can I be pro black and have a white girlfriend/wife?
I recently got with a Swedish girl (first non-black girlfriend) and it is something I have thought about quite a bit.
I know my views and beliefs. I consider myself to be pro-black (to me that means believing and embodying through action the advancement of the world's black people). I would go as far as to say that being pro-black is one of the most important ideas that I hold dear.
but then I think of me trying to tell a young black girl how everything black is beautiful, and the "whatever" expression over her face as she looks at my white wife.
straight away I think that's not fair. Every other girl I've been with has been either black or mixed, I genuinely do in my heart think black is beautiful, but that doesn't mean I don't also appreciate Asian, white etc... I didn't pick her because she's white.
But in a world where she is told being black is ugly and even black men prefer white women (a false message that the media deliberately inflates imo), I can't discount her feelings. To her she just hears words. I see her point.
While I think It's a bit mad to ignore all of my views, thoughts, actions, save for the race of my partner (also ignoring all of her views, thoughts and actions), every one is entitled to their opinion.
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how can you be pro black but against mixed relationships
surely you mean you are a separatist ?
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can I be pro black and have a white girlfriend/wife?
I recently got with a Swedish girl (first non-black girlfriend) and it is something I have thought about quite a bit.
I know my views and beliefs. I consider myself to be pro-black (to me that means believing and embodying through action the advancement of the world's black people). I would go as far as to say that being pro-black is one of the most important ideas that I hold dear.
but then I think of me trying to tell a young black girl how everything black is beautiful, and the "whatever" expression over her face as she looks at my white wife.
straight away I think that's not fair. Every other girl I've been with has been either black or mixed, I genuinely do in my heart think black is beautiful, but that doesn't mean I don't also appreciate Asian, white etc... I didn't pick her because she's white.
But in a world where she is told being black is ugly and even black men prefer white women (a false message that the media deliberately inflates imo), I can't discount her feelings. To her she just hears words. I see her point.
While I think It's a bit mad to ignore all of my views, thoughts, actions, save for the race of my partner (also ignoring all of her views, thoughts and actions), every one is entitled to their opinion.
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