The Somalian Posted July 14, 2009 Report Share Posted July 14, 2009 been down this road (hence me getting kicked out and now living on my own)your good how you handled it I picked up a shank first time and second time I picked up a brick to deal with the niggabruv on a level I know its hard but say sorry and you thought about what you said and you see their pointyour mum might back down but the guy might be chattin sh*t in ur mums ear to get u out the house. Try and save your money coz its not about being put in the street like that to rass been through them f*ckry and it aint nicemove out when you sorted out not about last minute ting Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Infamous Posted July 14, 2009 Report Share Posted July 14, 2009 This is far too personal for a forum IMO and you should have battered the guyYour mum needs you stick around Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lenny Posted July 14, 2009 Report Share Posted July 14, 2009 Don't give up.Llow turning your back on the situation, your brothers might end up hating you for it.Is he the type of guy to try to force you out of the family fully? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ari Gold Posted July 14, 2009 Report Share Posted July 14, 2009 you should have battered the guy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abc123 Posted July 14, 2009 Report Share Posted July 14, 2009 Rah. This really does explain some of the nonsense I see you writing on here sometimes.f*cked up.Its crazy how your mum let this go on for so long and chose a man over her own kids.Shes lost herself in this relationship.Its hard, but sometimes you have to let people walk their own path and love them from a distance, imo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michel Kane Posted July 14, 2009 Author Report Share Posted July 14, 2009 Rah. This really does explain some of the nonsense I see you writing on here sometimes.f*cked up.Its crazy how your mum let this go on for so long and chose a man over her own kids.Shes lost herself in this relationship.Its hard, but sometimes you have to let people walk their own path and love them from a distance, imoWhat nonsense are you talking about exactly? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mic Man Posted July 14, 2009 Report Share Posted July 14, 2009 Your mum needs you stick around Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abc123 Posted July 14, 2009 Report Share Posted July 14, 2009 Rah. This really does explain some of the nonsense I see you writing on here sometimes.f*cked up.Its crazy how your mum let this go on for so long and chose a man over her own kids.Shes lost herself in this relationship.Its hard, but sometimes you have to let people walk their own path and love them from a distance, imoWhat nonsense are you talking about exactly?Out of everything I said, you pick out that I was referring to your observations on the dynamics of relationships.But you really do have bigger fish to fry.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doug Posted July 14, 2009 Report Share Posted July 14, 2009 Your mum needs you stick around Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abc123 Posted July 14, 2009 Report Share Posted July 14, 2009 Kids really do learn what they live, parents do not seem to understand this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michel Kane Posted July 14, 2009 Author Report Share Posted July 14, 2009 Rah. This really does explain some of the nonsense I see you writing on here sometimes.f*cked up.Its crazy how your mum let this go on for so long and chose a man over her own kids.Shes lost herself in this relationship.Its hard, but sometimes you have to let people walk their own path and love them from a distance, imoWhat nonsense are you talking about exactly?Out of everything I said, you pick out that I was referring to your observations on the dynamics of relationships.But you really do have bigger fish to fry..Nah, I took on board what you said, just hoped you weren't trying to take a dig there.I agree with you, this whole mess has contributed to the way I look at relationships, but not the way I present it on this forum. If anything, it's taught me what NOT to do, and what type of woman I DEFINITELY do not want./She definitely needs me to stick around, but I can't stay here, out of principle now. By me staying, in a house which I'M not the head of, I'll still be considered 'child'. It's that backwards African mentality. Therefore, this nigga is going to try to tell me what to do, and TBH, its a point where the smallest thing will make me f*ck him up, so no. If I stay, I'm co-signing & I'm not.She's not my 16yr old daughter, love-struck with her 1st boyfriend, she's a 42, mother of 2 kids. She has to take responsibility. