Irrational Desire for Human Contact

[Captain Planet]

I'm very selective of who I am around but I only seek interaction when I'm inside for long periods of time. Now that I'm put and seeing people by force 5 days a week I'm happy to spend my whole weekend alone but obviously that doesn't always happen anyway because I do meet up with the mandem or gf.

Like I don't enjoy the 'let's go for a drink' work bunch, after work I have to f*ck off home and do my own thing on my own or otherwise, I'm very much anti social in that respect. Likewise for my lunchbreaks I prefer to take them alone.

[Beavis]

i go out of my way to avoid human contact

so no

[Skola]

I cant believe how many people go out of their way to avoid human contact.

Maybe theres something about an internet messaging forum that attracts people of this sort - its communication but with limited human interaction and only at the exact times and for durations that you want?

Anyway I'm the opposite. Got friends that I might just call, for a chat, with nothing in particular to say - and could end up on the phone for an hour. Same way say yesterday I went into the city centre to buy a new razor, I called one friend turned out he was close by so we linked up and just walked about in the sun, talked about our new jobs, financial situations, caught a few jokes, and that was that.

Whats so weird or irrational about enjoying the company of your friends and family?

[Grafter]

im with skola on this one tbh

theres not always a point to why i seek interaction but i wouldnt call it illogical

few years ago i did used to get a bit overwhelmed and pissed off when i was interacting a lot and then really needed time alone. I think that was because I was at uni and most of the people weren't really my kind of people

nowadays i much prefer to be around people, shootin the breeze, catching jokes but its people who i actually love and get along with i.e friends and family

im ok with my own company but not too much cos i tend to sit an think a little too deeply an get upset, so when im around people even if we are just chattin sh*t i prefer it

and tbh even if im not saying a word i just like being next to other people

also i prefer not to go for a drink with work colleagues because if it werent for work we probably would have never even met, and im not down for another 2-3 hrs of talking about work after work. Furthermore none of these people are actually from london so they are actively seeking friendship. But i do put in an appearance now an then, just enough so they dont stop inviting me and I do it so i can be kept in the loop with promotions etc. Make them feel like they know me a little bit.

[Captain Planet]

Course yeah the work bunch get appeased once in a while to keep them sweet, been out twice with then so far but that's because people have been leaving, so i need to make an appeareance. These people proper go bars until late with their work colleagues. Like they have no friends, bare of then are divorced too, infact they're really a scummy bunch come to think of it one of the directors told me himself pmsl.

[Sole]

So Lens you find chilling with friends irrational?

fine i'll dignify it with an answer.

no, chilling with friends is normal, on a "if it happens" / caj basis or when there's a motive.

but bein at yard on Your ones, and thinkin "I wana be around next humans" is where the irrational comes in.

but Your post was one of them stupid dumb digs where You pick one line and ignore the other 2, then reply to that one line. well done

But u do this

[Skola]

'actively seeking friendship'

talk about PAIN

that is the one thing that puts me off moving to another big city. having no friends and trying to find new ones.

[Supermalt]

Like I don't enjoy the 'let's go for a drink' work bunch, after work I have to f*ck off home and do my own thing on my own or otherwise, I'm very much anti social in that respect. Likewise for my lunchbreaks I prefer to take them alone.

i used to be like that, f*ck off home 5.30 on the dot.

went for a drink once and had such a good time i forgot i was working all day

depends on who u go with

[Supernova]

being alone with nothing to do is torture

theres always something to do

i cant take it

when i was fresh outta uni in that no work bummy stage i did silly things

This is exactly why I am doing this now

[Sub_Zero]

'actively seeking friendship'

talk about PAIN

that is the one thing that puts me off moving to another big city. having no friends and trying to find new ones.

I'm definitely in the minority but this sort of thing excites me. If it was rational and financially doable I'd have no qualms at moving around the country (even world) not staying in one particularly place for too long and meeting as many new people as possible in each place I go to. I like the feeling of having acquaintances all around the world but then again I never call anyone for no reason and I won't spend more than 5 minutes on the phone. The way it is now without trying to sound arrogant a lot of people know me but I don't really have any incredibly close ties apart from family (which is down to them making a huge effort and not me.) F*ck when I think about it I'm like an extroverted introvert with intimacy issues.

[Skola]

you started off all positive then suddenly....di realisation

out of interest what star sign are you?

im taurus and i like familiar surroundings, which was one of the reasons i wanted to spend some time abroad and plan to do so again. saying that it was in a small town where after a couple of months you get to know all the locals.

sometimes i think city life is overrated.

[dub]

'actively seeking friendship'

talk about PAIN

that is the one thing that puts me off moving to another big city. having no friends and trying to find new ones.

