I do miss the olden days when you could give the missus a right good kicking for not having your dinner on the table when you've just got in from work.
Too many women die of domestic violence everyday in comparison to false domestic abuse allegations.
Whilst there are some women that will lie and exaggerate when they get into an altercation with their man, we as men need to be smarter with the women we choose.
1. Don’t be with a woman who lives for drama and conflict. It will end badly for either or both of you.
2. Remove yourself from the situation. Women hate nothing more than getting no reaction from you during an argument and will do anything to get it. Walk away, drive off but don’t escalate the argument if you can’t resolve it amicably.
3. Learn to control your emotions. When you’re with someone, they’ll know what buttons to press. At most, I’ve restrained an ex from getting physical. Never hit/pushed a woman in my life.
I do miss the olden days when you could give the missus a right good kicking for not having your dinner on the table when you've just got in from work.
As someone said u have the option to remove yourself, absolutely no need to make any type of point by gettin physical
If a man attacks me with words i have enough words to use back to cut man with. Its very easy. No excuse for me to get violent, and its too much of a risk, u as a woman will always lose a physical fight unless we start getting weapons out
its not calm or nomral - espesh a box to the mouth
but a shove/push is she is all in your face chatting shit thats perfectly justified
these women know how to provoike a man - espeically with the wicked mouths
they are afforded a shield of not being able to repond with violence
if a man antagonises you you can respond with word but if neccesary with your fist too
girls know this and continue to antagonise
as soon as you flare up you become the bad person
Fam, I hear what you’re saying but that’s just a double standard of life you have to accept. Especially as black men, we shouldn’t put ourselves in a position where the law is involved and a scorned woman will have no problem with doing that.
Trust me, I’ve been there. Some of the shit women say and get away with is wrong but that’s just how they're made. They know physically from a young age they can’t go toe to toe with us, so they use words to cut us down.
Is it right? No. But it’s a sacrifice I’m willing to accept being a man. You can’t let your emotions dictate your actions. Resolve it with words or walk away. It’s that simple.
1. Don’t be with a woman who lives for drama and conflict. It will end badly for either or both of you.
I wish I could have come across this advice before I was 18.
Most people on here know the situation I was involved in but what they know little about is the months that led up to it.
The girl got me birded for something else, I was pissing razor blades for a sec cos she caught an std of someone, there were enough signs tbh but the sex was amazing and it was hard to make that clean break.
Musta tried about 5 or 6 times and it would usually end with my mum ringing me telling me she's outside ringing the doorbell.
A female friend wrote me a long essay on her and why she is no good for me, I kinda read the 1st paragraph and rolled my eyes, wasn't trying to hear any whining, still got the letter 17 years later, read it in full properly when I found it a few months back.
The moment I snapped was when she tried to disrespect my mother, didn't think about it to be able to assess the situation in all honesty and I should have been out of the situation before that moment so it was my fault no question.
I had a lucky escape cos I could have been killed a few times from issues regarding next man she got me in and I could have even did some madness that I would have been lucky to have been getting out now for.
But since we split the madness has stayed in her life, she's been jail, lost custody of her 1st child and lost custody of her new born just over Xmas from what I hear.
I've been with my current over 15 years with no similar incidents or any madness so I know the way I was with her wasn't me.
People can bring out the worst in you, I probably had the worst experience of all though, would make a movie tbh, but if there are any positives I'm glad I went through it young.
I wish I could have come across this advice before I was 18.
Most people on here know the situation I was involved in but what they know little about is the months that led up to it.
The girl got me birded for something else, I was pissing razor blades for a sec cos she caught an std of someone, there were enough signs tbh but the sex was amazing and it was hard to make that clean break.
Musta tried about 5 or 6 times and it would usually end with my mum ringing me telling me she's outside ringing the doorbell.
A female friend wrote me a long essay on her and why she is no good for me, I kinda read the 1st paragraph and rolled my eyes, wasn't trying to hear any whining, still got the letter 17 years later, read it in full properly when I found it a few months back.
The moment I snapped was when she tried to disrespect my mother, didn't think about it to be able to assess the situation in all honesty and I should have been out of the situation before that moment so it was my fault no question.
I had a lucky escape cos I could have been killed a few times from issues regarding next man she got me in and I could have even did some madness that I would have been lucky to have been getting out now for.
But since we split the madness has stayed in her life, she's been jail, lost custody of her 1st child and lost custody of her new born just over Xmas from what I hear.
I've been with my current over 15 years with no similar incidents or any madness so I know the way I was with her wasn't me.
People can bring out the worst in you, I probably had the worst experience of all though, would make a movie tbh, but if there are any positives I'm glad I went through it young.
Anyway for me theres difference between a rowdy broad that receives two hands round her throat for not knowing how or when to shut up and one that gets punched up for messing up daves meat and two veg after hes come home pissed from the pub.
no justification for shoving or pushing regardless of whats being SAID... KEYWORD BEING "SAID". which means those are words, so why not respond to the words with words if you must be a bitch and go toe to toe with the woman who is wired to talk. if you cant respond without physical violence then the problem is with you.
no justification for shoving or pushing regardless of whats being SAID... KEYWORD BEING "SAID". which means those are words, so why not respond to the words with words if you must be a bitch and go toe to toe with the woman who is wired to talk. if you cant respond without physical violence then the problem is with you.
