HOUSE RENT - PARENTS

[Davicious X]

 

I've actually known parents that have told their children that rent is due, the difference is that while the parent is taking the money, they are actually saving it for their children without them knowing, so when the children get to a more responsible age there is a nice lump sum for them to utilise for a house or a car or something sensible like that.

 

I should be in position to do this for my children in the next 18 months if things continue along the current trajectory.

tbh i dont think this is my situation, i think my situation is to contribute to the bills because my dad is an enigma, so now the burden has been put onto me when i was looking to move out myself...

 

 

You sound like you need to learn to talk to your dad and tell him what you just told us.

 

I told my dad he wasn't up to snuff and he didnt like it, but it was the truth and I'd say it again.

 

Parents that have nothing to pass on to their children, to a point where they are actually expecting their kids to pay rent, have failed.

[Grafter]

Once they get to that age they don't change. Whats the point in having a conversation like that. Jus gna cause upset an wont achieve anything. Did your dad suddenly buck his ideas up after his son gave him a good talking to?

Grown up parents. ..deaf ears

Sometimes u jus gta keep it trill

Pay or dnt pay but if u want peace dnt be telling anyone about themselves

[SLEAZE BALL]

Once they get to that age they don't change. Whats the point in having a conversation like that. Jus gna cause upset an wont achieve anything. Did your dad suddenly buck his ideas up after his son gave him a good talking to?

Grown up parents. ..deaf ears

Sometimes u jus gta keep it trill

[Mephisto]

Some parents hiding behind the responsibility & age card because they can't mange their finances.

 

Will only be asking my daughter for a minimal contribution.

 

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My pops had a system of only ever asking me for money when he would clock I was broke. Taught me I should always be ready to contribute & not coast along like i was entitled to a free ride. When I had £££ he would never except a penny.

[O Fenomeno]

Never paid rent before

Contributed on bills tho

Recently gave them money to buy property in their respective countries

Father(DR Congo) & Donny(Brazil)

[ag.]

Lol that's mad never heard of Congolese married to brazillian

am part congolese myself

[O Fenomeno]

Met in Lyon so the chances were strong compared to Kinshasa or Rio

[Davicious X]

Once they get to that age they don't change. Whats the point in having a conversation like that. Jus gna cause upset an wont achieve anything. Did your dad suddenly buck his ideas up after his son gave him a good talking to?

Grown up parents. ..deaf ears

Sometimes u jus gta keep it trill

Pay or dnt pay but if u want peace dnt be telling anyone about themselves

 

The answer you're looking for is respect. 

 

You can't expect them to change, but your parents have to know they can't mug you off by asking you for something they are not entitled to.

[Grafter]

Theoretically that sounds great

I jus think if it falls on deaf ears it wont even reach the point of respect. You are assuming he will listen an self reflect an say to himself yes my son is right. ..I respect him for saying that.

In reality he will feel affronted and flip out/stop talking to man. An then the mum will take he husbands side an its a shit Christmas all round

[Supermalt]

just depends if the household needs it or not tbh

 

other than that what lesson is being taught, taking money from your kids isn't a substitute for sound financial advice

[Meticulous]

Long story short. Paid "house keeping" whilst living at home nothing too extortionate, never had a problem doing it tbh. It was the right thing to be doing.

When I moved out few years back Mum gives me access to a bank account with just under 2k in it. Was happy to get the money but a part of me wished shed just have kept it tbh.

same but i denied the money

[Vertigo]

just depends if the household needs it or not tbh

 

other than that what lesson is being taught, taking money from your kids isn't a substitute for sound financial advice

 

Agree but along with sound financial advice there is also practical learning.  I think it teaches you that when you do finally move out there will be bills to be payed and so money should be always put aside. Not spent frivolously.  

 

The amount of people I know who when they moved out were shocked at how much things they suddenly have to pay for. Water,electric,food shopping,council tax etc.

 

Too many parents don't teach their kids enough. For those of us who went to uni, how amazed were you when you met people who couldn't even use a washing machine or cook their own dinner let alone wrap their heads around setting up bill payments.

 

It all adds up when parents don't start with the fundamentals. 

[Lieutenant]

I think if you are an adult earning then you should make some form of contribution

I had to switch on donny last time I was livin there tho. 2 weeks after i landed a TEMP job she Talkin about I must pay ex amount of hundreds to sleep on the sofa. Eff that particularly when she knows im trying to save up to move out ASAP an if I gave the money she was trying to demand that would have been impossible. Shes then sayin im selfish an happy to go an pay rent to a stranger. Yh donny but not to sleep im someone's living room with 0 privacy

Its not to say I didn't contribute either. I regularly bought food an cooked for everyone. I even bought a tv

Joke ting

I had to hide when I was looking for a place until I actually found it cos she would act like I'm the worst offspring for it

SelFish. She has this weird attachment thing with me an I dnt like it

you are the son she never thought she had...

:rofl: ffssss

[Grafter]

Was never that funny u beg

[Lieutenant]

How funny was it g?

[Sole]

no one begs john

must be that funny.

[Supermalt]

 

just depends if the household needs it or not tbh

 

other than that what lesson is being taught, taking money from your kids isn't a substitute for sound financial advice

 

Agree but along with sound financial advice there is also practical learning.  I think it teaches you that when you do finally move out there will be bills to be payed and so money should be always put aside. Not spent frivolously.  

 

The amount of people I know who when they moved out were shocked at how much things they suddenly have to pay for. Water,electric,food shopping,council tax etc.

 

Too many parents don't teach their kids enough. For those of us who went to uni, how amazed were you when you met people who couldn't even use a washing machine or cook their own dinner let alone wrap their heads around setting up bill payments.

 

It all adds up when parents don't start with the fundamentals. 

 

 

fair enough.

 

imo, uni is enough of a 3 year lesson if your child went away. all that basic stuff never applied to me.

 

i see it as being an unnecessary burden if its unwarranted, especially in london where you need to save as much as you can.

[Badman]

Unfortunately for me, it got worse Since I moved out. Its just my dad though coz hes African and terrible with money (bad combo)

 

I dont mind though, gives me pleasure to help any way I can. Man was working 2 shifts + weekends most my childhood to get us through 

 

Least I can do

[Grafter]

no one begs john

must be that funny.

True

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