never know what is going on behind closed doors. People live double lives in secret or harbour a deep pain they are ashamed to speak about or scared to.
Just a shame that people feel the only answer is suicide. Condolences and I pray his family, his close ones and yourself can recover and learn from it.
Sometimes even when people seem ok it's always good to ask them how they are or remind them if they need someone to speak to that you are there. Giving them the confidence to confined in you could make such a difference.
100% this time of year can be depressing. Most of my fammo decided to go west Indies last minute as in book it the 22nd of dec. Ended up spending xmas/my birthday alone for the first time (had people I could of gone to but wasn't in the mood) . Shit was depressing, ended up just cutting myself away. Tried MDMA for a pick up but the come down was just horrible (I am a positive person so never had a bad come down before). Even tried alcohol new years (I don't drink) that didn't work, ended up talking to old links. So have ended up booking a doctor appointment need to get out of this rut.
100% this time of year can be depressing. Most of my fammo decided to go west Indies last minute as in book it the 22nd of dec. Ended up spending xmas/my birthday alone for the first time (had people I could of gone to but wasn't in the mood) . Shit was depressing, ended up just cutting myself away. Tried MDMA for a pick up but the come down was just horrible (I am a positive person so never had a bad come down before). Even tried alcohol new years (I don't drink) that didn't work, ended up talking to old links. So have ended up booking a doctor appointment need to get out of this rut.
Fuck links. They are temporary and makes matters even worse.
I was listening to a halfcast podcast and this guy was talking about going to a therapist. Helped him alot. Doctors just recommend meds.
Failure to meet critical goals set earlier in the year can be awful as well. Sometimes nice to hear the corny new year new me rhetoric but gotta acknowledge life happens as well.
Why do people find this time of the year depressing?
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mental health is no joke
sorry for your loss
My theory is that some people see it as another year they get older and that year is a sign that the clock ticking for them to go where they want to go and achieve what they want to achieve and many feel that they have failed because they havent achieved what they hoped.
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Regarding this whole mental health suicide thing this is why we need to encourage self love rather than this whole faux,social media materialistic love that we are seeing these days.
We also need to stop looking at other peoples fake lives on social media wanting it to be our own.
As curryman said people live double lives and its not healthy for the brain to have these unrealistic expectations and wants because of people who are most likely themselves living a double life.
Another thing which is important is being able to identify what triggers your mental health if you have it.
Some people its lonliness,others its smoking weed.
Others its stalking peoples fb pages then getting depressed because everyone else is living such a "better" life than you.
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thats deep
RIP
this time of year is rough for men... rarely discussed too
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Heero Yuy
sorry to hear about your Boy Lahi.
may he sleep well and find peace ?
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The Infamous
Nah no one has a clue didn’t leave a letter or anything
waiting on his fam ?
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QPR Dee
sorry to hear that man, hope the fam are OK
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Badman
My Sincere condolences
What was his mental state like if you dont mind me asking?
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easy.pee.zee
Condolences ♥️ X
I think men seem to mask depression well, sadly most people don’t know anything is wrong till it’s too late.
Sending love to you all
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The Infamous
He was airing every one but he was with his missus so it wasn’t weird or anything
he was living his best life a few months earlier
so nothing dodgy imo everyone that knew him is shocked. Been tryna call his sister but I think they are grieving ?
havent slept properly for days ?
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DRC
That's proper sad to hear, condolences brother
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never know what is going on behind closed doors. People live double lives in secret or harbour a deep pain they are ashamed to speak about or scared to.
Just a shame that people feel the only answer is suicide. Condolences and I pray his family, his close ones and yourself can recover and learn from it.
Sometimes even when people seem ok it's always good to ask them how they are or remind them if they need someone to speak to that you are there. Giving them the confidence to confined in you could make such a difference.
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The Somalian
Sorry for your loss Lahi
100% this time of year can be depressing. Most of my fammo decided to go west Indies last minute as in book it the 22nd of dec. Ended up spending xmas/my birthday alone for the first time (had people I could of gone to but wasn't in the mood) . Shit was depressing, ended up just cutting myself away. Tried MDMA for a pick up but the come down was just horrible (I am a positive person so never had a bad come down before). Even tried alcohol new years (I don't drink) that didn't work, ended up talking to old links. So have ended up booking a doctor appointment need to get out of this rut.
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Fuck links. They are temporary and makes matters even worse.
I was listening to a halfcast podcast and this guy was talking about going to a therapist. Helped him alot. Doctors just recommend meds.
Hope you find some help.
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yhfam
Why do people find this time of the year depressing?
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mental health is no joke
sorry for your loss
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Loneliness and financial issues the two main ones I guess
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Realone2016
Failure to meet critical goals set earlier in the year can be awful as well. Sometimes nice to hear the corny new year new me rhetoric but gotta acknowledge life happens as well.
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Mcoka
Its deeper than that
Some people are fighting demons they have had for years
But call on god for the holy spirit and believe his word will guide u to higher heights and set you free
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My theory is that some people see it as another year they get older and that year is a sign that the clock ticking for them to go where they want to go and achieve what they want to achieve and many feel that they have failed because they havent achieved what they hoped.
/
Regarding this whole mental health suicide thing this is why we need to encourage self love rather than this whole faux,social media materialistic love that we are seeing these days.
We also need to stop looking at other peoples fake lives on social media wanting it to be our own.
As curryman said people live double lives and its not healthy for the brain to have these unrealistic expectations and wants because of people who are most likely themselves living a double life.
Another thing which is important is being able to identify what triggers your mental health if you have it.
Some people its lonliness,others its smoking weed.
Others its stalking peoples fb pages then getting depressed because everyone else is living such a "better" life than you.
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