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Whoever initiates the violence should serve double
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Heero Yuy
did he have previous?
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I do miss the olden days when you could give the missus a right good kicking for not having your dinner on the table when you've just got in from work.
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Too many women die of domestic violence everyday in comparison to false domestic abuse allegations.
Whilst there are some women that will lie and exaggerate when they get into an altercation with their man, we as men need to be smarter with the women we choose.
1. Don’t be with a woman who lives for drama and conflict. It will end badly for either or both of you.
2. Remove yourself from the situation. Women hate nothing more than getting no reaction from you during an argument and will do anything to get it. Walk away, drive off but don’t escalate the argument if you can’t resolve it amicably.
3. Learn to control your emotions. When you’re with someone, they’ll know what buttons to press. At most, I’ve restrained an ex from getting physical. Never hit/pushed a woman in my life.
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Supermalt
No excuse to put hands on a woman expect the protection of yourself or those around you.
Example, that video of the nanny abusing the couples kid. Thats a hell in a cell in kitchen no disqualification match.
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Heero Yuy
is what it comes down to tbh.
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Grafter
Right
Dont put ur hands on people u wont get a bird
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Grafter
Think they should leave him alone now still
Didn't like how Chris rock dragged him either
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It is alarming just how many young men think a shove or box is calm or normal cos the girl is runnin her mouth.
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its not calm or nomral - espesh a box to the mouth
but a shove/push is she is all in your face chatting shit thats perfectly justified
these women know how to provoike a man - espeically with the wicked mouths
they are afforded a shield of not being able to repond with violence
if a man antagonises you you can respond with word but if neccesary with your fist too
girls know this and continue to antagonise
as soon as you flare up you become the bad person
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So why can you not respond with your own words?
that is within your power
U dont fight words with hands
As someone said u have the option to remove yourself, absolutely no need to make any type of point by gettin physical
If a man attacks me with words i have enough words to use back to cut man with. Its very easy. No excuse for me to get violent, and its too much of a risk, u as a woman will always lose a physical fight unless we start getting weapons out
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Fam, I hear what you’re saying but that’s just a double standard of life you have to accept. Especially as black men, we shouldn’t put ourselves in a position where the law is involved and a scorned woman will have no problem with doing that.
Trust me, I’ve been there. Some of the shit women say and get away with is wrong but that’s just how they're made. They know physically from a young age they can’t go toe to toe with us, so they use words to cut us down.
Is it right? No. But it’s a sacrifice I’m willing to accept being a man. You can’t let your emotions dictate your actions. Resolve it with words or walk away. It’s that simple.
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Has a woman ever come after you when walking away?
I've been in situations where I've raised my backhand but calmed myself down.
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I wish I could have come across this advice before I was 18.
Most people on here know the situation I was involved in but what they know little about is the months that led up to it.
The girl got me birded for something else, I was pissing razor blades for a sec cos she caught an std of someone, there were enough signs tbh but the sex was amazing and it was hard to make that clean break.
Musta tried about 5 or 6 times and it would usually end with my mum ringing me telling me she's outside ringing the doorbell.
A female friend wrote me a long essay on her and why she is no good for me, I kinda read the 1st paragraph and rolled my eyes, wasn't trying to hear any whining, still got the letter 17 years later, read it in full properly when I found it a few months back.
The moment I snapped was when she tried to disrespect my mother, didn't think about it to be able to assess the situation in all honesty and I should have been out of the situation before that moment so it was my fault no question.
I had a lucky escape cos I could have been killed a few times from issues regarding next man she got me in and I could have even did some madness that I would have been lucky to have been getting out now for.
But since we split the madness has stayed in her life, she's been jail, lost custody of her 1st child and lost custody of her new born just over Xmas from what I hear.
I've been with my current over 15 years with no similar incidents or any madness so I know the way I was with her wasn't me.
People can bring out the worst in you, I probably had the worst experience of all though, would make a movie tbh, but if there are any positives I'm glad I went through it young.
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Heero Yuy
That girl was poison.
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TheOneGameBaller
Never trust a big butt and a smile.
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JOHN DOE
sounds like a clear cut case of bipolar disorder
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dayomesaydayo
My take on it.
Anyway for me theres difference between a rowdy broad that receives two hands round her throat for not knowing how or when to shut up and one that gets punched up for messing up daves meat and two veg after hes come home pissed from the pub.
The formers cool,the latters domestic violence.
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Heero Yuy
Expected nothing less.
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QPR Dee
most likely borderline personality disorder
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no justification for shoving or pushing regardless of whats being SAID... KEYWORD BEING "SAID". which means those are words, so why not respond to the words with words if you must be a bitch and go toe to toe with the woman who is wired to talk. if you cant respond without physical violence then the problem is with you.
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TheOneGameBaller
Truer words were never spoken.
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