LuLu Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 do you believe in giving people a 2nd chance ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cipher Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 Of coruse it depends what they have odne, I woudlnt give someone a second chance to murder me...But yes I am someone who gives peopel second chances.Them>>>Me Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
...*Nisha*... Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 depends on what they did but generally i give people the benefit of the doubt and give them a second chancei'd never give a partner a 2nd chance if they cheated though Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DRC Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 People can change-yesPeople deserve 2nd chances-yesThe question is; can you really get over what the person did in the 1st place...you can forgive but you never forget Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Benicio del Toney Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 Depends who it is and what they did.Generally people cant change, they just suppress their normal behaviour till one day it comes out.Its like telling a gay person to get married and live happily ever after, things are kool for a while and then someone ends up floating in the swimming pool with their ass in shreds like what happened with Barrymore. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Seriouss Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 It really depends. I think people can change some things but not others. In general - I would forgive someone for something 'out of character' and give them another chance. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr Q Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 Like others has said, it depends.Certain things no way wil someone get a second chance. say if a girl cheated on me im 99% sure i wouldnt ever take her back. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JLovely Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 Yh people can change.Would I give someone a 2nd chance.....no sir! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mz Boyage Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 people deserve a 2nd chance, because if you learn from your mistake then thats cool...if you mess up again then boyyyyyy... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Jay Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 Depends on what they do in the 1st place.If a guy cheated on me, I may forgive them. But I would not be able to forget it, so the relationship would be rubbish. So there would be no point, why be a mug again to him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scorpzz Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 No Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FACE OFF Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 Depends who it is and what they did.Generally people cant change, they just suppress their normal behaviour till one day it comes out.Its like telling a gay person to get married and live happily ever after, things are kool for a while and then someone ends up floating in the swimming pool with their ass in shreds like what happened with Barrymore.lmfao @ the wording Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shin Gouki Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 People can change, yes, but as for the second question it depends entirely on how well you know the person and what they did. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
En Sabah Nur Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 ppl r hu they r jus becos they want 2 change doesnt mean they willthey gotta b in the right stage in life 2 change Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LIQUID Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 i will forgiv anyone for anything. if a partner cheated on me i'd forgiv them, if someone tried to kill me i'd forgive them (after ive killed them and thier families lol) im not a guy to hold grudges. but same time, ask my parents they never raised a damn fool and i wernt born yesterday. i will forgive anyone given time, but i will never forget nor will u be in a position to hurt me again.hatin ppl is easy, been mature and able to forgiv is hard, holding grudges is looooooong.never forget people dont change an ur a fool if u think otherwise Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shin Gouki Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 i will forgiv anyone for anything. if a partner cheated on me i'd forgiv them, if someone tried to kill me i'd forgive them (after ive killed them and thier families lol) im not a guy to hold grudges. but same time, ask my parents they never raised a damn fool and i wernt born yesterday. i will forgive anyone given time, but i will never forget nor will u be in a position to hurt me again.hatin ppl is easy, been mature and able to forgiv is hard, holding grudges is looooooong.never forget people dont change an ur a fool if u think otherwiseStop chatting sh*t, people can change. I know this from first hand experience. And holding grudges whilst constantly trying to get vengeance >>> ______ >>> Forgiving anyone for anything. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gaara Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 Never.I refuse to be taken for a prick twice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LIQUID Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 i will forgiv anyone for anything. if a partner cheated on me i'd forgiv them, if someone tried to kill me i'd forgive them (after ive killed them and thier families lol) im not a guy to hold grudges. but same time, ask my parents they never raised a damn fool and i wernt born yesterday. i will forgive anyone given time, but i will never forget nor will u be in a position to hurt me again.hatin ppl is easy, been mature and able to forgiv is hard, holding grudges is looooooong.never forget people dont change an ur a fool if u think otherwiseStop chatting sh*t, people can change. I know this from first hand experience. And holding grudges whilst constantly trying to get vengeance >>> ______ >>> Forgiving anyone for anything.I FORGIVE U lolpeople can only change to a certain degree, other than that they are lying to themselves an eventually their true colours will surface. peoples character only changes dramatically when a drastic scenario has occured, like near death experiences, health scares, having genuine religous enlightenment, having children etc. if u dont mind me asking what was ur first hand experience and how has it changed u?if someones a cheating rat today, they may not cheat on u again for the rest of today, tomorrow or even weeks from now, but eventually they will.we are who we are"And holding grudges whilst constantly trying to get vengeance >>> ______ >>> Forgiving anyone for anything."not saying u in particular because i dont kno u, but stupidness like this is what gets people killed an locked up over petty things, thats whats wrong with the youth today and all this area code beef. IMO that statement is ridiculous.i wasnt joking when i sed id forgiv anyone for anything, it may take a little time im not Jesus, but same time i wont forget an