okay now this is something to think about

[MARLO STANSFIELD]

okay now we have had the bowcat thread and we have seen the responseswe all seem to wanna brush skets (yet many people endorse the act)BUTfrom the step dad / mother thread it is CLEAR that none of us like absent fathers my question is this how many of these guys do we actually SLEW TO THEIR FACE?i mean if man can make fun of a man for suckin p*ssy why cant the MANDEM slew the mandem that AINT there for his yutes when i think about i now i dont know any of MY peoples who have kids that are absent fathers.discuss

[BLACK VICTIM]

Eating pum is cool, abandoning your famblay is not./fred

[kurious]

i say 2 much of what is on ,y mindthats what gets me in trouble with ppl

[MARLO STANSFIELD]

i say 2 much of what is on ,y mindthats what gets me in trouble with ppl

your name is liz so why do you care

[A Bit Better]

Would happily tell my bredrin he's a prick if he left his kid. I know fathers in our (sorry, my) generation, but I don't know any absentee fathers.I personally think my generation has learnt through pain and will therefore not make the same mistakes (although I'm sure we'll all make a whole new set of mistakes).

[o-guy]

dn't know any absentee fathersbut if i did sumthin that personal?not my place to speak on it unless askedyour business

[Ephren Taylor]

You dont know the circumstances of why they cant be around 24/7, so sekkleMosst of you are about 19, so have no reeeal concept of life decisions. Some people are incompatible, unfortunately, by the time this is realised, you have a child together.... I love my son dearly, but me and his mum are not best friends.. she has her life, I have mine.. If somebody ever had the cheek to call me an absentee father... They would be waking up in 2011.

[Davicious X]

You dont know the circumstances of why they cant be around 24/7, so sekkleMosst of you are about 19, so have no reeeal concept of life decisions. Some people are incompatible, unfortunately, by the time this is realised, you have a child together.... I love my son dearly, but me and his mum are not best friends.. she has her life, I have mine.. If somebody ever had the cheek to call me an absentee father... They would be waking up in 2011.

As long as your puttin effort into seein your yout I dont think you would fall into the category of being an absentee father.Effort does not mean seeing your yout once every other weekend for couple hours, that would make you a wasteman raising a wasteman, and an absentee father.I know a few of these jokers that duck out and dont see they kids for a good month at a time, I even know one guy with 2 kids by different women that hasnt seen his kids this year. He tells me some f*ckries about not having the time yet I see him on xbox live nuff cos he be chillin at home. You know what, wasteman absentee fathers piss me off more than f*ck*ng Homos, at least Homos dont have kids to watch for.

[Da Luv Doc]

Don't know absent fathers tbh.

[Guest Batman]

I agree with Ephren..(SuperGee?)I have slewn one of my boys for this, we don't really speak anymore but thats another matter, he got a girl pregnant and was planning to completely duck out, I told him we needed to talk about it and he was laughing like I was joking, everyman was acting like him ducking was cool aswell but nah.You have to make sure you are there in the right way for your child, because they are unlikely to have a man as a fatehr figure in their life so it will end up being Stab Kid or their new 'daddy' TyroneIf for a reason you arent able to be there with them as their mother is, make sure you educate them about the right things & make sure they turn out right...simply seeing them a couple times a month & spoiling them with sweets & toys doesnt make you a good fatherAt a certain age I also think you need to make them understand why you arent there, because otherwise the idea will grow on them that it is acceptable to duck out on their child should they ever be in the same situation, it's hard but I think once your own child see's you & its mother apart it already has a message- subconcious at least, that they can always 'walk away' which isn't a good thing & I spose once you are apart there is nothing you can do about thisBut kids learn from what they are shown and the relationship between a childs mother & father will be the principle guide subconciously for a persons own relationships....though of course this can go either wayI digressIf you arent ready to raise a child, dont get a girl pregnant, rationalise it any way you want but if you do this & dont look after said child you are a wasteman.But then again....there is ALWAYS personal reasonsSay you were to have a child with someone & you found out a few months before she gave birth that for a year or so before hand while she was with you she was f*ck*ng around?Does it still make you a wasteman to want nothing to do with the girl + baby?& You dun know how the women can be with the kids.....'your wasteman father etc etc' come like it was YOUR fault even though it may not beSounds horrible fathers always get the bad end of this and perhaps they should but the simple reason is sometimes most men do not want to wife/have kids with skets& when it happens accidentally, they boltNormally to come back around when the kid is in late teens & the father has matured to a point where whatever he thought of the mother no longer matters so muchAs with everything, its down to the individual situation, If I feel its justifiyable I would cuss out anybody who wasnt doing what we both knew was their fatherly duty, if I felt there were extenuating circumstances then I wouldnt..