I'm definitely in the minority but this sort of thing excites me. If it was rational and financially doable I'd have no qualms at moving around the country (even world) not staying in one particularly place for too long and meeting as many new people as possible in each place I go to. I like the feeling of having acquaintances all around the world but then again I never call anyone for no reason and I won't spend more than 5 minutes on the phone. The way it is now without trying to sound arrogant a lot of people know me but I don't really have any incredibly close ties apart from family (which is down to them making a huge effort and not me.) F*ck when I think about it I'm like an extroverted introvert with intimacy issues.

c/s this to its entirety lol

[MARVELL]

boring hermits

[Sub_Zero]

you started off all positive then suddenly....di realisation

out of interest what star sign are you?

im taurus and i like familiar surroundings, which was one of the reasons i wanted to spend some time abroad and plan to do so again. saying that it was in a small town where after a couple of months you get to know all the locals.

sometimes i think city life is overrated.

Pisces. This forum feels like my psychologist sometimes.

[Guest chap44uns]

TBH i don't understand this topic,Who on earth chills at home then just randomly decides that they need to be around humans wtf

weird topic

Tbh I talk to someone like this. He dislikes his own company and always feels the need to be around people constantly, it's so annoying.

[Lens]

Whats so weird or irrational about enjoying the company of your friends and family?

that wasn't it, it was the dissatisfaction of being alone on that particular day and feeling the need to contact people to meet up for no apparent reason. and irrational to me because it was a first

/ since we've moved on to work socialising

see, i'll do the work lunch with people, because it doesn't mean I'm goin home any later, unless I've got random errands to do during that time.

the main issue is if they say they're eating somewhere I don't wana eat, I'll just say I'm eatin on my own somewhere else.

the compromise on 1 place for everyone to eat, I find strange. I'd take eating what I want over having company any time.

[Black Ant]

nothing like a good bro hug every now n then

if you need one let me know. (A Christian side hug is on offer aswell)

[Elementalism]

that wasn't it, it was the dissatisfaction of being alone on that particular day and feeling the need to contact people to meet up for no apparent reason. and irrational to me because it was a first

Bruv you really need to explain this better.

/

Why do you have the irrational desire to capitalize 'you/you're/you'll'?

[Soca Junkie]

He finds it irrational that you could be jamming by yourself one minute, then the next minute you decide you need to call someone or link up with one just to have some form of human contact for the sake of it, even though you're not bored/lonely/feeling needy...

I wouldn't necessarily call it irrational though.. Some people just don't like their own company for too long

[Skola]

you started off all positive then suddenly....di realisation

out of interest what star sign are you?

im taurus and i like familiar surroundings, which was one of the reasons i wanted to spend some time abroad and plan to do so again. saying that it was in a small town where after a couple of months you get to know all the locals.

sometimes i think city life is overrated.

Pisces. This forum feels like my psychologist sometimes.

fak

http://www.agoyangya...ces/pisces.html

first line:

Pisces is a mutable-water sign. Mutable signs have a longing for movement and extremely restess.

[Elementalism]

Nah this thread is f*cked.

Surely from time you decide to bell your bredrins to jam you've already subconsciously gone through that 'bored/lonely' thought process long time. Therefore it is usually always 'rational'.

I don't question the rationality of my mates when they wanna buck me to jam, the f*ck?

Some poorly thought-out thread.

[Benicio del Toney]

Nah I understand where he is coming from, he is just questioning the mechanics of humans.

It reminds me of that Tom Hanks film when he is deserted on the island and you start to look at how he tries to cope.

It can be fascinating looking at human behaviour and what is needed to "survive".

[Seydou]

Noticed its more of my non muslim friends who enjoy being alone. Most of the akhis will always call to jam.

Or maybe they don't like me anymore?

Such a mindfakk thread.

[dub]

I'm rarely the initiator but I enjoy being with friends.

At the same time though I really like my me-time. Like the walk to uni, walk between lectures, the walk home - this is prime music listening time. Even watching TV and listening to music out loud, if I'm the person who chooses what's on I'll sometimes enjoy it less if I question whether the others will like it. Sometimes I'll prefer to eat alone as well.

I guess its just when I wanna focus on something I'll prefer to be alone.

[Lieutenant]

I always need a good portion of the day by myself to just do what I wanna do. Play FIFA/browse the net/watch telly/read etc generally I'm happy in my own company for a lot of the time.

For some reason also I am rarely the initiator when it comes to meeting up. Something I really need to change.

/

Could be some truth in what skola was saying about people being on this forum because they are a certain way inclined... Interesting