u woont be in a position to do the same thing again Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Supernova Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 It really depends. I think people can change some things but not others. In general - I would forgive someone for something 'out of character' and give them another chance.but how wud u kno that it was out of caracter Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dipset Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 Id give them a 2nd chance, JUST depends what they did to me though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cipher Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 Seem some strange replies here.We arent talkign about heroin addicts or alchoholics. Well that is what I think anyway? Just peopel doing things to hurt you, peopel can, and do change all the time.But of course it depends what they do, if it is something that this person does ALL THE TIME, or reccurently, then it will be much harder for them to break their habit of doing it. If it is a ONE OFF, then it is much much easier.For instance, I used to be a complete little c*nt. In just about every way possible...but I no longer do most of the things I did then.I find your opinion of other people+general outlook on others stemms from what you beleive yourself to be. If you know you are someone who cannot change your ways, and are extremely weak-willed, because 90% of your judgement is based on what you would/would not do yourself, then this will reflect in your opinion on others, i.e. many people I've noticed that say they cheat/ave cheated/would cheat, or have generally quite selfish personality traits on, have said no people cannot change their ways.If you are a person with a brighter outlook, more self-control perhaps, the you will beleive others to be similiar/CAPABLE of having the same self-control, and thus much more likely/willing to make that change (No MJ)..For example I know myself, that if there was something I needed to change/stop doing, I could do it.I know that if EYE can do something, then the next man/woman is just as capable of doing so.This is actually why i get so frustrated when peopel reccurantly do things to piss me off/hurt me....but meh, another topic.People can change when they want to (for the right reasons), if they do not, then they will not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Benicio del Toney Posted January 9, 2008 Report Share Posted January 9, 2008 I have a VERY bright outlook on life, im a VERY optimistic person but from what ive seen in life "You can take the Tiger out of the Jungle but you cant take the Jungle out of the Tiger"This is why the reoffending rates for released prisoners are so high (and thats only the people they catch lol)This is why divorce figures are so high (people dont split up over one argument, they realise they cant live with each other)and thats not even taking into account all the other marriages people stay in but arnt happy in.Ive stuck with people in life to the point of getting myself in mixup this is why I dont associate myself with badmind and negative people anymore.If you dont distance yourself from certain people they will drag you down with them, if you are young and dont understand intime you will see.Some guys ive known since I was 5 and they were sly back then, im 25 now and they are STILL the same.Any kool time ive had with them inbetween Ive realised was them not being their trueself (which ALWAYS comes back out in the end) ie: suppressed behaviourIf someone cares about you enough why would they disregard your feelings, not be considerate and hurt you in the 1st place?Though I think for any sense of clarity in this topic Lulu needs to elaborate on what was done. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LuLu Posted January 9, 2008 Author Report Share Posted January 9, 2008 met up with the ex on sunday evening , i figured out we are both as crazy as each other so what the heck, il see what he has to say.we just chilled at his place, watched i am legend and basically we was just talkin for ages.he seems to have changed , he has got a legit job now for a start,sorted out his anger problem. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LuLu Posted January 9, 2008 Author Report Share Posted January 9, 2008 oh ye , my problem iserm i made a mistake when i was still seeing him ,should i confess all to him and tell him ?he says he wants to forget 2007though and start fresh in 2008. we both had serious issues and problems that year.when my friend came to pick me up ,we as outside as he was smokin a spliff , i just said right im off bye , then he goes , why do u always never give me a chance to say bye properly so i reverse back round and then he gives me a hug and a lil kiss.we should just let this go but for some strange reason , neither of us can. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cipher Posted January 9, 2008 Report Share Posted January 9, 2008 I have a VERY bright outlook on life, im a VERY optimistic person but from what ive seen in life "You can take the Tiger out of the Jungle but you cant take the Jungle out of the Tiger"This is why the reoffending rates for released prisoners are so high (and thats only the people they catch lol)Thats kinda different. People are generally caught against their will, and then thrown into prison as punishment. Only reason they end up in prison is because they are forced to, they dont go there cuz they want...so they dont want to change, so it is likely that once they get out, they will return to their old ways.They generally arent goin to care about the fact they did somethng wrong, only about getting caught..its not like hurting someon you care about, and cuz you dont want to do it again, you stop.. This is why divorce figures are so high (people dont split up over one argument, they realise they cant live with each other) This aswell, doesnt really have anything to do with peopel getting 2nd chances/changing, a marriage can break up for many different reasons, there is no point trying to change yourself (except when it is cheating, alchoholism etc..) if it makes you unhappy, for someone else, often divource is the best thing in a relationship-it happens when people realise they have come to the end of the road and they have had 1,2, 3, 4 chances etc, OR simply because they realise they should not have married the wrong person.and thats not even taking into account all the other marriages people stay in but arnt happy in.If you dont distance yourself from certain people they will drag you down with them, if you are young and dont understand intime you will see.If someone cares about you enough why would they disregard your feelings, not be considerate and hurt you in the 1st place?Though I think for any sense of clarity in this topic Lulu needs to elaborate on what was done. I completely agree with all the red though, spot on..but yea, lulu, need to clarify what was done I think..btw rimack, I mis...phrased what i meant, i shouldnt have said optomistic, I meant just if you belevie you can change, you can stil be optomistic but have negative opnion of others so i sholdnt have used that word really.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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