WOMAN WANTS A BABY BUT DONT WANT A MAN

[MARLO STANSFIELD]

i know it sounds ironic me saying no female bashing but i know a girl who basically aint finding any guys on her level in terms of men that wanna settle and dont wanna just hit it and split (you know the routine) so basically times getting on and she also has complications with her health so she aint as fertile (hard for her to get pregnant)she told me she wants a child but dont really care as much about having a man as its less hassle.your viewsserious responsesdiscuss.

[KayGee]

I dont believe that any child should be brought up without a family if it can be avoided. Children should be the result of two people in love wishing to bring new life. A baby should never just be a want thing. Fulfilling her personal needs is one thing but what about the kid when its grown and wanting answers..I suppose its different when it happens to yourself, i do feel for anyone in this situation and i hope i never have to be.

[MARLO STANSFIELD]

she has been parred A LOT by guys still a bit naive and we all know guys aint on settling as much as they used to or better yet they dont trust that some girls are not hoes etc.

[Kompressor]

If the girl has the capabilities i.e the mental stability/ability, the financial meansand if she's able to offer the child the required level of love and affectioni dont see any reason why she shouldn't be able to go to a sperm bank and get a donari dont really buy into this idea that a child needs to have both the mother and father unit and should come from the love of two people, in an ideal world this would be the case but in some cases its best that the mother or father of a child isn't around as sometimes they can do more harm than good Single parents can be just as effective as a couple. Fair play to her aslong as she dont go out with the aim of setting a guy up.

[Kompressor]

I dont believe that any child should be brought up without a family if it can be avoided. Children should be the result of two people in love wishing to bring new life. A baby should never just be a want thing. Fulfilling her personal needs is one thing but what about the kid when its grown and wanting answers..I suppose its different when it happens to yourself, i do feel for anyone in this situation and i hope i never have to be.

I see what your saying but as single parent familes are gonna become more and more common it will be almost seen as the norm and so the next few generations of single parent kids wont have as many questions as the generations before them when being a single parent was more frowned upon.

[MARLO STANSFIELD]

^^^^^ you could be rightthing is i do think she exaggerates about men not being on it sometimes but then i hear girls here saying the same thing so who knows.

[E.A.S.E]

If the girl has the capabilities i.e the mental stability/ability, the financial meansand if she's able to offer the child the required level of love and affectioni dont see any reason why she shouldn't be able to go to a sperm bank and get a donari dont really buy into this idea that a child needs to have both the mother and father unit and should come from the love of two people, in an ideal world this would be the case but in some cases its best that the mother or father of a child isn't around as sometimes they can do more harm than good Single parents can be just as effective as a couple. Fair play to her aslong as she dont go out with the aim of setting a guy up.

Kompressor hit the nail on the head here.Also Having questions is not a bad thing its how she chooses to answer those said questions, and as long as that childs questions are answered honestly more times than not that child grows up content especially if this woman has strong morals, a strong family around here that child might not miss out. There are worse things in life than growing up in a single parent unit!And its much more respectfull for her to go to a sperm donar, or be honest with a man about her intentions than these other catty young females who tell beat until they bread with many a different man.

[Vtec]

A child should be brought into the world by two loving parents, who love each other. A woman just wanting a child for self, via sperm donor/unlucky good looking bloke, who she has no intention of settling down with. To me sounds selfish.Yeah relationships can fail in the long run, but to conceive a child just for your own self gratification (in this case, just because she cant seem to find any stable guys around), is wrong. (maybe she needs to revaluate what kinda man she goes for, to give her whats she needs. Not just sperm making abilities.)(this is not to say kids brought with both parents, dont f*ck up) but in general the odds are more in favour, rather than having minimal or no input from a Dad who is around to some extent.family values are just getting diluted ever more, half cousin, half sister and brother over there and so on.

[KayGee]

c/s the above.And just become something is common now doesnt mean we as a generation should follow suit.

[Guest Wu-Tang]

Having a child to fill her personal hole is wrongAlso I suspect that the reason she can't find aman that doesnt want to hit and run, is largely her fault

[Davicious X]

Not really much to say. Doesnt require some long 3 paragraph piece Woman that wants a baby but no man is basically being selfish and thoughtless. She is obviously lookin to fill a void in her life that she thinks can be filled with having a yout. Chances are though that this course of action will just paper over the cracks.

[FANTA]

she should just be patient and wait for the right guy to come along.there's no real rush in having kids.and it shouldn't be treated as some badge of honour either.

[Heero Yuy]

A child should be brought into the world by two loving parents, who love each other. A woman just wanting a child for self, via sperm donor/unlucky good looking bloke, who she has no intention of settling down with. To me sounds selfish.