[missBee]

well my dad chose not to be there i guess. i am 21 & i can count the number of times i have seen him & probably combine the length of time to less than 2hrs. i would have liked to have a father around but i dont know how it is to have one around so i just leave it. my dad is a wealthy man but he does not like spending money on me. last time my mum asked him he said he had other children. i dont have many males to really look up to in my family. the only ones i feel held their roles are now deceased which breaks my heart. only a few couples are still together & stuff. i feel it affects my little brother more becuase he needs a father figure. which is why i am grateful my stepdad is around. this has affected me in more ways than i would like to admit. well for one i do not want children. the thought of finally having that need to have children of my own when i get older actually terrifies me. my career is going to come first then husband/family. because when/if he leaves me i will be able to support my kids and not struggle. but i really dont know about children i really would want to fail them.. etcits an awful thing when people reject their children. even if u cant marry the baby mama be there. you dont know what difference it could have made.. i have been through so much i would not want to say on here really. but i am still glad i went through most of it in a way because it has made me the person i am today & will always be because i know i am built like a soldier lol

[LuLu]

As a teenager i used to despise male authority , i could not accept any male shouting at me or telling me what to do for the simple fact i was not used to have a stable dominent male figure in the household so i would just get really angry at tunes, guess i used to sterotype the male population and think all males were sh*t fathers just because of my own experience.............. wrong way of thinking i know but hey i was young and didnt know sh*t back then.

[General Mac]

Would happily tell my bredrin he's a prick if he left his kid. I know fathers in our (sorry, my) generation, but I don't know any absentee fathers.I personally think my generation has learnt through pain and will therefore not make the same mistakes (although I'm sure we'll all make a whole new set of mistakes).

And those new set of mistakes will most likely be the creation of POPULAR WHORISM enforced by the generations aged 18 to 25

[MARLO STANSFIELD]

You dont know the circumstances of why they cant be around 24/7, so sekkleMosst of you are about 19, so have no reeeal concept of life decisions. Some people are incompatible, unfortunately, by the time this is realised, you have a child together.... I love my son dearly, but me and his mum are not best friends.. she has her life, I have mine.. If somebody ever had the cheek to call me an absentee father... They would be waking up in 2011.

i imagine only someone that KNOWS YOU AND YA SITUATION is actually gonna make a comment and if they know you judging by what your saying in this post its clear they know you are not an absentee father so ya kinda taking offence for no reason here.this is interesting i aint talking about being incompatible im talking about a man and the child dont get me wrong you can be a good dad and still get that kinda stigma for some things im living proof of it but to be labelled an ABSENTEE father means just that it doesnt mean anything else if you dont see ya child for how ever long why should a man not be told about it?yes we all know there are predicaments where the man cant do much and gets that stigma again im living proof and for all the people that says that they dont know any absentee fathersTHIS IS MY NEXT POINTWHY IS IT I STILL HEAR TO THIS DAY SO MANY WOMEN SAYING THE DAD OF THEIR CHILDREN IS NOT ABOUT?do you see the inconsistency here? (women talking sh*t)women have this nack of giving a guy all kinds of stick when it comes to the dad when all they are really bitching about is that they aint together no more.

