underwriter Posted January 21, 2015 Report Share Posted January 21, 2015 Ive come across a few girls and a few girls on pof where it says 'do you want to have kids' they select 'does not want kids' now, as a woman how can you not want to have kids? its not even women sometimes, it can be men as well... there definitely must be a screw loose in someonmes head for them to not want to have a 'mini me' running around and seeing them grow up.. pretty weird mentality Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wavant Posted January 21, 2015 Report Share Posted January 21, 2015 No it's not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fresh Posted January 21, 2015 Report Share Posted January 21, 2015 Some people don't live a life conducive of raising children. I'm glad some people recognise that, other go ahead anyway. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yoshie Posted January 21, 2015 Report Share Posted January 21, 2015 Still got ages to decide but I don't know if I want children. Wouldn't think she was strange if she didn't. But it would be a dealbreaker if I did/didn't and she wanted the opposite. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Badman Posted January 21, 2015 Report Share Posted January 21, 2015 its not for everyone might be selfish but its a safe bet that if more people recognise this then there wont be as many kids up for adoption, raised poorly etc Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Davicious X Posted January 21, 2015 Report Share Posted January 21, 2015 I find it quite odd that people aren't naturally maternal/paternal, especially if you take out the social issues Badman mentioned. Cant afford kids is something else. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gattsu Posted January 21, 2015 Report Share Posted January 21, 2015 using pof as some kinda moral compass is asking for touble at certain points in peoples lives they might just not want kids 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TF S4DK Posted January 21, 2015 Report Share Posted January 21, 2015 POF? Really... 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
underwriter Posted January 21, 2015 Author Report Share Posted January 21, 2015 pof = people of friendships Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fighting Weight Posted January 22, 2015 Report Share Posted January 22, 2015 They just say that so you will agree to bareback and then they HAVE YOU. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heero Yuy Posted January 22, 2015 Report Share Posted January 22, 2015 Don't even know if I want kids yet, but i think that's really down to not having met the right woman. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NORA BATTY Posted January 22, 2015 Report Share Posted January 22, 2015 I'm too selfish for kids, I could never put anyone before myself, i like to be free from stress, my last partner begged me but I knew deep down im emotional unstable I have good and bad days it would be fair on the kiddie its also why i cant keep partners i dont like to be tied down get too depressed Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
O Fenomeno Posted January 24, 2015 Report Share Posted January 24, 2015 I am ready now financially I always been ready emotionally and mentally plus physically. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lens Posted January 26, 2015 Report Share Posted January 26, 2015 Yoshie, it would be a dealbreaker for her. If she's serious, You're essentially telling her a relationship with You means a life with no children which she wants, plus You're probably gonna occupy her prime, a problem You wont have if You change Your mind after her clock's ticked then trade in for a girl who can Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yoshie Posted January 26, 2015 Report Share Posted January 26, 2015 Yoshie, it would be a dealbreaker for her. If she's serious, You're essentially telling her a relationship with You means a life with no children which she wants, plus You're probably gonna occupy her prime, a problem You wont have if You change Your mind after her clock's ticked then trade in for a girl who can Those Y caps giving me a headache.But I agree, would have to be with someone that wants the same. No doubt I'll get the missus to pop a couple out, but thinking about it now, the time, the money. Don't have it to give. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brem Posted February 3, 2015 Report Share Posted February 3, 2015 Not having kids is not abnormal. Consign one of the above sentiments. It's about realising whether your life is conducive to having kids and whether you have the capability to be a parent. Some people do it anyway. For example I dont think you should have kids if: You live in a council house You are broke You are not married You are a chav These are just my views. But the cycle of poverty continues from one generation to the next too often in this country. The desire to do you needs to come first before the desire to procreate. When you are ready you will not need government assistance, a nanny who is more of a parent to your child than you or anything else to raise the child Just you and your spouse. Some realise this and wisely opt out. Fair play to them. 1 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
underwriter Posted February 3, 2015 Author Report Share Posted February 3, 2015 so are you saying that living your life and having no kids is acceptable? yes... acceptable? to go throughout your whole life and not to reproduce...? nigga i dont care about highs and lows if nobody reproduced the world would end next year Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brem Posted February 3, 2015 Report Share Posted February 3, 2015 so are you saying that living your life and having no kids is acceptable? yes... acceptable? to go throughout your whole life and not to reproduce...? nigga i dont care about highs and lows if nobody reproduced the world would end next year Yes acceptable. Reproduction is primarily a human instinct to ensure the survival of the species. We have moved past that. We are the dominant force. Don't get me wrong. I want kids myself. But I am also mindful that I won't give them a shit life. Others for various reasons do not heed that and have kids when they are not positioned to be a parent. Being a father and being a dad are two different things, as is being a mum and mother. That distinction should be made. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
underwriter Posted February 3, 2015 Author Report Share Posted February 3, 2015 hm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kerser Posted February 3, 2015 Report Share Posted February 3, 2015 Brem said you have to own a house to have children Nonsense Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fighting Weight Posted February 3, 2015 Report Share Posted February 3, 2015 Not having kids is not abnormal. Why on earth would you want to be normal? Though I do have a kid I like to think I've progressed beyond the basic -feed-mate-compete for resources instincts that drives the rest of the animal kingdom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lens Posted February 4, 2015 Report Share Posted February 4, 2015 Brem said you have to own a house to have children Nonsense no, he said Your house shouldn't be paid for by the government. I'm sure he's OK with rented accommodation, Brem, can You confirm? still negged him for saying You should be married to have kids. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brem Posted February 4, 2015 Report Share Posted February 4, 2015 Brem said you have to own a house to have children Nonsense Please find the quote. I said don't be living in a council house. If you can't sustain yourself unassisted then you shouldn't be having kids that will ultimately rely on the government to sustain them (through the parents). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brem Posted February 4, 2015 Report Share Posted February 4, 2015 Brem said you have to own a house to have children Nonsense no, he said Your house shouldn't be paid for by the government. I'm sure he's OK with rented accommodation, Brem, can You confirm? still negged him for saying You should be married to have kids. Indeed I am fine with PRIVATE renting. Confirmed.My point around marriage is that kids should be brought into a stable foundation. Not to say unmarried parents don't have a solid base but there is nothing ultimately holding someone back from leaving/walking out. Like it or not marriage says two things. 1) you have the intention to commit without reservation. (yes there are exceptions). 2) there is a legal stipulation with consequences in the eyes of the law. Having repercussions subconsciously or consciously makes you work harder at your relationship. To make it work. That ultimately is better for ultimately creating a stable base for children. These are just my views. Besides like it or not there is still a stigma to children out of wedlock. Do you want your kid in some circles to be known as a bustard. It happens. I've seen it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YFSD Posted February 4, 2015 Report Share Posted February 4, 2015 I was born out of wedlock Never been a problem, never once been seriously called a bastard. Can't agree with what you said at all in regards to thaf 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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