Once upon a time that answer would have the answer that you would expect to hear every time. In today modern times that answer is not modern response. I personally believe each woman has her own reasons to bring a child into this world . The cliche of two loving adults who love each other is no longer the only standing foot which can be the base answer to this question. You have to expand your mind to the reality of the times we live inlets say to the career seeking female who has the love to give to a child, the security, the nurturing instinct to bring a child into this world. What if she cannot find a man who she deems would be suitable, mentally or financially for the baby shes intending to bring into this world.. I mean picking a girl you would breed is going to be one of the defining moments of your life, so a female must obviously be thinking the reverse of this..It doesn't take a brain surgeon to see how low the marriage rates are and high the divorce rate are. I mean dragging a child through a constant battle field a rocky relationship far out weighs that of the mother raising the child by herself with no interruptions and no distractions.. Lets not confuse the woman who take this path (doners etc) with the conventional single baby mother. These woman actually made a choice to take this child on their own, knowing it will be this way...It would be ideal to having 2 loving parents... but whats exactly wrong having the love of 2 parents in 1...allow having a girl that will just eventually settle for a guy whos willing to give them the child, which would no doubt inevitably be a high possible outcome. Woman have biological clocks, they can't just turn these off....I'd rather be with 1 parent than in one of those plastic families were the love is dead, and the only reason their together is because of the kidsorry for the graph

[Gunner]

Selfish.Maybe men don't see her as a fit mother/ don't want her.Maybe she should look at herself and not just say men this and men that.

[Kompressor]

Ok just say she's really ugly and guys just don't wanna have a family with her. But she had the mental and financial ability to be an excellent parent and had a strong family unit behind her.would you still begrudge her the chance of having a child?

[Gunner]

Ok just say she's really ugly and guys just don't wanna have a family with her. But she had the mental and financial ability to be an excellent parent and had a strong family unit behind her.would you still begrudge her the chance of having a child?

Yes.Because a child is meant to be for a family.Man, Woman and Child. Having a child is IMO a privilage, not a right. To have a child youmust find a suitable partner. Weatheryou fall out, break up ect is a diferent story, but you don't begin handicapping the situation on purpose for selfish reasons.The Beginning =Man, Man and child = NoWoman, Woman and Child = NoMan and Child = NoWoman and Child = NoThis is idea and we should keep to this ideal as it is the best way. This is not an ideal world, but the reason it's ideal is because it is blantanly the best and proper way.

[Kompressor]

Fair point and i see what your saying i just disagree somewhat agree to differ i suppose

[Vtec]

Ok just say she's really ugly and guys just don't wanna have a family with her. But she had the mental and financial ability to be an excellent parent and had a strong family unit behind her.would you still begrudge her the chance of having a child?

still dont cut it. Whats to say the guy involved in this process actually wants a family himself, having random offsping all over gaff, is not the one. (im sure no man, wants this)Just doing her a favour of service is sad, again satisfying HER needs only, and she probably kick him to the kerb, gettin on her "ne-yo" miss independent (i dont need a man) woman flow. If he tried to settle down with her.And this mentality just gets passed on to her child (for arguments sake, lets says she has a daughter), she would just be conditioned into the belief system that this is normal behaviour, when she is old enough.Guys be careful out there meeyhnn...

[Vtec]

& exploiting sperm donor services, trivialising the value of life, like it's god given right that you can just have a baby, as if ur poppin into ur local Tesco express store.Services like that should only be available to couples who may have difficulties conceiving and wanting to raise a child together. Not some head-strong solo woman, out to prove the world wrong.NIL POINT.

[Black Casper]

A child should be brought into the world by two loving parents, who love each other. A woman just wanting a child for self, via sperm donor/unlucky good looking bloke, who she has no intention of settling down with. To me sounds selfish.Yeah relationships can fail in the long run, but to conceive a child just for your own self gratification (in this case, just because she cant seem to find any stable guys around), is wrong. (maybe she needs to revaluate what kinda man she goes for, to give her whats she needs. Not just sperm making abilities.)(this is not to say kids brought with both parents, dont f*ck up) but in general the odds are more in favour, rather than having minimal or no input from a Dad who is around to some extent.family values are just getting diluted ever more, half cousin, half sister and brother over there and so on.

C/S aboveI know a girl like this, she says if she does not have kids by 30, she dont want none at all (cause she thinks having kids over 30 will greatly increase the risk of her developing complications..this information she "researched"). But i know it will get to a point where she cud just find any dude she knows to be with have a kid with him and if he leaves, he leaves...she will raise the child on her own..even though clearly she asint ready finacially.boi

[Guest28]

if she pays me 5 grand im der

[Goddaz]

Having been raised by a single parent because paps died when I was a baby. I see nothing wrong with the female you speak of going ahead with having a baby without a man.Modern advances in reproduction techniques has given females real opportunties to have children without being in a relationship so if she can afford it or meet a man who is prepaired to enter such a 'contract', why not. Like my mother, I'm sure she'll have the help/support of her family & friends so again why not.Unless your just stuck in old traditional values of how a child should be brought into the world. Everything a child needs doesn't have to come from a mother & a father setting. All that matters is the child gets all the usual things like love, care, attention, time, stability etc. She just needs to be prepared to tell the child the truth when that time comes (if at all). If she's taking the sperm donor route, some legislation came out last year which means sperm donors can't even be anonymous anymore therefore she'll have to be prepared again for the child wanting to reach out to their biological father at some point (if at all).

[carpedeum]

such women are just selfish. they are as un needed as men who sleep around without wanting any kids

[clark_kent]

poor woman, she cant be fully there in the head and thus shud not be alloud to raise kids alone. my mum was a single parent (not by choice)i think had she jus decided she wanted a kid i would have looked at her differently and perhaps not admired her struggles like i do. the world is overpopulated as it is women jus breeding willy nilly wont help the problem

[charliechalk]

It's probably the whole fact that she even contemplates bringing a child into the world this way why she can't find a man to have a serious relationship with her.