[Uncle Man]

WHY IS IT I STILL HEAR TO THIS DAY SO MANY WOMEN SAYING THE DAD OF THEIR CHILDREN IS NOT ABOUT?do you see the inconsistency here? (women talking sh*t)women have this nack of giving a guy all kinds of stick when it comes to the dad when all they are really bitching about is that they aint together no more.

alsowhores need to stop getting pregnant on a whim for 1- leverage with the male 2- leverage with the council 3- to fill the void in there life 4-because they refuse to take responsibility for there actions (the xmas party disclaimer)in short they shud stop seeing children as last minute accesories and a short cut to a better life for themselves,then u will have more planned pregnancy between TWO stable adults who will both have a interest in raising the yuke,and the means with which to do so.in short the state system of free housing and benefit for whores needs to stop,its ridiculous.however i am pro life,so i believe women shud be automatically sterilised if they go for a second abortion.my policies are hardline but tbh a vote for social is a vote for yr future

[Guest Batman]

WHY IS IT I STILL HEAR TO THIS DAY SO MANY WOMEN SAYING THE DAD OF THEIR CHILDREN IS NOT ABOUT?do you see the inconsistency here? (women talking sh*t)women have this nack of giving a guy all kinds of stick when it comes to the dad when all they are really bitching about is that they aint together no more.

alsowhores need to stop getting pregnant on a whim for 1- leverage with the male 2- leverage with the council 3- to fill the void in there life 4-because they refuse to take responsibility for there actions (the xmas party disclaimer)in short they shud stop seeing children as last minute accesories and a short cut to a better life for themselves,then u will have more planned pregnancy between TWO stable adults who will both have a interest in raising the yuke,and the means with which to do so.in short the state system of free housing and benefit for whores needs to stop,its ridiculous.however i am pro life,so i believe women shud be automatically sterilised if they go for a second abortion.my policies are hardline but tbh a vote for social is a vote for yr future

lmao....c/s...most of it

[missBee]

WHY IS IT I STILL HEAR TO THIS DAY SO MANY WOMEN SAYING THE DAD OF THEIR CHILDREN IS NOT ABOUT?do you see the inconsistency here? (women talking sh*t)women have this nack of giving a guy all kinds of stick when it comes to the dad when all they are really bitching about is that they aint together no more.

alsowhores need to stop getting pregnant on a whim for 1- leverage with the male 2- leverage with the council 3- to fill the void in there life 4-because they refuse to take responsibility for there actions (the xmas party disclaimer)in short they shud stop seeing children as last minute accesories and a short cut to a better life for themselves,then u will have more planned pregnancy between TWO stable adults who will both have a interest in raising the yuke,and the means with which to do so.in short the state system of free housing and benefit for whores needs to stop,its ridiculous.however i am pro life,so i believe women shud be automatically sterilised if they go for a second abortion.my policies are hardline but tbh a vote for social is a vote for yr future

i actually loathe people who do this. its very selfish and unfair on the baby & tax payers lol!! they are brought into loveless relationships, broken homes and are usually neglected when they fail to make that 'illusion' of making the baby daddy stay actually happen.its sad. so many babies having babies and they do not realise that it will only cause more problems. especially with the uk having a very high teenage pregnancy rate. i just dont understand why someone would want to raise a child when they can barely take care of themeselves. its very easy to reproduce but extremely hard to be a parent.

[Ephren Taylor]

[bashy] Pickneys having pickneys wotless fathers aint educating their sons [/bashy]

[Angelo]

People need to realise that no matter how much some guys try and see their kids, and try and create at least a stable air between the parents when seeing their kids,The woman makes it difficult.And I don't mean she gives the guy a hard time. That's immature and stupid.I mean when she say's she'll be home at a certain time for the man to come pick up his kid and take them out for the day - but isn't there.When she changes the locks so man can't get in or out and has to ask her permission to do it.When she turns up late and arrives early to pick up the kids giving them minimal time with their dad.When she takes no regard for how the father would like his kids raised/what he would like their interests to be/how he would like them to grow up.and number one.When she chats sh*t to her kid about the dad. This is the number one killer. The mother is around 90% of the time and has the most influence, so if the parents don't get on, and she's a stupid bitch, she will make your kid hate you.I will never let a woman take away my child.They are more vindictive, more spiteful, and less stable than a man bringing up his kids (who WANTS to bring them up).If it means running her reputation through the dirt, making sh*t up, claiming she's unfit, I will do it. Rags.I would hope I never find myself in a situation where I have to though.

[Grafter]

Would happily tell my bredrin he's a prick if he left his kid. I know fathers in our (sorry, my) generation, but I don't know any absentee fathers.I personally think my generation has learnt through pain and will therefore not make the same mistakes (although I'm sure we'll all make a whole new set of mistakes).