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trilliam Posted July 14, 2009 Report Share Posted July 14, 2009 g'luck Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abc123 Posted July 14, 2009 Report Share Posted July 14, 2009 Rah. This really does explain some of the nonsense I see you writing on here sometimes.f*cked up.Its crazy how your mum let this go on for so long and chose a man over her own kids.Shes lost herself in this relationship.Its hard, but sometimes you have to let people walk their own path and love them from a distance, imoWhat nonsense are you talking about exactly?Out of everything I said, you pick out that I was referring to your observations on the dynamics of relationships.But you really do have bigger fish to fry..Nah, I took on board what you said, just hoped you weren't trying to take a dig there.I agree with you, this whole mess has contributed to the way I look at relationships, but not the way I present it on this forum. If anything, it's taught me what NOT to do, and what type of woman I DEFINITELY do not want./She definitely needs me to stick around, but I can't stay here, out of principle now. By me staying, in a house which I'M not the head of, I'll still be considered 'child'. It's that backwards African mentality. Therefore, this nigga is going to try to tell me what to do, and TBH, its a point where the smallest thing will make me f*ck him up, so no. If I stay, I'm co-signing & I'm not.She's not my 16yr old daughter, love-struck with her 1st boyfriend, she's a 42, mother of 2 kids. She has to take responsibility. Yep.Its good you can see the situation for what it is. Some people have their parents on a pedastal, when they dont deserve to be Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gunner Posted July 14, 2009 Report Share Posted July 14, 2009 Bruv, i would engineer his downfall. Set him up.Mae his true colours be shown, so your mother has no option but to smell the coffee. Have you spoken to your brothers? How do they view him?Time to be ninja. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carpedeum Posted July 14, 2009 Report Share Posted July 14, 2009 i never understand such situations, i know a friend with something similar. i dont get parents choosing husband over kids. though its usually your typical situation where its the eldest one who is the main victim cos the other siblings are bit too young to get involved.if you move out where will you go? it may be better to cool off and let her see her mistakes Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michel Kane Posted July 14, 2009 Author Report Share Posted July 14, 2009 i never understand such situations, i know a friend with something similar. i dont get parents choosing husband over kids. though its usually your typical situation where its the eldest one who is the main victim cos the other siblings are bit too young to get involved.if you move out where will you go? it may be better to cool off and let her see her mistakesTBH, it's nothing immediate, it was all discussed 'amicably'. I'll be moving out in the very foreseeable future, was planning to anyway. Friend setting up a house, in Harrow for uni & I'm working so I should be set.But again, no way I'm remaining here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FANTA Posted July 15, 2009 Report Share Posted July 15, 2009 Damn.Props for dealing with it in such a mature manner. I know I couldn't have done the same.Agree with you that moving out will illustrate your distain for the whole situation, but then on the flip side it gives your step dad a chance to twang your mums head even more. And god forbid he may even turn your bros against you. So now is the time to be ultra careful about what you say and how you move.Hope it all works out for you ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest TimeBomb Posted July 15, 2009 Report Share Posted July 15, 2009 this pic just spoiled the thread for me, couldnt concentrate anymore... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VENOM Posted July 15, 2009 Report Share Posted July 15, 2009 so it seems to be a ugandan thing. ugandan men seem to be extyremely waste.. battering their women.you, david, my bredrin, his cousin, and eskay jones is in the making. hmmmm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michel Kane Posted July 15, 2009 Author Report Share Posted July 15, 2009 I'm Ugandan? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flojo Posted July 15, 2009 Report Share Posted July 15, 2009 this pic just spoiled the thread for me, couldnt concentrate anymore... Thought I was the only one, my mind was just wandering.But yeah the saying you cant help someone who wont help themselves springs to mind.You've taken different approaches to no avail so I understand your decision and would probably do the same thing. You not being there for a while may help your mother to see the situation for what it is. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ego Posted July 15, 2009 Report Share Posted July 15, 2009 very f*ckedsorry to hear bruh... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VENOM Posted July 15, 2009 Report Share Posted July 15, 2009 I'm Ugandan?oh jus re read .. congo. same difference tho innit. anyways, i have access to cyanide if u need holla. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michel Kane Posted July 15, 2009 Author Report Share Posted July 15, 2009 I'm Ugandan?oh jus re read .. congo. same difference tho innit. anyways, i have access to cyanide if u need holla.'Same difference'? Anyway./ Aight, safe. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trim Posted July 15, 2009 Report Share Posted July 15, 2009 Damn.Props for dealing with it in such a mature manner. I know I couldn't have done the same.what i was gonna say. i could never have done the same. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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