted but a bit too deep for the forum, (thumbs down)

And the girl im seeing now (thumbs up) no drama

Just that execution was not something to be proud of. Just told u-lot the story at its most basic form, see the reactions.

And seeing if anyone has operated on these murky levels?? was your consceience clear? or guilt ridden?

[Uncle Man]

these movements were preppy

josh hartnett/ryan phillipe swag

[MARLO STANSFIELD]

Was linking this outta town girl, she came to my house only once I continued entertaining the chit chat. But I then started seeing someone else and still kept on chatting to her (dunno If I was jus bored or being polite), but I wasn’t even remotely interested in her anymore. But kept selling her the hope we would link up again soon… But she took it to heart and caught feelings and would make plans and me cancelling with dumb excuses but she still persisted.

To the point where she randomly called one time and decided to take pro-active steps to say she booking a hotel and inviting me out for drinks and to stay over at her hotel and, the next nite stay at mine… (She was too eager to claw into me, making me have to really distance myself, as I not even remotely instrested in an easy smash wid her at this point im just sensing emotional issues, which i do not want!).

But I listened to her talk of these link up plans, but not at anytime did I confirm yes I will be there. I just said “if you want to do that, that’s fine” (I was hoping she would read between the lines that I weren’t interested) Yet at the same time I was just curious to see how desperate she was as I was deliberately not giving her any confirmed answers that my presence will be graced. All I said “if you want to travel and book a hotel that’s fine” (As she now starting to sound like some crazy chick).

And was further confirmed by her getting excited… as though I have agreed to say I wish to see her. Delusional only hearing what she wants to hear.

She just gone in head first making these plans. I’m jus thinking smh.

So phone calls ends. 2 weeks pass and I’ve made no attempt to contact her, she messages randomly me once just asking am I ok. To which I simply delayed by a day and replied with one word “yes”. It’s now coming up to the said weekend she has booked out to see me. (im thinking surely she must have cancelled and that im not interested.) As she hasn’t asked me if that’s what I want to do and I haven’t heard from her in 2weeks.

But im still sub-consciously exercising my curiosity to see where her head is at.

The nite before her alleged plans to see me, I see her bb status. Showing excitement of her planned weekend… of travel

(real bbm hands over my eyes at this point)

On the said day, in the morning I see further updates regards to her making her travel arrangements…

(More BBM hands over my eyes).

At this point im at work and just thinking evasive action, aka eject button style or call her up and tell her to turn around.

The next set of actions that followed where not premeditated.

Deletion off bbm contact.

Deletion and block on FB (we have no mutual friends which makes life easier)

Call diverts got setup, to divert back to her own number when my phone is not answered. (Meaning she would get her own voicemail service).

I then get a text from her in the afternoon. (I just read the preview part of the text, stating she has reached blah blah and something about excitement) I just delete it.

My phone rings an hour later and knowing the divert setup I got on. (I cannot help but smirk)

Few hours later…

I get home, enjoying my chill time evening, eating some dominoes pizza and xboxin it. (Guilt free and total clear conscience). Thinking she must of gone back home now.

10:26pm (knock AT MY FRONT DOOR!! SHE is at my door shouting me down) last time she was there was months ago, how she remembered to get there is beyond me and top of that she didn’t even drive there and its night time.

Askin me if im gonna let her in.

I just replied once shouting “im busy”, closed the hall way door and resumed my eve. (but in disbelief she was actually at my door)

PHYSCO confirmed.

Just left her sat out there for at least 45mins crying at my door n through my letter box, I didn’t respond or bat an eyelid til she finally got the hint, (I think I heard a taxi come for her)

Think I might have broken her heart. (Shrugs shoulders)

I slept mind clear and no regret or concern. She'll get over it.

Am I cold? Told a few friends, they where pissing themselves laughing sayin I was dread. (im just feeling pleased with myself for dodging a bullet & trusting my instincts in the form of some emotionally unstable chick).

Share your cold stories…. Or if you’ve been on the receiving end of such cold fronts.

I have read all of this TWICE and I saw a lot of myself and my previous actions back in the day in this passage of text and you know what? it catches up when you see the same chicks later on in life and you start to make an assessment of the emotional carnage you cause by looking at all the chicks you have done this to and you cant help but feel BAD, VERY FUCKING BAD.

IM GONNA GO TO HELL cos real talk I have hurt too many people and I aint dealt with many psychos but hurting people the way you did only for the said girl to be shegged by a next man AGAIN leads to bitter women.

its nuts, trust me this shit catches up in so many different ways all ill say is allow wasting a womans time and on this note do as i say not as i have done because real talk............. it wasnt worth it.

how the fuck am i gonna sleep now I read this shit?

cha.

[MARLO STANSFIELD]

Another bit of advice as I am one of the older people on this forum.

LONG TERM LINKS?

DO NOT DO IT

DISENGAGE.

[Kim]

really none of this comes close to my experiences or my actions, which im ashamed of........

but the fact u came on here boasting suggest ur ready to change therfore in the next phase of ur life karma is coming hard....

[LevelLouie]

really none of this comes close to my experiences or my actions, which im ashamed of........

but the fact u came on here boasting suggest ur ready to change therfore in the next phase of ur life karma is coming hard....

he wasnt boasting still just explaining what happened

[Vtec]

really none of this comes close to my experiences or my actions, which im ashamed of........

but the fact u came on here boasting suggest ur ready to change therfore in the next phase of ur life karma is coming hard....

Not boasting at all. But I know my mindset on that day was nil Flat Line emotion and just recalling it and posted it.

And just seeing if anyone has acted in similar ways, or been on the receiving end.

Made a series of decisions which weren't the best. With reflection, i know I done wrong.

Have made apologies since then.

[Guest28]

i havent cried in 6/7 years, does that mean im heartless?

like i dnt even remember what it feels like to cry