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[Goddaz]

People need to realise that no matter how much some guys try and see their kids, and try and create at least a stable air between the parents when seeing their kids,The woman makes it difficult.And I don't mean she gives the guy a hard time. That's immature and stupid.I mean when she say's she'll be home at a certain time for the man to come pick up his kid and take them out for the day - but isn't there.When she changes the locks so man can't get in or out and has to ask her permission to do it.When she turns up late and arrives early to pick up the kids giving them minimal time with their dad.When she takes no regard for how the father would like his kids raised/what he would like their interests to be/how he would like them to grow up.and number one.When she chats sh*t to her kid about the dad. This is the number one killer. The mother is around 90% of the time and has the most influence, so if the parents don't get on, and she's a stupid bitch, she will make your kid hate you.I will never let a woman take away my child.They are more vindictive, more spiteful, and less stable than a man bringing up his kids (who WANTS to bring them up).If it means running her reputation through the dirt, making sh*t up, claiming she's unfit, I will do it. Rags.I would hope I never find myself in a situation where I have to though.

Lol @ dropping all dem REAL TALK baby mama drama bars & ending it like its NOT youI'm not saying its you but reading what u said I felt ur pain like you've experienced it famjeeeeeeeeeez the passion was alot

[Guest Wavy Davy]

true stilli aint at that stage went with anyone i know, but if they abandoned their kid id look down on them like a piece of sh*t

[Soca Junkie]

People need to realise that no matter how much some guys try and see their kids, and try and create at least a stable air between the parents when seeing their kids,The woman makes it difficult.And I don't mean she gives the guy a hard time. That's immature and stupid.I mean when she say's she'll be home at a certain time for the man to come pick up his kid and take them out for the day - but isn't there.When she changes the locks so man can't get in or out and has to ask her permission to do it.When she turns up late and arrives early to pick up the kids giving them minimal time with their dad.When she takes no regard for how the father would like his kids raised/what he would like their interests to be/how he would like them to grow up.and number one.When she chats sh*t to her kid about the dad. This is the number one killer. The mother is around 90% of the time and has the most influence, so if the parents don't get on, and she's a stupid bitch, she will make your kid hate you.I will never let a woman take away my child.They are more vindictive, more spiteful, and less stable than a man bringing up his kids (who WANTS to bring them up).If it means running her reputation through the dirt, making sh*t up, claiming she's unfit, I will do it. Rags.I would hope I never find myself in a situation where I have to though.

Tbh the woman you have just described here is a spiteful woman... not all women. There are spiteful women and there are bastard fathers.

[Angelo]

People need to realise that no matter how much some guys try and see their kids, and try and create at least a stable air between the parents when seeing their kids,The woman makes it difficult.And I don't mean she gives the guy a hard time. That's immature and stupid.I mean when she say's she'll be home at a certain time for the man to come pick up his kid and take them out for the day - but isn't there.When she changes the locks so man can't get in or out and has to ask her permission to do it.When she turns up late and arrives early to pick up the kids giving them minimal time with their dad.When she takes no regard for how the father would like his kids raised/what he would like their interests to be/how he would like them to grow up.and number one.When she chats sh*t to her kid about the dad. This is the number one killer. The mother is around 90% of the time and has the most influence, so if the parents don't get on, and she's a stupid bitch, she will make your kid hate you.I will never let a woman take away my child.They are more vindictive, more spiteful, and less stable than a man bringing up his kids (who WANTS to bring them up).If it means running her reputation through the dirt, making sh*t up, claiming she's unfit, I will do it. Rags.I would hope I never find myself in a situation where I have to though.

Lol @ dropping all dem REAL TALK baby mama drama bars & ending it like its NOT youI'm not saying its you but reading what u said I felt ur pain like you've experienced it famjeeeeeeeeeez the passion was alot

How close I came to it was disgusting.How long my cousin dealt with it before he was awarded custody was even more disgusting.And @ Soca:You're right, but what I'm saying is that the Woman by default of whether or not she is the better carer, will get possession and custody of the child. It's just wrong on so many levels.I don't know many bastard fathers that would fight for custody of their kid, do you?

[djbmc]

don't understand ur question